Has a woman ever given you consent?

[Kokoro]

Near horror story from college:

So there was a girl I worked with in college. We got along well and had chemistry but never hung out away form work. One day she mentioned a party she was going to and wanted me to go. I declined, but we agreed to meet up later that night.

So I'm hanging out in my dorm all night and finally get a call from her. She is drunk and wants to come over. I agree, and she comes to my dorm. We start making out and shyt and she starts to take my clothes off.

I told her no, she was drunk and I wasn't. She kept going at it, I told her no multiple times. Finally, I gave in because I'm just a damn human being and when you have a girl trying to fukk you, at some point evolution kicks in.

So now we are naked but she is visibly nervous as I get ready to penetrate. I go inside of her maybe an inch...barely even penetrating, and I see the look on her face and I stop. I tell her that something is wrong and I can't do it. She is drunk and its not right. So I pull out and put my clothes back on. She stayed in my room and we went to sleep.

She wakes up the next morning claiming she had no idea what happened last night. I told her what happened, and she confesses that she is a virgin. She then tells me, "don't worry, I'm not going to press charges"

This was like 11 years ago before the college "rape culture" and informed consent really became something that I thought about. I penetrated her 1 time, literally just the tip, and if it would have been someone else I easily could have been labeled a rapist

Scary as fukk to think back on. I would never get myself into that situation now, but back then I was just a young horny kid that didn't know any better. I had drunken sex all the time.

Youre a smart man

shyt is real out here

Imagine if she came onto a thirsty frustrated virgin like that. Breh wouldve lost his virginity and freedom in one night

 

[Astroslik]

The false premise that some people seem to think all these women they are allegedly sleeping with are willing to cry rape out of spite? anger? rejection? fiscal motives? is laughable and disturbing at the same time....yes, consent is a real thing, it's a false argument and a strawman this idea that 'consent' is a verbalized statement.....

When I was 19, this girl and I were in in the midst of an alcohol fueled affair, which took place almost entirely at her house, as she had considerable assets at her age, and early on in this, we had already been together in most ways, and she was much more sexually aggressive then I was, esp. drunk, though we both were..... her and I drunk in bed, and in the middle, and she suddenly says 'No...Stop', I did, instantly, and asked what was wrong, if she was ok....My memory skips there, but we continued later, I want to say she was just drunk as hell, and was crying about another situation....Without consent, it's rape or close enough to it....That's as close as I ever been to someone withdrawing consent.

 

[ⒶⓁⒾⒶⓈ]

What about me...why dont they ask for my consent...Isnt equality what feminists really want?.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

"Yes, you may fukk me. I want this" ?

Has it ever happened in real life to you?

maybe not before... not the actual words "yes sir, i agree to have sex with you now"


but i damn sure had enough bytches saying "fukk me" when i'm hitting it

 

[Born2BKing]

Keep a sign in book for temporary dikk rental on the reading table next to my bed.
Doesn't matter who you are, you could be my girlfriend of three years, I need you to sign and initial on the dotted line, and right today's date.
My future is too promising to get caught up in a ridiculous rape case, even as unlikely as that would possibly be.
Dealing with these Tumblr girls, they'll probably want to experiment with some BDSM nonsense, I'll have to keep a stack of legally binding forms next to my bed just in case.

 

[Cladyclad]

Now that u say that. I don't know

 

[acri1]

I keep a consent form and pen on my bedstand.

 

[4fossa]

I keep a consent form and pen on my bedstand.

 

[315]

I've never given consent. What does that mean?

 

[Caligula]

Yes consent to have and to hold in sickness and in health till death do us part, friend.


Ya'll are havin
Premarital sex problems
Unwed problems

Maybe it's time to say I do like yes, friends.

Married men can be prosecuted for raping their wives too though.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Married men can be prosecuted for raping their wives too though.

It's unfortunate that a woman would detest laying with her husband so much that he would become upset and rape her friend. It's also unfortunate we have men that don't respect their wives sensibilities and adjust their levels of aggression to fit their wives temperament friend. Lastly friend? It's also sad we have couples that don't obey one another............friend.

Men get married to help project
all that lust out of the demonic realm and into a loving marriage so ideally couples should be there for one another to keep these urges under control. It's in Scripture, friend. Let's pray that we find wives that fit who we are as individuals.

Being a rapist is so demonic, friend

 

[Caligula]

Yeah...

Plenty of bytches have told me they have raped nikkas...literally...like take the dikk from a nikka while he is passed out or stumblin and bumblin around.

I was actually surprised to hear how often this happened too. I understand the stigma women have against reporting rape, but male rape victim report rates are just as low or lower. When a woman says she's been raped, there is at least a conjured idea of what rape is, but for female on male victims there's "no way that could happen, why didn't you fight her off, you enjoyed it" etc.

 

[AlainLocke]

I was actually surprised to hear how often this happened too. I understand the stigma women have against reporting rape, but male rape victim report rates are just as low or lower. When a woman says she's been raped, there is at least a conjured idea of what rape is, but for female on male victims there's "no way that could happen, why didn't you fight her off, you enjoyed it" etc.

They call male rape..."forced to penetrate"

It happens as often as female rape...

Women rape motherfukkers out here in all types of ways...it's not just as violent men raping women...

But I bet there are men out there that had a woman demand sex and locked a man in a room

Or got raped while they were sleeping

Or got verbally abused into fukking.

 

[j.smooth4]

1). STOP fukking with white women. All of these wonderful Pawgs y'all like to chase wouldn't hesitate to throw you UNDER the jail for false rape charges and go about their lives as if it never happened. I could link over a dozen examples of white bytches catching black boys/men up on false tape charges for a variety of different reasons. And ALL of these stories end with the black man's life being essentially ruined.

2). STOP running trains on girls/women of ANY race. I never got the appeal of group sex. I never got the appeal of the "it ain't fun if the homies can't have none" mantra. Any woman who isn't a paid prostitute who would participate in a large number of men continually pounding her out in a fukking line isn't mentally stable. This sub-culture is dangerous, demeaning, and disgusting. Any and all women should feel absolutely useless to society after having been subjected to such sexual deviancy. On top of that, many men like to brag publicly about these types of exploits, further shaming the woman. She'll cry rape to save her reputation and again, it'll be the men's lives who are ruined.


3). Severely limit the number of drunken one night stands you participate in. Look we all know shyt happens and one bight stands are common in our society. Especially amongst college youth. What's essential is that we teach our young black men that all drunken sexual encounters are not equal. There is indeed an impairment of judgement that comes with drinking. Bad out young black males should be taught the "levels" of impairment. If a woman is barely talking/walking and looks minutes from passing out, she can't give consent whatsoever. If a woman is "tipsy" and flirting heavily, it doesn't matter how flirtatious or "down" she seems to be, a question of consent should be asked. Doesn't matter if it makes you look corny or whatever. I'm going to teach my future son that a moment of corniness is worth a lifetime of being a registered sex offender.

This is basically a summary of what to do as a black man if your having normal sex rape isn't really a risk