Has anybody been stuck on their ex?

[Mike809]

and by stuck , i mean that you are having or had a hard time moving on. If so , how long were you still
thinking about that person ? and how did you move on??

Story time: Me and my ex were together for 2 years, and out of those 2 years ...we lived together. So i broke up with my ex in August of 2016 , then i regret that decision and wanted her back but she didnt give me a second chance. So , from August to december of 2017 , i was a total simp ..calling her number and crying and all kinds of shyt. Once 2018 rolled in , i told myself that i aint doing that shyt no more ..im going to focus on people which i have been doing .

I made a lot of progress , where weeks would go by without thinking of her ..i just cut her off completely . Im starting to think that she likes to see me depressed or whatever because she always be initiating contact with me that leads to nowhere and puts me back in the cycle.

She actually hasnt contacted me this year until about 2 weeks ago , when im playing that app game "words with friends" and i guess since we used to play together , i was on her friend list so she sends me a game invite which i deny but that was enough to set me off on some serious thinking . I was having thoughts about if i made the right choice in denying the game request, and what if she actually wanted to start some kind of connection.

I have a POF profile so im searching women , and i see her profile ..for some stupid reason i sent her a message which she responds then i respond to that but she just read it and didnt respond. This is something she used to do often when i was at my worse after the break-up ...initiate a conversation and then leave me talking to myself.

Anyways, i dont know what else to say....i guess this is just a thread to vent. Thanks for reading.

 

[Max.]

Yeah when i was younger

 

[ChiefKenji]

Go to the gems sticky thread. /thread

 

[❤Aԃɾιαɳα Rσȥαყ ❤]

Yes I still lowkey miss my FL and my last ex

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

First things first you need a change of attitude, all that crying and thinking what if again as soon as she messages you. Stop acting like she is God's gift, she just a typical bytch that's using you for an emotional crutch or an adrenaline shot of self esteem whenever she says you scurry over after she makes any contact what so ever. You need to tell yourself you are better than this bytch and she's just one bytch in a world of billions, she ain't special but you just might be, that's the attitude you need to have. Alot more ego is all you need, if your react to what she does with that mindset the rest will fall in place.

 

[El negrito de tejas]

We broke up last summer and think about her periodically. The first month was hard... I went into a depression stopped working out...
Then I realized I couldn't allow a woman that supposedly loved me to get me down like that. Cause if she did love me she wouldn't put me through something like that.

I got back on my workout routine and started fukking like a mad man.

About 6 months later I stopped having those strong feelings for her. Don't get me wrong I still care about her but the love is all gone.

The hardest part is still seeing photos of them and they still looking good.

She posted a photo on her Instagram the other week and I was like"I can't believe I was hitting that..."
Then I snapped back into reality and realized I was still holding on to the past.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

You just need to meet more people. The ex is only memorable if you got nothing better going on. As soon as you find someone new you'll forget bout her.

 

[MikelArteta]

View yourself more highly, love yourself more than any women.

Nothing special about a woman that doesn't want to be with you.

You never have to force someone to take a billion dollars right. Same how someone never should think or ponder if they should be with you.

I got over my ex fast by putting myself first. All the time wasted on women who aren't feeling ypi when there's a woman somewhere praying on her hands and knees for someone like you.

 

[Music Fiend]

I Was stuck once for 3 years.

Until I realized I was so confused and stuck because I was in competition with her.

Easy to do when u get crushed or they do something that makes you question if you ever really knew them.

I think I moved on after learning things weren't going as great for her as I thought. Valuable lesson learned, Ppl are still the same person even after they move on.

 

[Taco]

Been through it OP. Thought this chick was my soul mate and tbh our bond was ridiculous but we just weren’t meant for each other. We both did things that destroyed the relationship to the point of no return. We both couldn’t break up with each other because we were young and dumb. She found someone else towards the end of our relationship and she broke up with me. I hurt for a full year but when I learned that dwelling wasn’t doing shyt for me I kept busy. Got a new job, made a ton of friends, and stopped being consumed by social media, really just kept myself busy. There came a day where someone brought her up and I thought to myself “oh shyt it’s been a min since I thought of her” and I realized without even noticing it that I literally had no feelings toward her. Turns out she wrote a passive aggressive post about how I completely ruined her life (and how she is still hurting) on Facebook (4 years after we broke up) and tbh I felt bad cause I never wanted to be the reason someone was feeling super shytty. At the end of the day there’s nothing I could do to fix what was done in the past and all that is irrelevant to my life now. Moral of the story just keep moving forward and worry about yourself.

 

[GetSomeMoney]

I really don't get this mentality, if you love yourself most, this shouldn't be an issue. I can understand the first month trying to get over something but after that especially if I was young, I couldn't wait to find something better. You should be focused on the reason it didn't work and not the good times.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

 

[The Jewnited States]

Yup I've been there before, few times actually. I think it's because I rarely let anyone truly into my life or my heart, so when I do, I'm all in 100 percent. That's great when things are going well, but when shyt starts to go south, it hurts exponentially more.

Over the years though I've come to realize that the last girl was only the best one until I met the next one. When you get back to putting yourself out there, it's only a matter of time until you meet someone new. When you do, you will realize that the last one wasn't all that special and you can always find someone else. I don't believe in soul mates or love at first sight or anything like that. I think there's thousands or tens of thousands of people out there that you can have a successful relationship with. It's all about finding them and then of course making the sacrifices and putting in the time and effort to make it work.

 

[3rdWorld]

You eventually move on but it can take a lot of time to naturally shed that person..

I thought of my 'ex' for years till we ran into each other and I realised I had been over her. After that, I no longer care nor think of her.

You have to forgive them..hard yes, but it'll help you get over them. If you dont forgive you cant move on because you are harbouring thoughts of retribution and what if etc etc.

 

[bucks3115]

Yes I still lowkey miss my FL and my last ex

Hw long u broke up with ur ex ?