Have you ever cheated or had an affair?

[Fun Sized Psycho]

You said this: "But if you mean having a bf & dating other men, then yes," i.e a form of cheating whether you want to call it that or not.
Then when probed: "That's fine. But what's the point of dating other men when you have a boyfriend unless you just enjoy free things."
You responded with: "Who doesn't enjoy free things?
Despite having a bf, I'll still date other men because I can get free things, which was what I asserted earlier, an assertion you denied.

Having a boyfriend and still seeing other men is indeed cheating; that is, unless you've made arrangements with said boyfriend.

At the bold, when was that said?
I don't cheat to get free things.

I said I get free things just for being me.
I don't have to date another man to get free things.
But it seems likes lot of y'all are insinuating/assuming cheating=sex (if not why was I referred to as a ho?)

It also seems like a lot of y'all like seeing shyt that's not there.

 

[Neuromancer]

At the bold, when was that said?
I don't cheat to get free things.

I said I get free things just for being me.
I don't have to date another man to get free things.
But it seems likes lot of y'all are insinuating/assuming cheating=sex (if not why was I referred to as a ho?)

It also seems like a lot of y'all like seeing shyt that's not there.

Then why do you cheat? I also stated earlier dating others in lieu of monogamy is cheating

 

[Audemar]

At the bold, when was that said?
I don't cheat to get free things.

The words in bold was not said by you but by another poster, hence the use of "probed."

I didn't say anything about cheating meaning sex either. Having a boyfriend and seeing other men is still cheating in my book. Cheating doesn't explicitly mean that you have sex with other men while in a relationship; it can also mean, as another poster said, betraying the trust of one's significant other. Before I make any further inferences/assertions, the question is: why have you cheated and by cheat I don't mean sex, I mean seeing other men while supposedly being in a relationship?

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

Then why do you cheat? I also stated earlier dating others in lieu of monogamy is cheating

Yes, I got that.

In the past I cheated because I came across guys that I liked, that liked me, and asked me out on a date/wanted to hang out, and if I wasn't doing anything we did (hang out/go on a date.

 

[Neuromancer]

Yes, I got that.

In the past I cheated because I came across guys that I liked, that liked me, and asked me out on a date/wanted to hang out, and if I wasn't doing anything we did (hang out/go on a date.

So it was for attention?

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

So it was for attention?

No

 

[Neuromancer]

No

So what was your motivation for cheating? Also did you feel remorse?

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

#1. I don't post stupid shyt
#2. Why do you ASSume I do/get shyt for having sex? I said in my very first post that I've never cheated on a man by having sex.
Unlike y'all men, I treat sex highly. I don't fukk every man because he wants to. I definitely don't have sex to get shyt. If I can get free shyt without having to do anything, good for me.

you just did
blah blah blah. Didn't even call you out for anything, and you're all defensive

I guess short people really are angry all the time for no good reason

 

[Audemar]

In the past I cheated because I came across guys that I liked, that liked me, and asked me out on a date/wanted to hang out, and if I wasn't doing anything we did (hang out/go on a date.

Purely inferential here, but if you supposedly in a committed relationship, all it would take for you to break that commitment is to have another guy you like ask you out?

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

This shyt is why I really only have conversations with a select few women. The average woman's logic and world view is embarrassingly naive.

 

[MoneyBags]

lol, why dudes get so butt hurt about a female cheating, like did y'all get done wrong and this shyt bringing up painful memories or something? some of y'all taking this shyt personal

 

[karim]

No.
I get free things for being me. (Around men/people I don't know)

and she thinks she's not a ho

 

[Audemar]

lol, why dudes get so butt hurt about a female cheating, like did y'all get done wrong and this shyt bringing up painful memories or something? some of y'all taking this shyt personal

To be fair, I don't think it's upset about cheating; it's more at the rationale* used in an attempt to justify or excuse it.

*I use that very loosely because there isn't even any logic involved.

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

and she thinks she's not a ho

being a "ho" means having sex, yes?

 

[karim]

being a "ho" means having sex, yes?

No. Being a ho is a mindset. Entitlement and using your vagina to get free things (irrelevant of whether or not that includes giving access to your vagina) is part of that mindset. "I get free things for being me" is a ho's mindset. You don't get things for being you, you get things because men think that men can buy your vagina. A woman that respects herself buys her own stuff and doesn't accept gifts from strangers. Not valuing committments is also part of a ho's mindset. If you're in a relationship and still let other men ask you out and buy stuff for you, you're a ho. A woman that is not a ho politely declines and makes it clear that she is in a committed relationship and that it would be disrespectful to her man to go out or accept the gift.