Have you ever felt like leaving your job was like a breakup? How did you leave your job?

[ellessij]

Hey guys!

*Big hug to my Coli fam*

I have been really struggling with my decision to quit my job. I received another offer that pays more than the old job, fewer meetings, less stress, less dealing with the BS.

That being said, I used to enjoy my current job a lot. I have a tight-knit team that I work with, and the CEO and I do have a close friendship, which is making it even harder. Things have just gotten more demanding, more hours, less value of me personally, or my time. I don't feel the same way, but I just feel awful to leave. I know our CEO depends on me, and so does my team. I feel like this is a breakup! I wrote the draft to resign but I just can't suck it up to send.

So here are my questions:

Would you add feedback in your resignation email, or just leave on good terms?

Have you ever felt loyalty/stability/seniority at a job and struggled to leave? If so, how did you get the courage to do so and what would you suggest I do to ensure a smooth transition?

If you felt so badly about leaving, would you reconsider and at least try consulting? Or make a clean break?

I am struggling so much with this, and would appreciate any suggestion or stories on how ya'll made a big career move! Thanks!

 

[Silkk]

Ain’t no loyalty in the job game. Keep it moving.

 

[Doobie Doo]

I usually get laid off.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

It’s funny because this one woman I’m talking to was saying the same about her job; trying to leave is like going thru a relationship break up.

I’ve never worked in an organization where I’ve had problems leaving. Or where I had to be formal. In fact, most of my jobs in college, when I was really finished with them, I just skipped out on.

 

[Quiet Magician]

Would you add feedback in your resignation email, or just leave on good terms?

A: No. Just let them know you are moving on to better things. The less information, the better.

Have you ever felt loyalty/stability/seniority at a job and struggled to leave? If so, how did you get the courage to do so and what would you suggest I do to ensure a smooth transition?

A: The courage you ask about is all about the mindset of progression. Progression requires sacrifice and stagnating no matter how well you do the job or how good your relationships is a poison that will rot your future. Think of the future and make the jump. It might look scary but remember how you felt when you got the current gig you have now and after a while you got accustomed to it. Same thing applies here.

If you felt so badly about leaving, would you reconsider and at least try consulting? Or make a clean break?

A: Hell no. Clean break with a two week notice. Keep it brief and don't add in too much information as I said before. You don't want them trying to question why you are leaving and guilt tripping you to staying. Never take the counter offer because you are on a timer before they fire you. Protect yourself at all costs but be professional.

I am struggling so much with this, and would appreciate any suggestion or stories on how ya'll made a big career move! Thanks!

A: The new job is everything you want and then some. Take it. You can form new relationships with the people at the new job. It is not like you are cutting these people off forever, you can add them on facebook if the friendship means that much. As long as you don't burn any bridges and can contact them without any issue, you are good.

 

[ellessij]

@Quiet Magician Thanks so much for this thorough, well thought out answer! It really helped me. I had a talk with our C.O.O and let him know my intentions. He refuses to let me go, and say he's willing to negotiate with the CEO & I. At this point, I just want to be on my way and make more money, but there's a small part of me that wants to throw my terms on the table and see if they're met. I think you're 100% right though, it's just doing that is harder than it seems. YOU ARE RIGHT. AHHHHHHHHH. Dammit

UGHHH this is exactly like a damn breakup!

 

[Jay Kast]

Just put my two weeks in today

Yes, it is like a break up. Between you and multiple people all at once but hey at some point you gotta look out for you.

Hope things go well for you!

 

[Blankthawtz]

 

[ellessij]

Just put my two weeks in today

Yes, it is like a break up. Between you and multiple people all at once but hey at some point you gotta look out for you.

Hope things go well for you!

What made you decide to move on? How long have you been there?

Were you nervous? What was the reaction?

 

[NBA Youngbreh]

I remember when I quit my HR job at UPS. Didn’t even have shyt lined up. Just told my boss I had my 2 weeks notice. She told me I could go on an dip

 

[Jay Kast]

Better opportunity with a company that values its employees much more. Been here for almost seven years . I wasnt nervous, honestly - I know that once I get in front of someone for an interview, it's a wrap. I can talk the panties off a nun lol. I was more so apprehensive about telling my current job and in less than three hours the whole shop knows .

Got a few people congratulating and a few hidin', hatin' . I tend to be loyal to a fault so the whole process felt like I was cheating on my job lol but it really is business and you have to do what's best for you because no one else will on this side of society.

Keep the thread updated on what happens, I'll do the same. I think we'll be good

 

[Coco Loco]

Ain’t no loyalty in the job game. Keep it moving.

This!

OP your loyalties should lie with your money, goals and mental health. If a job starts messing with any of those, you need to leave. Don't get me wrong I've had jobs that started off really good but you have to know when it turned and when to leave. You have to do what's right for you. You can still maintain the relationships you've established but at another company.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

I jus leave no words no byes
No 2 week notice

I done threw my hard hat cross the plant plenty of times when they got me fukked up.
I don’t have a real career so I can afford this type of real nikka fukkery

 

[Marc Spector]

I left a job in 2016 that essentially was my college experience. Many friends I'm cool with to this day I met there. And it was the first job I had where I had worked my way up to a very respectable (and cushy) position .

However I at the time thought I was ready to take a more challenging and high paying position and the upper mgmt tier positions were fiercely competed over and boiled down to who could suck the most district manager dikk.

I got impatient because I felt was more qualified than most of my mgrs above me so I left to go another job (which turned out to be hell on earth).

At the time it felt like a tough breakup because the old job had a family like atmosphere because so many ppl from my hometown worked there and built personal relationships there.

And i was there almost a decade so I had made plans to build my career there and bought in to the company kool aid. It still kinda stingss when I think of the time and energy I put into the job.

With that said, things are better now than they've ever been and ultimately it worked out for the best leaving. My new career has so many more perks and career opportunities.

 

[ellessij]

I remember when I quit my HR job at UPS. Didn’t even have shyt lined up. Just told my boss I had my 2 weeks notice. She told me I could go on an dip

How did things end up? Did you find something else? Ugh, I am waaaayyyyyy too Type A to just leave and not know what's going to happen next. Kudos to you.