Have you ever felt like leaving your job was like a breakup? How did you leave your job?

[Kwabena]

I usually get laid off.

That’s why you have so much free time

 

[NBA Youngbreh]

How did things end up? Did you find something else? Ugh, I am waaaayyyyyy too Type A to just leave and not know what's going to happen next. Kudos to you.

I’m otw to becoming a coli 6 cert 6 figure nikka

 

[Paper Boi]

i would not leave feedback unless they ask you for it personally, leave on good terms. if you really liked the job at some point though and feel like you'd be letting them down then you should let them know you have another opportunity that offers more money and give them a chance to give you some kind of counter offer before officially resigning.

 

[ellessij]

This!

OP your loyalties should lie with your money, goals and mental health. If a job starts messing with any of those, you need to leave. Don't get em wrong I've had jobs that started off really good but you have to know when it turned and when to leave. You have to do what's right for you. You can still maintain the relationships you've established but at another company.

You're so right.

Got a few people congratulating and a few hidin', hatin' . I tend to be loyal to a fault so the whole process felt like I was cheating on my job lol but it really is business and you have to do what's best for you because no one else will on this side of society.

Keep the thread updated on what happens, I'll do the same. I think we'll be good

OMG! You're so right, it feels like cheating! The worst part is, I am close with our CEO, so it's also a bit personal, and I've seen how she dealt with people resigning before. I don't know if it's the courage I'm lacking, or if I'm apprehensive about making a move. I am going to talk to her tomorrow, I set the meeting, I will update you! Thank you so much for your advice!

 

[Worthless Loser]

You shouldn't let work friendship and work comfort overcome your personal happiness and personal work preferences. It's about you at the end of the day. Not them.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Just like leaving a woman, a job will have your replacement ready to work within a week

 

[⠀X ⠀]

When I left, I put in 2 weeks notice. I started to just dip, but I didn't wanna leave on a bad note or burn bridges.

It was kinda hard, as I had been there for 10 years and was cool with quite a few of the people there.

Don't leave any feedback. They'll just use it against you if you ever wanna go back or need a reference

 

[Vandelay]

My last job, my last boss was trying her hardest to fire me. Told her with a straight face and no emotion, I'm out.

Got fired from one.

Quit another because the culture was toxic.

About to quit another because the culture is toxic.

I never have a hard time leaving when the company culture is bad. A little hard stepping away from some people that I like to work with, but pulling the trigger comes easy once I have my mind made up.

Ultimately I know I need to be working for myself because I almost always find a reason to hate my job after awhile.

 

[ellessij]

Better opportunity with a company that values its employees much more. Been here for almost seven years . I wasnt nervous, honestly - I know that once I get in front of someone for an interview, it's a wrap. I can talk the panties off a nun lol. I was more so apprehensive about telling my current job and in less than three hours the whole shop knows .

Got a few people congratulating and a few hidin', hatin' . I tend to be loyal to a fault so the whole process felt like I was cheating on my job lol but it really is business and you have to do what's best for you because no one else will on this side of society.

Keep the thread updated on what happens, I'll do the same. I think we'll be good

I STAYEDDD! Har Har! I had a talk with our CEO, she gave me zero pushback on literally every single point I brought up, basically said, "Whatever will make you happy again, do it." I am going to try with her, I feel like our COO told her I planned to leave and she basically just gave me whatever I wanted, and after she caved, I didn't feel like I could just leave. So, I'm giving it one more month, seeing if things improve on my terms. I kept part-time hours at the place that pays more. SIGH!

 

[OneManGang]

Would you add feedback in your resignation email, or just leave on good terms?

A: No. Just let them know you are moving on to better things. The less information, the better.

Have you ever felt loyalty/stability/seniority at a job and struggled to leave? If so, how did you get the courage to do so and what would you suggest I do to ensure a smooth transition?

A: The courage you ask about is all about the mindset of progression. Progression requires sacrifice and stagnating no matter how well you do the job or how good your relationships is a poison that will rot your future. Think of the future and make the jump. It might look scary but remember how you felt when you got the current gig you have now and after a while you got accustomed to it. Same thing applies here.

If you felt so badly about leaving, would you reconsider and at least try consulting? Or make a clean break?

A: Hell no. Clean break with a two week notice. Keep it brief and don't add in too much information as I said before. You don't want them trying to question why you are leaving and guilt tripping you to staying. Never take the counter offer because you are on a timer before they fire you. Protect yourself at all costs but be professional.

I am struggling so much with this, and would appreciate any suggestion or stories on how ya'll made a big career move! Thanks!

A: The new job is everything you want and then some. Take it. You can form new relationships with the people at the new job. It is not like you are cutting these people off forever, you can add them on facebook if the friendship means that much. As long as you don't burn any bridges and can contact them without any issue, you are good.

Got rep for you once it comes back. Great post and advice

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Hey guys!

*Big hug to my Coli fam*

I have been really struggling with my decision to quit my job. I received another offer that pays more than the old job, fewer meetings, less stress, less dealing with the BS.

That being said, I used to enjoy my current job a lot. I have a tight-knit team that I work with, and the CEO and I do have a close friendship, which is making it even harder. Things have just gotten more demanding, more hours, less value of me personally, or my time. I don't feel the same way, but I just feel awful to leave. I know our CEO depends on me, and so does my team. I feel like this is a breakup! I wrote the draft to resign but I just can't suck it up to send.

So here are my questions:

Would you add feedback in your resignation email, or just leave on good terms?

Have you ever felt loyalty/stability/seniority at a job and struggled to leave? If so, how did you get the courage to do so and what would you suggest I do to ensure a smooth transition?

If you felt so badly about leaving, would you reconsider and at least try consulting? Or make a clean break?

I am struggling so much with this, and would appreciate any suggestion or stories on how ya'll made a big career move! Thanks!

Where you been at?

 

[Gold]

Ain’t no loyalty in the job game. Keep it moving.

/thread

 

[chineebai]

No never. You are replaceable so fukk any guilt or whatever feelings associated with a job.

 

[SunZoo]

Literally

But I was probably going to get fired for threatening my manager anyway so I had some fun with it.

 

[BrehWyatt]

Leave them before they get you. Be brief, cordial and non-critical during the exit, regardless of how it comes about. If it's a two-week notice, that's when you do what you need to do to make the transition smooth. Otherwise? You already paid what you owe, and given that you don't feel as valued anymore, you've clearly paid with interest. Reclaim yourself.

I drafted a resignation letter from my previous job about 3-4 months before I got pulled into the office to be told they wanted to go in a different direction.

Once I was assured that I'd be paid my unused vacation time, I couldn't get out fast enough. I said "Thanks for the opportunity" and immediately bounced. Looking back on it I wish I had handed them the letter just to do it on my terms, but I knew that I had stayed too long with how I was about being told to skedaddle.

As someone who struggles with loyalty and having too much of it, I had to understand that one, a job is just that, a job. No matter how much you love it, whether it's your dream ... it's just a job. You can NEVER overvalue it as more than that. As for the people ... if they're your friends, you no longer working there won't change that. In fact, they'd support you leaving if it was for the best.