Stagnant waters are bad. If a friendship becomes stagnant then it’s time to move on
Have You Ever Just Stopped Being Freinds With Someone? ... For No Particular Reason (or dumb reason), You Just Stopped Being Their Friend?
- Thread starter Marco Zen
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Patrick Kane
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Another running theme I notice every time these threads about friends come up. A lot of Coli bruhs don’t have friends 
or seem to value friendship or bonds.
I know this is an issue a lot of men struggle with and why men are often lonely but I do feel like this is another reason why men often kill themselves in their 50-60s. Outside of their wife and kids (if they’re lucky to still have them) they have no one they connect with, talk to or do shyt with.
or seem to value friendship or bonds.I know this is an issue a lot of men struggle with and why men are often lonely but I do feel like this is another reason why men often kill themselves in their 50-60s. Outside of their wife and kids (if they’re lucky to still have them) they have no one they connect with, talk to or do shyt with.
NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
This is me
I have periods where I go off the radar
But when we talk we continue where we left off
Goes for girls I date as well
I wouldn't say stopped being friends with, but I've had plenty of times where I just realized I didn't care whether or not I saw or spoke to them. But if they hit me up or I run into them, we're fine.
The good kind is when you can catch up and it's like nothing has changed, in the sense, there's still a bond, not that your lives haven't changed.
Friendships/relationships take work, and maintenance, and some maintain better than others, I don't always reach out, but I always reach back, and I accept every invite, because people do move in different directions, so if my homies invite me to their kids party, that's one of the only common points we can connect. So I go.
Friendships also ebb and flow, and get new life all the time. I do have two friends that I grew up on the same street with, and we never fell out or fell off, just drifted and drifted, for awhile, I thought it was me. Like I wasn't good enough. And I was resentful. And I slowly realized, it was just who they were. They didn't value that relationship the way I did. But, I still can hit them up for a quick text, but again, it should be mutual, not even, but mutual.
also, a note that, there are friendships that just aren't maintained via digital or phone communication, but IF you were to see each other, you would be hugging and laughing, and that's part of it all too. That's how I feel about my two homies.
Friendships/relationships take work, and maintenance, and some maintain better than others, I don't always reach out, but I always reach back, and I accept every invite, because people do move in different directions, so if my homies invite me to their kids party, that's one of the only common points we can connect. So I go.
Friendships also ebb and flow, and get new life all the time. I do have two friends that I grew up on the same street with, and we never fell out or fell off, just drifted and drifted, for awhile, I thought it was me. Like I wasn't good enough. And I was resentful. And I slowly realized, it was just who they were. They didn't value that relationship the way I did. But, I still can hit them up for a quick text, but again, it should be mutual, not even, but mutual.
also, a note that, there are friendships that just aren't maintained via digital or phone communication, but IF you were to see each other, you would be hugging and laughing, and that's part of it all too. That's how I feel about my two homies.
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Makavalli
Sinister is a system
People just drift apart as we get older and thats ok. Most friends i tap in and check up and some do the same but the ones on social media sloppy posting about drama i avoid them because thats a trait this new generation move on and us flabby old heads know not all info is meant for the public.
The main thing is whatever home life you build can conflict with those friendships. I got a family so the single homies getting drunk or high late nights on a tuesday i cant do all the time and they feel a type of way instead of just respecting that i got priorities at home that come before them. Same way how i know peoples dirt and they dont want me around looking at them funny when they trying to pretend to be something they not
The main thing is whatever home life you build can conflict with those friendships. I got a family so the single homies getting drunk or high late nights on a tuesday i cant do all the time and they feel a type of way instead of just respecting that i got priorities at home that come before them. Same way how i know peoples dirt and they dont want me around looking at them funny when they trying to pretend to be something they not
i dont think ive stopped being friends with somebody on a humbug...some its just you lose contact and sometimes they circle back type of deal
People grow apart naturally. Especially with health issues, depression, closet envy or just being stuck.
Some of my friends don't have any responsibilities so how can they really relate to me and mine?
One of my close childhood friends lost both his parents and then got divorced from his wife( they have 3 kids and there were rumors of her and a personal trainer) and he just closed off and shut down the friendship with me as well. Again I wished him happy birthday and he apologized for being "distant" but I told him no need to I understand just holla whenever. I can't relate to or feel his pain.
Another of my friends is on dialysis and goes in multiple days a week.
Everyone is going through things, especially as we age. If I'm happy with a beautiful family and moving around, I can't expect them to be happy for me or want to hang out. I understand.
Some of my friends don't have any responsibilities so how can they really relate to me and mine?
One of my close childhood friends lost both his parents and then got divorced from his wife( they have 3 kids and there were rumors of her and a personal trainer) and he just closed off and shut down the friendship with me as well. Again I wished him happy birthday and he apologized for being "distant" but I told him no need to I understand just holla whenever. I can't relate to or feel his pain.
Another of my friends is on dialysis and goes in multiple days a week.
Everyone is going through things, especially as we age. If I'm happy with a beautiful family and moving around, I can't expect them to be happy for me or want to hang out. I understand.