have you ever played capt. save a chick, or hoe?? advice.

[Smoke]

I almost did once...If this thread is still poppin when I get off I'll drop the story.

 

[KOOL-AID]

I smell the birth of a simp

 

[Kenny West]

as long as your find with the idea of building up that woman for the next man

I wouldn't mess with it cause it seems like lots of chicks stuck on self sabotage and don't really want (or need) you to save them from themselves.

I became better with women once I understood that sometimes when they come to you moping about something the just want counsel, not necessarily help.

 

[Blackking]

Sounds like a girl that deserves more than just being a side-chick breh. In fact, realizing she's a side-chick may just deepen her self-esteem issues, so really if you wanna help her then I suggest you just be an actual friend. Don't drop your current girl for her, that'll be a blunder. But maybe if you become an actual friend to her she'll realize there's more to men than just the fukkery.
And that's a big maybe, but she sounds like she's worth the effort.

well my current girl is better (only because she's not lost and has esteem)... but this chick has a great smile and extra friendliness that is priceless. thats y i noticed her.

my intent isn't to make her a sidepiece... but i wanted to maybe friend her up.. maybe w some benefits.
i want to take her to chicago with me as a friend.. and even do some other shyt. Are you saying if I fukk , then we couldn't be just friends?
"I was like what are you doing for lunch, she was like I cooked , look blah blah... I can bring you some next time"
In my head I'm like shiiiiiiiiiiiittttttttt- 'damn i wish american women were interested in pologamy'

 

[CinnaSlim]

Yea, the unfortunate thing is, after my feelings for her were disregarded, I haven't been able to feel the same about any woman in the aftermath.
It is a case-by-case thing, but I would advise any man who feels for a woman that doesn't feel the same to abandon ship. He will guaranteed put in
more than he will get back. Altruism is fine, but when we we tend to forsake our responsibilities to comfort a woman, so in the end,
we sacrifice money, time, wellbeing, and opportunities because we can't see beyond a woman's misfortune.

Will never stick my neck out for another woman again. If I wouldn't do it for another man, no woman gets that treatment either.

I learned the hard way too.

You can still help people. You just have to make sure to watch and see how much that person reciprocates. When you see yourself giving 100% and that person giving >10% its time to roll out. You have to realize what you deserve and don't let people take advantage.

It's sad when good people's hearts turn cold.

 

[At30wecashout]

as long as your fine with the idea of building up that woman for the next man

Stabs me right in the feels. The things I taught that girl that another man inevitably benefited from. Ether in the atmosphere.

 

[Blackking]

building up that woman for the next man
.

this is what i wanna do.

i think i can handle it.

 

[Kenny West]

this is what i wanna do.

i think i can handle it.

Then do it.

 

[At30wecashout]

I learned the hard way too.

You can still help people. You just have to make sure to watch and see how much that person reciprocates. When you see yourself giving 100% and that person giving >10% its time to roll out. You have to realize what you deserve and don't let people take advantage.

It's sad when good people's hearts turn cold.

Yea, my heart been AWOL for over 3 years now. I miss that feeling of being crazy over a woman. I simply don't feel that excitement anymore, even when all
the boxes for a good match are checked. I have sabotaged some potentials knowingly and unknowingly as a result.

There is a teacher that comes by my job who JUST moved into the neighborhood and she showed immediate interest. She is probably 5'10(love taller women) and
obviously about her shyt if she is a single woman in Chicago buying her own place. However, every time she flirts, compliments, etc, I deflect.
And I KNOW I am doing it. I had a moment she walked by my shop and we spoke for a sec. I have the front door open to turn off lights and pull a sign
and she asks "Need help with that?" even though the door is already propped. I said "Nah, I got it." and she smiled and said "Show-off." then said goodbye.
I couldn't believe I did that. She threw me a layup and I called a time-out to sit on the bench.

It is why the breh @Blackking I implore you not to get too close to this lady. In her despair you may see traits of hers you admire that cause you to emotionally invest,
even if it isn't romantically. Her saga can potentially tie you up and it will go from you helping her to you doing everything in your power for her. Hopefully
that isn't the case and you can just get her on her feet, but even the most damaged girls will show flashes of beauty that can fukk with your better judgment.

 

[John Mayer]

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Do you have any stories or methods of saving a chick??

Either upgrading a broke chick .
Or educating or making an ignorant chick culturally aware... fixing her mind.
Or wifing up a hoe and showing her how love is supposed to be and how guys should treat her and why she can value herself?

Advice on some methods?

You don't upgrade a broke chick (I'm assuming you mean financially). That's how you end up in a trick/hoe relationship. You upgrade her mind and lead her in the right direction and watch how she starts to even stare at you differently.

And if you knowingly wife up a hoe then you deserve that L

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Goes back to the one girl I fell for strongly in my lifetime.
She had a breakup with her boyfriend of two years, who was also my dawg (she didn't know, but he dropped her because she was boring and indecisive)
Days of crying and shyt, sitting around depressed between school sessions. I was driving to her house, driving her over to my house, bought groceries,
made her meals, let her cry on my shoulder, a whole buncha bullshyt.

Some years later, every time she had the chance, she still picked another man. I was trying to be her rock for the longest, and I was never an option.
Don't do it. A woman in distress needs a firm punch in the arm and words of encouragement, then leave it at that. Whether she is grieving over
something small or feeling down, a woman who doesn't already love you will never reciprocate like another man would. You have your pahtnas back,
he signs on for when your shyt flops. Women aren't quite that merciful when the shyt crumbles.

It is like the man that soothes his woman when she ails, but when he cries for the first time in front of her and her respect plummets.

Disclaimer: Before I get hit with the misogynist shyt, it isn't all women, but it is a trait that we never know a woman has until our shyt collapses before our
eyes.

Ole Clark Kent ass nikka

 

[At30wecashout]

Ole Clark Kent ass nikka

Bruh, I was bad. I didn't know any better. Had no father to tell me that shyt was a bad idea. Had to learn on my own cause my homies were chumps
who either couldn't get girls or stayed in their lanes and got lucky.

To think I dropped some bad chicks to for a girl I didn't have any romantic interactions with yet, even though she always knew
how I felt.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Bruh, I was bad. I didn't know any better. Had no father to tell me that shyt was a bad idea. Had to learn on my own cause my homies were chumps
who either couldn't get girls or stayed in their lanes and got lucky.

To think I dropped some bad chicks to for a girl I didn't have any romantic interactions with yet, even though she always knew
how I felt.

At least tell me you haven't done that shyt again and you learned your lesson

 

[CinnaSlim]

Yea, my heart been AWOL for over 3 years now. I miss that feeling of being crazy over a woman. I simply don't feel that excitement anymore, even when all
the boxes for a good match are checked. I have sabotaged some potentials knowingly and unknowingly as a result.

There is a teacher that comes by my job who JUST moved into the neighborhood and she showed immediate interest. She is probably 5'10(love taller women) and
obviously about her shyt if she is a single woman in Chicago buying her own place. However, every time she flirts, compliments, etc, I deflect.
And I KNOW I am doing it. I had a moment she walked by my shop and we spoke for a sec. I have the front door open to turn off lights and pull a sign
and she asks "Need help with that?" even though the door is already propped. I said "Nah, I got it." and she smiled and said "Show-off." then said goodbye.
I couldn't believe I did that. She threw me a layup and I called a time-out to sit on the bench.

It is why the breh @Blackking I implore you not to get too close to this lady. In her despair you may see traits of hers you admire that cause you to emotionally invest,
even if it isn't romantically. Her saga can potentially tie you up and it will go from you helping her to you doing everything in your power for her. Hopefully
that isn't the case and you can just get her on her feet, but even the most damaged girls will show flashes of beauty that can fukk with your better judgment.

I might flirt (playfully, or just me being nice) but I pretty much stopped looking for relationships. It's so hard for me to really be vunerable. I'm always looking at people like waiting for them to turn heel.