Have You Ever REFUSED The Friendzone?

[old_timer]

i think women are in a difficult spot
have to refuse guys sometimes, and try to stay civil about it
personally anything less than a fairly eager "yes"
i consider to be a "no"- and i have heard my share of 'no's"
two strange ones..??

i appproached this woman in a dept store
talked to her a few- asked her out
then she launched off on this protracted 30+ second explanation
i had to cut her off- like "hey, forget i even asked"
i still don't know if she was saying yes or no
but i figure a "yes" would have been briefer
so it was probably going to be a no

i asked out a co-worker once
she worked a different floor but i had seen her walking around
talked to her in the elevator twice
once talked to her a couple minutes in the garage
so i asked her out-
she went off into a real long answer about not dating coworkers
then how it is better to be friends, and it's great to be friends, etc
finally cut her off after 60 seconds-
"i don't even know your name- we work on different floors-
seriously, how we gonna be friends??"
she thought i was trying to argue my way to a date or something
but i was like "i don't date cowkers" would have sufficed
maybe she just wanted to pour buckets of ether on me

other than that?? most no's have been fine/civil
my only advice to brehettes-
if a dude asks you out straight/direct
give him a yes or a no in under 20 secs
it's just a drink/date- we not trying to negotiate a peace treaty

 

[GoPro]

No friend, zone... No friend, zone... I knooooow betta. I knooooow betta!

 

[winb83]

I've never understood the idea of the "friend zone." If you want to date the chick, then why even allow that?

The only way the "friend zone" happens if you hang around her and lollygag like you want to be her best friend. Dudes do that to themselves.

Dudes are so thirsty that they put themselves through weeks, months and years of frustration hanging around a chick acting like their "play brother" because they don't have the courage to let his true intentions be known. And dudes are afraid of losing her attention if it doesn't turn out well.

But if she's not interested in you as more than a friend, then why even give her attention if that's not what you want?

Peace

Some people delude themselves into thinking just because a woman is dealing with them that she's interested or that they have a chance to get her. To maintain the delusion even after it actually comes crashing down they invent this place in their imagination called "the friendzone" because if they didn't the alternative would be to admit they got rejected and it's over.

The truth is she took one look at the guy and placed him in a category (interested or not interested). Once that was decided she observes him and if he knows what he's doing there really isn't anything he can do to change that outcome. The only way it changes is if he doesn't know what he's doing and it will change to a downgrade from interested to not interested.

Making your intentions known early on won't ever get you downgraded. It will really just force her to reveal your status.

There's no strategical advantage to approaching women on a friendship tip. In fact its more likely to get one downgraded from interested to not interested.

 

[Smokin Rider]

Yes this happened and I didn't even like the broad. In middle school Me and 2 of my friends were with 3 girls and we were goin back to the homies crib to smash but I was the odd man out cause i didnt have a girl at the time and neither did one of the other girls and so we were walkin and one of my homies said "rider you should hook up with Valentina" my immediate reaction was but this bytch already started talkin, sayin "me and rider are such good friend I don't wanna mess that up" and I said "bytch we ain't never talk and we ain't never been friends" I was heated this ugly bytch had the audacity to try and play me infront of everyone. bytch was ugly I didn't wanna hit anyway.

 

[Cwilk02]

This girl I been talking to/ casual dating with try to hit me with the friendzone BS today brehs.

Lately she has been acting weird with the texting so I asked her what's up?
She said that she was "still hung up on someone" had me like I understand. Right from the jump I told her we can't be friends.
She was like "we can't?" I hit her with the line one of my coli brehs mentioned earlier. "I already have plenty of friends don't really need more"

She was like "I understand.." Your boi was like when I sent that text message to her. So I pretty much came on top on that situation so I can always bounce back to her if I ever wanted to but probably won't because hunting season has just begun brehs

 

[Grizz]

The best thing that happens when you decide to shut it down, or move out of it is when she notices that you're doing better and acting all

 

[Sane]

told the story a couple of times on here already. This one chick tried to play me. We had a thing then she tried to get back with her ex and put me in the friendzone. I completely Shut down communication when i found out. Then she kept contacting me, even though i never replied. I moved to another City in the meantime and she still kept hitting me up, talking about how she wanted to come visit me. After some time she got on my nerves, so I agreed to meet with her next time she visited my City. we agreed on a time and a place and i just never showed up. haven't heard from her ever since

Ice Cold

 

[Knicksman20]

@ nikkas thinking they have any control within the zone

If anything, aggression takes you from the friend zone to the nikka-fall-back-ur-a-goof zone

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

Happened once in school.

Me and dis chick were really close mah sophomore year of college. Braud was throwin out way too many mixed signals so I confronted her bout da shyt and she tried dat "I don't want to ruin what we have" routine. She was too fine and I wasn't bout to lowkey torture mahself being around da bish so I just said coo n completely stopped all communication. I'd see her on campus or at parties from time to time but i'd either ignore her or keep shyt extremely cold & short. I can tell she was hurt but so was I. fukk it.

A monf or so later at a faculty gallery show on campus I was standin waitin in line and felt somebody grab mah hand. Ol girl pulled me outside and started yellin at me & cryin n shyt. Talmbout why was I treatin her dis way n how she didnt do anything wrong, etc. I just stood dere lookin at her like

Told her she was embarrassin herself & me and if we gon talk we need to be somewhere private. We went back to her dorm and talked. I ended up beatin dat p*ssy up like it was mah last day on Earf. Had dem sheets soakin.

We dated for like a year and some change n then she graduated. Still talk to her err once in a while too.


Dat friend zone shyt is for da birds tho, breh.

 

[MikelArteta]

But but we can be friends

Ask her if you can come over and watch a movie

Ask her if you can borrow some money

Tell her about your hard day at work.

Ask her if you guys can hang out

 

[Beerus]

Hell yeah, I refuse that

Nuff girls get offended, I remember I got one girls number of insta time ago and she was like "so you dont wanna talk to me unless were love interests" I was like, duhhhhh yea ahahah.

I just tell it how it is

sometimes you get caught up in that "will it happen, will it not" web, where chicks friendzone you onna leash. But you gotta be a man and delete/block the bytch

Word the fukk up.
If I'm attracted to the bytch and in my head I want to ask her out and make her mine I'll make her aware of my intentions lowkey earlier on and just start upping the ante
The minute she tries to put me in the friend zone I her fukking ass.
fukk outta here with that shyt.
I got friends that are girls, but the difference is I never tried to get at em on some sexual or relationship shyt. Plus I only interact with them when I see them at work or school or if its a group social activity. I never text em like I would an interest or even call em.

 

[MikelArteta]

Word the fukk up.
If I'm attracted to the bytch and in my head I want to ask her out and make her mine I'll make her aware of my intentions lowkey earlier on and just start upping the ante
The minute she tries to put me in the friend zone I her fukking ass.
fukk outta here with that shyt.
I got friends that are girls, but the difference is I never tried to get at em on some sexual or relationship shyt. Plus I only interact with them when I see them at work or school or if its a group social activity. I never text em like I would an interest or even call em.

just really acquaintances man

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

has a chick ever tried to friendzone you and you shut that down immediately on some

'I don't wanna be your friend'

or

'nah, I got enough friends'

if so what was her reaction?

Yeah, said I was good and best we not talk any further. I am not going to be up late with talking while knowing another dude(s) blowing your back out.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I hit up a chick that tried to friendzone me from tagged recently. I wrote got new pics. She replied quick yeah. I asked do you remember who I am? She replies yes. I finish with nice speaking to you. She says ok.

 

[Quiet Magician]

I hit up a chick that tried to friendzone me from tagged recently. I wrote got new pics. She replied quick yeah. I asked do you remember who I am? She replies yes. I finish with nice speaking to you. She says ok.

And then what?