Ms.CuriousCat
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The guys actually gave some good advice 
He doesn't want to commit
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CashmereThoughts
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Be straight up. Tell him you want something official and if he doesn't want that then you should go your seperate ways.
If he choses the later than he deaded it for you. Move on. Don't play yourself with a dude who's not going to give you what you want. Don't act off feelings, you gotta act off logic to protect your feelings
CashmereThoughts
Veteran
Be straight up. Tell him you want something official and if he doesn't want that then you should go your seperate ways.
If he choses the later than he deaded it for you. Move on. Don't play yourself with a dude who's not going to give you what you want. Don't act off feelings, you gotta act off logic to protect your feelings
I always find it funny that some of the first threads by women I see on here are seeking relationship advice.
That being said he could be 100% genuine about the whole thing. Some guys don't want to even try at that shyt til they live up to a certain standard they've set for themselves. Or, as said, he could be playing you.
I've been both those guys. Women think too much though when 90% of the time half the shyt y'all worry about dudes don't even think about all that deeply til you ask.
That being said he could be 100% genuine about the whole thing. Some guys don't want to even try at that shyt til they live up to a certain standard they've set for themselves. Or, as said, he could be playing you.
I've been both those guys. Women think too much though when 90% of the time half the shyt y'all worry about dudes don't even think about all that deeply til you ask.
Desirous
Action expresses priorities
Do you want him in your life more than you want to be in a committed relationship? Comes down to that. If you want to be in a committed relationship and dude's not giving that to you, then you need to move on to someone who can. If you can just be happy with the current situation, then stick it out. People do change their priorities...he may or may not, so that's a risk you'd be taking, but if you stay then you can't expect it.
Ethnic Vagina Finder
The Great Paper Chaser
So basically all you have to do is edit the thread title.
I'll help you
"He doesn't want to commit....
to YOU.
And it's quite possible you share that penis. You could be the side chick and u.o.e.n.o
I'll help you
"He doesn't want to commit....
to YOU.And it's quite possible you share that penis. You could be the side chick and u.o.e.n.o
FukkaPaidEmail
Retired Hoodrat whisperer
Shorty about to cut off her dream nikka just because dude isn't moving as fast as her when it comes to love and commitment.If the shyt y'all got going is good right now why fukk it up over some ego shyt?Just because dude isn't ready for commitment doesn't mean he's out here fukkin' all types of hoes.I just went through this with a female.I'm not trying to be in a relationship because I'm not trying to deal with the bullshyt relationship brings,let's not even get started on that raising a family shyt.Maybe son is the same way.Let him grow into a man before you try to cuff him.
Cat piss martini
Veteran
women tend to switch it up when you
put a label on it and men are catching on
to that bullshyt...
women get too comfortable,feel they can question you
on shyt,feel like p*ssy is a privilage,the emotional melodramatics
etc.
this is why hoes are always gonna win because hoes
cater to egos and dikks and if you got a good hoe she's
gonna be more than happy to pay her dikk bill.
if anything you make him feel like youre not ready to
commit because he's gonna work harder to keep other
dikks outta you.
put a label on it and men are catching on
to that bullshyt...
women get too comfortable,feel they can question you
on shyt,feel like p*ssy is a privilage,the emotional melodramatics
etc.
this is why hoes are always gonna win because hoes
cater to egos and dikks and if you got a good hoe she's
gonna be more than happy to pay her dikk bill.
if anything you make him feel like youre not ready to
commit because he's gonna work harder to keep other
dikks outta you.
The signs are always there.
You're deluding yourself.
You've still got 1 foot in the door, hoping that he will come around and commit to you...meanwhile you're seeing other guys.
So...This guy is basically a fukk buddy that you wish would turn into a relationship. The logical part of you already knows this shyt aint gonna end well.
People are almost always exactly who you thought they were.
If he wanted to be with you, he'd already be with you.
And since the women of the coli have made it clear in other threads that they ALWAYS make it obvious when they like a man....he's gotta be 100% certain that you want to be with him.
And yet he still hasn't taken that step, right?
Act like an adult and move on.
You're letting your emotions cloud your judgment.
Nobody is saying you can't be friendly, but the longer you stay in this relationship purgatory, the more time you're going to waste. And then when the shyt finally does end, you'll be resentful and hate yourself for not acting sooner.
Trust me.
You're deluding yourself.
You've still got 1 foot in the door, hoping that he will come around and commit to you...meanwhile you're seeing other guys.
So...This guy is basically a fukk buddy that you wish would turn into a relationship. The logical part of you already knows this shyt aint gonna end well.
People are almost always exactly who you thought they were.
If he wanted to be with you, he'd already be with you.
And since the women of the coli have made it clear in other threads that they ALWAYS make it obvious when they like a man....he's gotta be 100% certain that you want to be with him.
And yet he still hasn't taken that step, right?
Act like an adult and move on.
You're letting your emotions cloud your judgment.
Nobody is saying you can't be friendly, but the longer you stay in this relationship purgatory, the more time you're going to waste. And then when the shyt finally does end, you'll be resentful and hate yourself for not acting sooner.
Trust me.
Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
Maybe its you. Maybe you're just not what he sees as an anchor. They type of woman I guy will be compelled to wife up. The "it's me not you" line is the oldest in the book. You shouldn't have to press the issue though. If it happens it happens. If not then keep it moving. And don't say you've only been dating for 6 months to a year. People are too quick to commit now a days. If it wasn't love at first site and the chemistry wasn't instant then it will probably take time. Lastly, if you already gave up the p*ssy then ain't no use in changing his mind. It could be a combo of 2 things.
1. You aint let him work hard enough to get in those panties
2. When he did get the puss, the feeling afterwards wasn't strong enough to have him hooked.
In conclusion, I suggest you just be friends and don't let him fukk again until he comes to you for commitment, otherwise you will be downgraded to jump off status.
side note: Women kill me. You have ALL the power and freely give it away
I been saying that last part for years. Women rule the world but for some strange reason they let men run it.
She steady throwing him the puss and wondering why he won't commit. That nikka good that's why!
U came to the wrong board with that question
#colipromotenocommitment
#colipromotenocommitment
little4209
All Star
Moving on and letting go is sooo hard but it's really what needs to be done. If a man wants to be in your life, then he will be. And waiting around won't help even if you are checking out other prospects, because your focus won't entirely be on these new guys but you will also be worrying about your situation with Mr. Disabled.