Help Me Understand This Man's Mind...

[TheFemalePerspective]

A guy I used to know a really long time ago (10+ years ago) ran into a childhood friend of mine and asked her if she still knew me. He went onto confess that he had a massive crush on me. When he found out from my friend that I was currently single, he proceeded to give his number to my friend.. and told her to pass the number on to me.

When my friend told me about this, I told her to pass MY number to him because I prefer the guy to make all the moves. As soon as he received my number, he text me hi... and said he was shocked I even remembered him.

Little does he know...I used to have a crush on him too. And when he wasn't looking, I'd watch him like this...

But since getting my number, we've only spoken briefly. He's yet called me or even set up a date.

Why is he being so slow about this? I know he likes me... and he's aware that I know he likes me. Why can't he just be straightforward about it? Or at least make his interest clear to ME.. the same way he made it clear to my friend?

Help me understand this guy better, please.

 

[no.]

Why can't you be straightforward about it?

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

Why can't you be straightforward about it?

I like to be chased properly...

 

[darryl]

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A guy I used to know a really long time ago (10+ years ago) ran into a childhood friend of mine and asked her if she still knew me. He went onto confess that he had a massive crush on me. When he found out from my friend that I was currently single, he proceeded to give his number to my friend.. and told her to pass the number on to me.

When my friend told me about this, I told her to pass MY number to him because I prefer the guy to make all the moves. As soon as he received my number, he text me hi... and said he was shocked I even remembered him.

Little does he know...I used to have a crush on him too. And when he wasn't looking, I'd watch him like this...

Anyway, my friend sort of told me... how he confessed to being obsessed with me & liking me since we were in our early teens. He's aware that she's told me all of this. Since getting my number, we've only spoken briefly. He's yet called me or even set up a date.

Why is he being so slow about this? I know he likes me... and he's aware that I know he likes me. Why can't he just be straightforward about it? Or at least make his interest clear to ME.. the same way he made it clear to my friend?

Help me understand this guy better, please.

he's nervous and shy about your beauty. He'all call u real soon

 

[concise]

Two scaredy cats, nothing will happen.

 

[MikelArteta]

I like to be chased properly...

 

[no.]

I like to be chased properly...

So you can't even send him a text?

Then all you can do is wait and see.

 

[AMcV'88]

there are other woman above you in the pecking order..once one potential piece fizzles out, you'll move up the list.
you can speed up the process by texting him yourself.

 

[Remote]

I like to be chased properly...

god damn you girls aint shyt

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

But this isn't my reality. I have enough guys actually hitting me up; some of them are my cup of tea and some aren't.

The reason I don't make 'moves' and prefer to just wait is because I have enough to choose from. I'm only baffled by this scenario because there's no guessing game involved. I KNOW this man likes me 100% but he's acting like he's not even that interested, when I overheard him over the phone with my friend (he didn't know I was eavesdropping) saying he's so grateful that she's hooking us up and he's really excited/happy. But then... *POOF* he disappears after messaging me twice and for the past few days, I've heard nada. That's kinda strange.

 

[MikelArteta]

But this isn't my reality. I have enough guys actually hitting me up; some of them are my cup of tea and some aren't.

The reason I don't make 'moves' and prefer to just wait is because enough to choose from. I'm only baffled by this scenario because there's no guessing game involved. I KNOW this man likes me 100% but he's acting like he's not even that interested, when I overheard him over the phone to my friend (he didn't know I was eavesdropping) saying he's so grateful that she's hooking us up and he's really excited/happy. But then... *POOF* the guy messages me twice and for the past few days, I've heard nada. That's kinda strange.

so then stay with your archaic rules and strategy, sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone. Yeah you have enough guys hitting you up BUT GASP YOUR SINGLE!!!! They are not the guys you want, yet this guy you make a thread about because gasp you are feeling him see the difference?

How is it strange? a guy comes on to strogn you'd be making a thread he's desperate, whast the rush? things that start fast usually end fast.

 

[Remote]

"I want an assertive man"
"I want him to take charge"
"I want him to lead"

The feminist in some of you women wants all the so-called perks of being a man without the responsibilities that men bear.
... And without the social constructs that those responsibilities demand of said traditional relations.

You demand that men seek after what they want and all that macho shyt.
But you won't do it yourselves.

Because you're inherent cowards.
...most of you.

 

[EA]

He, like most of us, probably prefers to only give his time to girls when he knows that they like him. The fact that he had his number sent to you only for you to rebuttal with your number could be interpreted that you don't want to initiate (which you don't) because you're not that interested.

Throw him a bone and he'll pick up the pieces but then again, the whole "I like to be chased" spiel is retarded and you're probably doing him a favour in the long run by abiding by this.

 

[Colicat]

Hi ****

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

so then stay with your archaic rules and strategy, sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone. Yeah you have enough guys hitting you up BUT GASP YOUR SINGLE!!!! They are not the guys you want, yet this guy you make a thread about because gasp you are feeling him see the difference?

How is it strange? a guy comes on to strogn you'd be making a thread he's desperate, whast the rush? things that start fast usually end fast.

In the past, I could tell he was feeling me but since he was too shy to ever make a move, nothing ever happened between us. I prefer men who can be dominant in pursuing me. He's already waited 10+ years to make a move. It's not like anything is happening too fast here. I guess, I'm a little bit disappointed because right now, I have other men who have made their interest in me as clear as day. And I'm not the type to wait for a long time to decipher just how interested a man is in getting to know me. The longer he waits to set this date up.. the more I lose interest. Like I said in my previous post, I just find this situation bewildering because it's not like we're strangers; I already know his intentions.. Why he's afraid of making them clear to me is baffling.