Help Me Understand This Man's Mind...

[TheFemalePerspective]

...I hate when chicks do that dumb shyt

IMO, I think it's best to let the men do the chasing. Simply, because it's natural for men to be the more dominant one, and for their lady to play the more submissive role. When roles are reversed, the natural equilibrium of the relationship becomes skewed and subconsciously men begin to feel emasculated and/or feel less attraction towards the woman. Even if I liked a man wholeheartedly, I'd never set up a date; I'd smile, hell I'd even bite my lip to entice him. BUT I'd never be the first to initiate a relationship. That's just not my style.

 

[Pdiddy]

IMO, I think it's best to let the men do the chasing. Simply, because it's natural for men to be the more dominant one, and for their lady to play the more submissive role. When roles are reversed, the natural equilibrium of the relationship becomes skewed and subconsciously men begin to feel emasculated and/or feel less attraction towards the woman. Even if I liked a man wholeheartedly, I'd never set up a date; I'd smile, hell I'd even bite my lip to entice him. BUT I'd never be the first to initiate a relationship. That's just not my style.

So, are you the type who expects the man to do the majority of the contacting?

 

[Turbulent]

the world wasn't designed to satisfy your personal whims. dude might not be confident enough to make a move not being sure if you like him back. you don't feel like making a move. so choose someone else. you can choose whatever you want in life but feeling entitled to a specific person making a move will lead you no where in life. if no confident dude you are attracted to is making moves towards you, either step your game up, change your standards, or stay single

 

[Suicide King]

In the past, I could tell he was feeling me but since he was too shy to ever make a move, nothing ever happened between us. I prefer men who can be dominant in pursuing me. He's already waited 10+ years to make a move. It's not like anything is happening too fast here. I guess, I'm a little bit disappointed because right now, I have other men who have made their interest in me as clear as day. And I'm not the type to wait for a long time to decipher just how interested a man is in getting to know me. The longer he waits to set this date up.. the more I lose interest. Like I said in my previous post, I just find this situation bewildering because it's not like we're strangers; I already know his intentions.. Why he's afraid of making them clear to me is baffling.

He's a beta male. I can't picture myself having a crush on a chick for 10 years, that's a beta male trait.

 

[Banned Account12]

IMO, I think it's best to let the men do the chasing. Simply, because it's natural for men to be the more dominant one, and for their lady to play the more submissive role. When roles are reversed, the natural equilibrium of the relationship becomes skewed and subconsciously men begin to feel emasculated and/or feel less attraction towards the woman. Even if I liked a man wholeheartedly, I'd never set up a date; I'd smile, hell I'd even bite my lip to entice him. BUT I'd never be the first to initiate a relationship. That's just not my style.

stop being a p*ssy

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

the world wasn't designed to satisfy your personal whims. dude might not be confident enough to make a move not being sure if you like him back. you don't feel like making a move. so choose someone else. you can choose whatever you want in life but feeling entitled to a specific person making a move will lead you no where in life. if no confident dude you are attracted to is making moves towards you, either step your game up, change your standards, or stay single

I don't feel entitled! Please, don't put 'words' into my text

Like I said, I'm just baffled by this situation and was hoping to find clarification

Clearly he's NOT that shy, if he went out of his way to get back into contact with me. It's obvious he's biding his time.. I just don't understand why he feels he needs more time, when we've known each other for years. We're older now.. and if he just said: ' Hey, it'd be great for us to catch up. Fancy coffee after work on Tuesday?' It would've been all sorted. But instead... he's playing.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

I like to be chased properly...

Sometimes when the girl makes tge moves it don't work. Or maybe most of the guys I approached are fukk boys.

 

[Dr. Narcisse]

I like to be chased properly...

Its taken him 10 years to tell you he has a crush on you. You also expect him to chase you now?
Take the initiative and see what yall can get into.
You can make things comfortable if you just sped things up yourself.

Some people just need a little push

Breh sitting around waiting on you like

If you arent willing to do that. I guess that crush didnt really mean as much as you thought

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

Sometimes when the girl makes tge moves it don't work. Or maybe most of the guys I approached are fukk boys.

Nah, it's just unnatural.

Deep down, every man wants the woman they worked hard to get!

 

[GuChiMeng]

How old is this guy, like 14?

Show him some interest or suggest "hanging out". If he doesn't get the hint then you're probably going to have to do what you don't want to, which is just ask him out.

 

[Aceofspades404]

I think you should text him and once you get to the point that you two are both aware and in tune with each other's feelings, he will eventually become dominant and more aggressive. It'll boost his confidence up and he won't feel any pressure. Also, letting a guy know you like him isn't chasing.

He's a beta male. I can't picture myself having a crush on a chick for 10 years, that's a beta male trait.

There is no such thing as a beta male just like the "alpha male" doesn't really exist. People have different personalities and life experiences that make then the way they are. I know plenty of men who bag hoes on the daily but have never really been serious with someone b/c they can't express their feelings to the female they actually want.

 

[Remote]

IMO, I think it's best to let the men do the chasing. Simply, because it's natural for men to be the more dominant one, and for their lady to play the more submissive role. When roles are reversed, the natural equilibrium of the relationship becomes skewed and subconsciously men begin to feel emasculated and/or feel less attraction towards the woman. Even if I liked a man wholeheartedly, I'd never set up a date; I'd smile, hell I'd even bite my lip to entice him. BUT I'd never be the first to initiate a relationship. That's just not my style.

Fair enough.



Just as long as you're willing to play the submissive role and take on everything that comes with it.

Just don't make some feminist thread in 2 hours like you forgot you said this shyt.

 

[Dr. Narcisse]

I know plenty of men who bag hoes on the daily but have never really been serious with someone b/c they can't express their feelings to the female they actually want.

 

[StickStickly]

Nah, it's just unnatural.

Deep down, every man wants the woman they worked hard to get!

Will male posters clarify this. Is this true?


If male posters were in this situation and a girls if what is suggested: she texted you several times that she's interested and thinks your attractive and wants to meet you somewhere for a date, what would be your thoughts? What would you do?

 

[Remote]

Sometimes you see posters having a habit of avoiding certain coli members and you kinda draw a parallel....like it becomes pretty easy to see what their alias is.