Help Me Understand This Man's Mind...

[TheFemalePerspective]

Will male posters clarify this. Is this true?


If male posters were in this situation and a girls if what is suggested: she texted you several times that she's interested and thinks your attractive and wants to meet you somewhere for a date, what would be your thoughts? What would you do?

Of course, men would still date that female, but mark my words that paranoia would begin to seep in as they'd remember how she approached them so uncannily and will feel she could do the same with any other man. Whether men admit it or not, they want to feel that ONLY they could win their girl's heart, and that there's something unique about them;however, if the woman becomes the chaser, this illusion can no longer be sustained. It's no longer viable in their reality, so they begin to feel less safe about being their woman's one and only. Then they'll always wonder just how easily they could be replaced

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

Sometimes you see posters having a habit of avoiding certain coli members and you kinda draw a parallel....like it becomes pretty easy to see what their alias is.

My account has already been checked. Mods flipped the switch. This is my 1 and only account. Please, don't derail my thread.

Thanks!

 

[Taadow]

Why can't you be straightforward about it?

Thread should've ended here.

 

[Taadow]

IMO, I think it's best to let the men do the chasing. Simply, because it's natural for men to be the more dominant one, and for their lady to play the more submissive role. When roles are reversed, the natural equilibrium of the relationship becomes skewed and subconsciously men begin to feel emasculated and/or feel less attraction towards the woman. Even if I liked a man wholeheartedly, I'd never set up a date; I'd smile, hell I'd even bite my lip to entice him. BUT I'd never be the first to initiate a relationship. That's just not my style.

The dude already "initiated" you!

The nicca waited 10 YEARS already, and when he saw your friend he gave her his number to give you.
That's the first move.


He even did more by calling you when you didn't wanna call him. What type of chit is that?


You kow what would make me feel some way in this situation?
Your friend coming back to me saying "I gave her your number, but she doesn't wanna be the one to call"

I would tear your number up in front of her, and start talking about something else...

 

[Turbulent]

I don't feel entitled! Please, don't put 'words' into my text

Like I said, I'm just baffled by this situation and was hoping to find clarification

Clearly he's NOT that shy, if he went out of his way to get back into contact with me. It's obvious he's biding his time.. I just don't understand why he feels he needs more time, when we've known each other for years. We're older now.. and if he just said: ' Hey, it'd be great for us to catch up. Fancy coffee after work on Tuesday?' It would've been all sorted. But instead... he's playing.

if he wasn't shy, he wouldn't have went through your friend to try to get at you/found you on facebook, etc. it's very simple. you can show him a sign that you are interested or you could just throw him in the bushes. but y'all both seem very immature and scared (listening over on a secret conference call??? i sincerely hope you're not older than 16) so y'all might actually be a perfect match...

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Will male posters clarify this. Is this true?


If male posters were in this situation and a girls if what is suggested: she texted you several times that she's interested and thinks your attractive and wants to meet you somewhere for a date, what would be your thoughts? What would you do?

Nope, every man is not the same. Generalizing an entire gender is cringe worthy. Every man does not like the chase and every man is not the same no matter how natural it is said to be for men to chase after women.

 

[mortuus est]

@TheFemalePerspective is a very beautiful woman, i hope she finds the right man.

 

[mtu wa chuma]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/bae-is-becoming-cheap-help-a-bruhette-out.296231/

Why is everyone ignoring this post? She has a boyfriend. Or rather he's a sad troll pretending to be a female on a hip hop board for some reason.

 

[CHILLL]

Of course, men would still date that female, but mark my words that paranoia would begin to seep in as they'd remember how she approached them so uncannily and will feel she could do the same with any other man. Whether men admit it or not, they want to feel that ONLY they could win their girl's heart, and that there's something unique about them;however, if the woman becomes the chaser, this illusion can no longer be sustained. It's no longer viable in their reality, so they begin to feel less safe about being their woman's one and only. Then they'll always wonder just how easily they could be replaced

hahahahaa where u hear this bullshyt from?
wow i really be thinkin men and women on the same page then they say some shyt like this

 

[EA]

After reading some of the responses, I see why guys often keep it moving if they find themselves in a bind like this. If @TheFemalePerspective bites the bullet and initiates, I'm sure she's gonna resent him in the long run because she had to circumvent what he was "supposed to do as a man" in order to build something with him. If he builds the courage and proceeds to court her, she's not gonna make it easy on him because she likes to be chased.

I'm speaking from experience with this, my ex said she resented the fact that she initiated because she felt like she wanted me more than I wanted her.

 

[Kitsch]

Why is everyone ignoring this post? She has a boyfriend. Or rather he's a sad troll pretending to be a female on a hip hop board for some reason.

 

[CHILLL]

Of course, men would still date that female, but mark my words that paranoia would begin to seep in as they'd remember how she approached them so uncannily and will feel she could do the same with any other man. Whether men admit it or not, they want to feel that ONLY they could win their girl's heart, and that there's something unique about them;however, if the woman becomes the chaser, this illusion can no longer be sustained. It's no longer viable in their reality, so they begin to feel less safe about being their woman's one and only. Then they'll always wonder just how easily they could be replaced

how old are yall old ass nikkas?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

In the past, I could tell he was feeling me but since he was too shy to ever make a move, nothing ever happened between us. I prefer men who can be dominant in pursuing me. He's already waited 10+ years to make a move. It's not like anything is happening too fast here. I guess, I'm a little bit disappointed because right now, I have other men who have made their interest in me as clear as day. And I'm not the type to wait for a long time to decipher just how interested a man is in getting to know me. The longer he waits to set this date up.. the more I lose interest. Like I said in my previous post, I just find this situation bewildering because it's not like we're strangers; I already know his intentions.. Why he's afraid of making them clear to me is baffling.

shy guys are amazing. Give em a hint and when they open up to you and let u in, it's friggin magical. You can enjoy the chase (what woman doesn't), but gas him up a little bit. It's really cool when you can make somebody u like feel good about themselves. He'll more than return the favor if he's about it.

 

[ScottyG]

I can't help but laugh reading this

 

[Fellatio]

Of course, men would still date that female, but mark my words that paranoia would begin to seep in as they'd remember how she approached them so uncannily and will feel she could do the same with any other man. Whether men admit it or not, they want to feel that ONLY they could win their girl's heart, and that there's something unique about them;however, if the woman becomes the chaser, this illusion can no longer be sustained. It's no longer viable in their reality, so they begin to feel less safe about being their woman's one and only. Then they'll always wonder just how easily they could be replaced

I think women can get sex from average dudes whenever they want so he could be intimidated as far as the competition being good, but will most likely just see you the same as he see's other women who don't mack on men.