stop thinking with your dikk. stop being so eager to get p*ssy. just talk to women like they are human beings and if you click with her, you will get the p*ssy. stop making it difficult. if its a chick at work or at a place that you frequent often that you want to holla at, just make small talk everytime you see her. don't ask for her number yet. get her comfortable with talking to you. then eventually say, "you know, you're a cool chick. we should probably hang out sometime..." and then let the chips fall where they may. if it's a random chick that you will probably never see again, just go and put your bid in. if she says no, then fukk it. if she says yes, then you have a potential girlfriend/fukk buddy/homegirl with friends that you can fukk. just relax and stop being so uptight about women. when they shyt, it stinks. they are human too.