High Earning Childless Black Man Attacked and Shamed for Not Dating Single Mothers, despite being raised by one.

[ORDER_66]

It really has become Bizarro land in the Black community.

shyt is crazy but im seeing alot of communities with the same issues happening alot of women reaping what they sowed.

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

 

[Ineedmoney504]

Fully agree with this man. I have two sons and don’t ever wanna be single to have to go thru this. But to be childless and to get in a relationship with someone with kids is crazy. On both sides tbh.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Like Eboni, because he's raised by a single momma, he don't have tact.

He would know that saying this with your real human profile will lead to backlash. Just say nothin. You ain't Kevin Samuels, you don't have a platform

Pretty much. I've actually heard men say that in real life or something similar. I have no children, and it's still a red flag.

That’s actually a good point. But I wouldn’t expect a men’s site to see it that way.

Both of them said things that can be considered divisive or offensive to the groups they don’t want.

Again, for both of them, it isn’t what you say, but how you say it.

Eboni, a multimillionaire saying she isn't going to date someone barely getting by isn't divisive especially when she wasn't specifically addressing anyone.

Him saying he is "better" than a woman to her face in front of 1000s of people is rude and unnecessary.

Neither one of them represent BP so I wouldn't consider either divisive especially when Eboni wasn't even speaking to BM. Her last guy was White.

The single mother is being disqualified for engaging in deviant behavior.

I guess you think working a blue collar job is also deviant or creating broken families isn't deviancy for it to be hypocritical to you

So the only way to make a baby is by being a deviant? You have no idea how that woman's life played out.

And working a blue collar job because can't do anything else resulting from your deviant behavior is deviant behavior. Life isn't black and white.

A millionaire woman dating a man making $4000 a month is stupid.

That's a fair point for much of the Coli. Thankfully I took the same position on both issues so I'm not a hypocrite. I don't expect successful women to date bus drivers, and I don't expect successful men to date single mothers. While the guy's delivery was kind of whiny to me, how can we dismiss the point that we are all well aware of the standards and expectations women have for men while simultaneously throwing a mental fit at the prospect of a man rejecting a woman for any reason? If I say I prefer to date a fit, healthy woman there will be somebody to tell me I'm being divisive or (god forbid) applying standards rooted in white supremacy lol.

I don't view single motherhood as a moral failing exclusively. A woman can be a single mother for a variety of reasons out of her control, from being a widow to having children with a man who later became abusive. It's not always a case of bad decision making or bad personal choices. My point is solely that I want nothing to do with that regardless of the reason, because at the root of the issue is that I want my own children with my own wife, and I do not want a divided household. It's a risk I simply will not take with MY family. Life is full of risks we are willing or aren't willing to take. I don't go to gas stations late at night regardless of the neighborhood I'm in, I don't honk my horn at other cars, and I don't date single mothers.

I don't have a problem with his preference. I have a problem with BM telling BW they should take whatever comes their way while simultaneously blaming them for not "choosing better". He can date whomever he wants.

 

[kaldurahm]

They're aware, they just don't care unless it's their son.

Yep. My mom's told me never bring a single mom to the house, but will tell another dude that single mom is a good woman, you should marry her.

Not even my pops said this by the way, just my mom. Moms and Grandmas are the hardest when it comes to women dating their sons, seen it with my own two eyes.

 

[Killer Instinct]

There's some 5'5 guy out there that had no say so and most women won't look his way but the world is suppose to stop because you made a choice to have a child for a man that didn't care enough about you to give you his last name? Case by case basis but most men don't want a ready made family, especially the men who are in a position economically & physically to have a wide berth of women to choose from. Get you that 5'5 negro making a modest wage or make peace with the fact that choices have consequences and happiness in this life isn't guaranteed.

 

[O.Red]

It really has become Bizarro land in the Black community.

It hasn't become anything. Some of these issues are 100 years old

Some of these issues go as far back as the motherland if you REALLY wanna go there

Edit***

Realizing the irony of me even using "The motherland" in this context

 

[Jazzy B.]

No we do not lmao

You DO.

If this wasn’t the case you would be the LOUDEST VOICE that goes at single mothers who engage with childless men.

That’s how it works with the women in EVERY OTHER COMMUNITY.

 

[V Skyye]

You DO.

If this wasn’t the case you would be the LOUDEST VOICE that goes at single mothers who engage with childless men.

That’s how it works with the women in EVERY OTHER COMMUNITY.

Why would she tell men to not date the women they want? If single childless women could control Black men they wouldn’t be single and childless.

 

[Ugo Ogugwa]

It's giving gatekeeping

 

[AllHolosEve]

No his main mistake was coming off angry and judgemental. When you do those things your argument will never get anywhere and gives ammunition to the other side. That's why they subjected to grilling his personality.
He should have left his comment very simple and straightforward.

-They would've subjected to grilling his personality anyway because they had nothing else. If you're prepared you can see this coming.

Men are supposed to be doers. All that talking and trying to plead your case to women is weak. Live your life and don't explain shyt.
I really don't understand how y'all don't see how reductive these constant arguments are, and sadly social media is packed to the brim with this bullshyt
That urge to "check" a bytch is so strong you don't even realize it just looks like two women arguing

-If we're talking day to day life I agree but in this scenario fukk all that doing not talking shyt. He chose to go on tv where he knew he'd be asked questions & wasn't prepared for war.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Nobody should be made to feel like they are wrong for not accepting certain qualities in a potential partner. I hate when people act like someone is going to be alone forever for having a standard. With that said, don’t act like any time a woman has a certain standard, the Coli tells her she needs to lower it.



The majority of black women over 27 have children. There are also a lot of black men over that age who have children too. That’s reality.

 

[Standing on business]

Not wanting to get into a relationship with a women with kids is a personal preference and perfectly fine. Touting out that your High Value Man and too good for a single mother is corny and basically you looking to start and argument. Dude was lame for that and there’s no need to defend him because he got what he was looking for.

Having a preference is cool but straight talking down and telling your non preference you’re too good for them is some wack shyt.

 

[ScottyG]

"I'm too good for a single mom."

You can always tell when a man spends too much time online. If a woman said she was "too good" for him he would have a fit too. Just like how they whined and cried all over the internet about Eboni K Williams (even though she didn't say that but it was implied).

He's wording lacked tact.

Failed Prostitute babble

 

[Treblemaka]

The fact that you think he is making a weak argument is comedy. Even more so you thinking he got emotional about it when in reality you are more emotional about it then he is. You judging what he said based on how you feel. Nothing to do with what he actually said.

I always tell dudes aint nothing more dangerous than a simp ass nikka.

What is emotional about what I said? How am I judging what he said based on my perspective not my emotions.

You're making statements that aren't factual concerning my sentiments and its the second time youve done that with me in this thread. It's okay to believe my thoughts are comedy, that's an opinion. But how can you determine if I'm emotional or the rubric by which I judge what he said?

I can refute your conclusions (because they are false), but if you're going to make statements about my points that aren't a complete fabrication based on your own perspective please share how you came to them.