Honestly, cheating is the only way to be happy in a relationship. UPDATE: I'm going to abstain

[WhatsGoodTy]

You only hear this shyt on the internet.

 

[Wildhundreds]

The problem is a lot of men have to fake wanting a relationship to get pu$$y. Because if a man could just get the pu$$y without a relationship, thats what we would do. Stop wasting people time with all this fcking lying and just say you don't want a serious relationship.

 

[Complexion]

A man will fake a relationship for an orgasm. A woman will fake an orgasm for a relationship.

Like I said, authenticity is the key to being happy in this life, no matter what you do, as it all begins with you and your relationship to your internal realm.

 

[Wildhundreds]

You only hear this shyt on the internet.

Nah, this shyt is true because I've heard it in real life all the time. It's understandable hearing it from a 20 year old, but ive heard dudes say this in their 40s and 50s. And whats fcked up is a lot of women will fck you if your honest with them. The problem arises when you get so thirsty for pu$$y you bush the truth and start lying.


Lying dudes will NEVER be hard on h0es. Hard on h0es is the honest truth.

 

[Roid Jones]

 

[Sterling Archer]

You only hear this shyt on the internet.

That’s not true. This is the leading cause of breakups and second cause in divorces. There’s plenty of people and situations where they aren’t fukking their partners regularly. It’s always their own faults as to why they are in this situation though. The answer is always simple and the easiest thing to do. Leave at the first sign of bullshyt. Because staying will make them one of these people stuck in these type of relationships.

Personally, I don’t care what the reasons are, if I’m not fukking regularly, I’m leaving.

 

[Commish]

I respect your post breh. This is just a very cliche answer you'd hear on a talk show like Steve Wilkos and them. I get it. Lying is wrong. Cheating is wrong. But you know what? So is denying sex with your partner knowing that they love to have sex. So is flip flopping on the issue and expecting the other to simply adjust. It's not like there's a laundry load of problems between us. This is literally the only thing we mostly argue about. Each time I try to find a solution, she goes the opposite way. I'm just gonna propose the celibacy idea once again, and this time be firm on it. I'm okay with not having sex for weeks and even months if it means we're focusing on other more important things. But I mean at the same time, the man in me is not gonna pass up good looks and opportunities that come my way. I'll be damned.

I didn't mean to sound cliché. I said what I said for a reason.

I have been in my current relationship for around 7 months now...

Been talking to my GF for maybe 9 months. We haven't had not one argument since we've known each other. Not one! At worst, we have had maybe a minor disagreement and that was quickly dissolved.

You know why we have had no issues? Because we came into our relationship on the same page. We also came into our relationship with good intentions as well as discussed our intentions with one another from jump street.

We don't play games with each other. We don't have communication issues. We respect each other. We aren't narcissistic, selfish, egotistical, etc. We understand what type of relationship we want and know what needs to be done to get the outcome we both are seeking.

So, in my mind, I am living what I am saying to you! I told my GF before we became official that I am not gonna deal with any type of disrespect. I am not gonna be dealing with having a sexless relationship.

Also, I am not gonna deal with her getting drunk and having her change her mind about having sex, not telling me, then wanna accuse me of doing something illegal.

Lastly, I told her, respectfully of course, that I don't deal with cheating, violence, verbal nor mental abuse. This shyt have been put out there right from the beginning. She understood and agreed. Her choice. I will do the same.

So, we mostly joke around which each other and when we do have serious discussions, it is done so in a respectable fashion, as it should be.

Perhaps, it is this way because of our age as well as our past experiences with other people.

I am gonna tell you this...

You do what your feel you need to do with your relationship, but me? If I am gonna be in a relationship and put my heart, feelings, wallet and maybe life on the line, then I am for damn sure gonna attempt to do so with someone I feel it worth it!

That means that the both of us gonna invest in this shyt and we both gonna adhere to the moral codes that comes with monogamy and fidelity.

However, I also told my GF that I have an open door policy. If at any point she feels that she has a change of and wanna go her own way, that I will not stand in her way. I can set my ego aside so that she can find happiness somewhere else, if she feels the need to do so.

Point is...

As much bs I have dealt with in the dating world prior to meeting my lady, I am NOT afraid to lose her nor any other woman. I would be saddened if it happened, but I also know that sadness isn't permanent. Life goes on...

I just believe that cheating isn't necessary. If a person doesn't wanna be intimate with you, then cool. That doesn't mean you can't find it from someone else. Like your significant other has choices, so do you! No person in a voluntary relationship is above the other in the same relationship.

Just how I see it based on what I have experienced as well as what I am currently experiencing...

 

[1thouwow]

And here's the thing. I have been slacking on the "dating" side of the relationship. But it's not for lack of effort. We're just both busy these days. She's in nursing school so literally all of her time is being sucked into school, exams, assignments, etc. Which I was okay with. I was okay with knowing that we weren't gonna be getting it in anymore. I accepted it. So as a result, I stopped even bothering to initiate or add any sexual energy into us. I mean why if it isn't gonna go anywhere? I'd rather put that energy to something more productive or more consistent. I'm okay with turning off the entire idea of sex temporarily. It helps me focus on other more important things. I even stopped jacking off since it's no longer satisfying and just boring now. But guess what?! Soon as I reach this place of comfort and zen, now she wants to tease me about sex and act like she's the one sexually frustrated when IM the one who was always fighting for more sex! TF?! I'm like at this point she's just being manipulative.

The writing is already on the wall about nurses, but now she’s manipulative too?
Go ahead and get out while you can

 

[Peter Popoff]

You only hear this shyt on the internet.

I've been in OPs situation. The problem was me.

Edit: People get way too invested in looks and trying so hard to be someone else over some p*ssy instead of just being themselves which is why most relationships fail.

 

[karim]

Either dump her or start witholding dikk and resct when she talks about sex.

Cheating isn't going to improve your situation, it will just make you the bad guy.

 

[karim]

Either dump her or start witholding dikk and resct when she talks about sex.

Cheating isn't going to improve your situation, it will just make you the bad guy.

Don't react. Why don't we have an edit button anymore?

 

[CW_1991]

The problem is a lot of men have to fake wanting a relationship to get pu$$y. Because if a man could just get the pu$$y without a relationship, thats what we would do. Stop wasting people time with all this fcking lying and just say you don't want a serious relationship.

And by being truthful you don't get sex. That's the point.

The dilemma is lie and eat or be truthful and starve.

 

[King Poetic]

I know your pain from experience and from hearing co workers and friends from 21 to 51 years old

 

[Kurt off them percs]

Every relationship I've been in usually turns out the same. I realized most relationships are only really good the first 1-3 years. After that the same thing happens... she stops having sex. It starts to dwindle down until you eventually don't even recognize her or the relationship anymore. It happened with my ex and it's currently happening with my girl. She's perfect in every other department, but this. Yesterday she promised me head via text. Sloppy "deserved" head. I'm at a point where I don't even get excited over these things anymore cuz there's a 95% chance it won't happen. And guess what? Did it happen? No. But when she wants it and I'm not up for it, it's a whole other thing. So I'm just at a point where I'm done arguing about it, talking about it, etc. I'd be fine if we even went celibate for awhile. I don't wanna keep getting excited about the shyt only to get disappointed each time. I want consistent sex. She was talking about once a week. Granted, we're very busy with our individual lives and it's very understandable. My thing is, don't promise it to me, don't tease me about it. Don't even fukking talk about it. Cuz honestly I'm starting to find the peacefulness in celibacy. My libido used to be 10/10, but this shyt done dropped it to 3. Best believe if I had something on the side I wouldn't even be tripping. So I guess I just need to find a side chick with high libido. Seems like it's the only way. Hence why so many married men tend to be the thirstiest.

Or you can voice your concern like an adult and see where that goes. I'll drop some jewels real fast. I was fukking with this married jawn back in 2016 and we had a thing until 2021.

One day I was curious on why she still was with Boul and she just said they have sex here and there but it wasn't enough. Turns out he just didn't know how to please her and just didn't know how to keep it interesting. Meanwhile with me, I'm in shape, I smell nice whenever I see her, I take her nice places etc.

Had she just tell her nikka this, I'm sure he could do the same and if he couldn't maybe she'd leave... But he's making big bank so idk.

But anyway talk with her and see what's going on. It's all about communication. You be surprised the small details we miss.

 

[Carlton Banks]

And by being truthful you don't get sex. That's the point.

The dilemma is lie and eat or be truthful and starve.

Someone who gets it