Honestly, cheating is the only way to be happy in a relationship. UPDATE: I'm going to abstain

[EffYou]

The sex might be wack. A lotta women fake it. If she’s never experienced an actual orgasm with you then sex is a chore. It’s just another thing on her plate she would rather avoid.

Communicate with her about why she isn’t sexual anymore. You’ve also indicated that this has happened to you several times. Women’s sex drive can fluctuate but what I’ve noticed is that it ain’t really women’s sex drive. In some cases it’s women’s willingness to fake an orgasm that changes. She might have been excited about the prospect of being with you initially and decided to overlook some wack sex in the beginning because she in love and gooey about you. But once the love wears off and ya’ll done got on each other’s nerves a few times, the prospect of having sex with somebody you not even cumming with won’t work. Sometimes women get pushed by society to overlook important shyt in men like looks or attraction, just to say they got a man. (See that entitled physicist thread) So they end up just grinning and bearing it for the sake of the relationship. But that shyt gets old fast and when it does, if you don’t even have good sex to tide you over, it’s a wrap.

Is there any romance in your relationship? What’s the foreplay like? How much time are y’all actually spending being intimate vs. fukking? And there is a difference. Many men don’t understand intimacy because they’ve been educated by porn or take a selfish outlook to sex. However, building intimacy is important. Women don’t just automatically get wet like they do in porn over nothing.

In any case, there’s a lot you can do before you jump straight to cheating. And if you do cheat, consider how you would feel if she does the same to you. Because if she isn’t enjoying sex with you to the extent that she doesn’t even wanna screw you…she might already be stepping out anyway.

I wish you well either way.

shut yo hoe ass up

 

[EffYou]

Okay. Thanks for the context. Sounds like she just crazy as hell.
Lol kidding. But not really. Is she on bc? Because BC can make you feel all kinds of cray cray when it comes to sex.

If sex in enjoyable then it seems like she playing mind games which is a no no. Just reading that whole “only wanna do it when I don’t wanna do it” shyt made me itch. That’s irritating. Ya’ll been to counseling?

It might help a bit. But I’d really advise ya’ll sitting down and having an honest discussion. No yelling. No screaming. Set some ground rules before hand. I speak you listen. You speak, I listen. shyt like that.
Then see where you want the relationship to go.

Let her know you just about fed up with the lack of intimacy. You still love her and want to be with her but you will look elsewhere if it continues to be a problem.
Then give it time. That conversation needs to be a sobering one. It won’t make her automatically wet overnight so give it time. But she should start to make more of an effort.

Try this before stepping out b/c cheating won’t solve the core issues going on behind the lack of intimacy.

shut ur ass up

 

[Carlton Banks]

my whole thing is, why would you post something so controversial yet so brave?

because u know DAMN WELL that's cap.

But if a man said women should always wanna fukk a man with good pipe, how would it go over. This how nikkas like trey songz convince themselves they're in the right.

Facts

 

[Carlton Banks]

So I decided I'm just gonna use this moment in my life as fuel to do better. I'm gonna get in the best shape of my life and glow the fukk up so that this never becomes a reoccurring issue again.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

my whole thing is, why would you post something so controversial yet so brave?

because u know DAMN WELL that's cap.

But if a man said women should always wanna fukk a man with good pipe, how would it go over. This how nikkas like trey songz convince themselves they're in the right.

A guy did say that on like the second page and I have had similar situations happen in relationships and it honestly only ever felt that way about men who really weren't very good in bed.

It can also happen if a woman isn't fulfilled in another part of the relationship. We aren’t men who just have dikk for everyone. We usually feel best when we are comfortable. If we are uncomfortable in anyway it will put strain on our sex life.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

I don’t know why people insist in staying in something as fleeting as a bf/gf situation.

Y’all don’t have kids together so what do y’all really have? Memories?

Just move on and find someone else.

 

[DreadBrown]

@Both Sides we had our issues but I’m in a similar situation right now

Same as you Im trying to roll with it long as I can

 

[Carlton Banks]

@Both Sides we had our issues but I’m in a similar situation right now

Same as you Im trying to roll with it long as I can

I'm just gonna use this as fuel breh. I'm straight up deleting my social medias, stop browsing Reddit and searching for advice from others, stop with the YouTube videos. Stop everything. I'm gonna be like Goku in the fukking time chamber. I just had to wake today and realize who the fukk I am. Even MJ had his droughts and bad seasons, who the fukk am I to be different? But now I can either sink or swim, and I'm not sinking. I'll be damned if I get in the best shape of my life and get my money right a bytch ever deny me p*ssy again. But in all honesty I'm thinking of just going back to paying for it. I got exactly what I wanted without the hassle, mind games and bullshyt. No manipulation, no persuading, no arguments. Just a fair exchange and I get to be my full self.

 

[HabitualChiller]

There it is.

Imagine two empty glasses clinking and each saying "Got a drink?". Neither will get their fill because there is simply nothing to give nor receive beyond the image they sell.

That describes most relationships and why the initial high rarely lasts and often quickly fades because its like this:

The initial anticipation based on projection causes your endocrine system to flood your system with happy, happy, joy, joy vibes as you think you've found the missing link that will provide just what you've been seeking. She feels this too. Thing is its based on false projections and semi conscious manipulation and thus devoid of integrity. Thats when you realize the fridge is actually empty and its pretty much over at this point but most people refuse to see it and will hang on due to a myriad of excuses, none of which touch the truth. If they split they'll go on to keep repeating the same pattern till they're dead without any introspection of what causes this.

An issue with being 100% from the jump is that if you're dealing with strangers (and no money exchanges) they'll think you're insane because they're used to playing the fake game of projected percentages. If on the flip propinquity is your thing and the circle know how you is then its a whole nother level because (and I quote) "It's absolutely amazing being able to be myself because you're so crazy that no matter how weird I am it doesn't come anywhere near your nuttiness".

That is what people genuinely, truly want. The ability to be themselves without filter or image building but they try and put the cart in front of the horse and wonder why it never works. Thing is to be authentic to another you have to first be that to yourself and most people would rather consume a mile of excrement than even attempt this so it is what it is.

Great post. Sounds like something @Booksnrain would post.

 

[DreadBrown]

I'm just gonna use this as fuel breh. I'm straight up deleting my social medias, stop browsing Reddit and searching for advice from others, stop with the YouTube videos. Stop everything. I'm gonna be like Goku in the fukking time chamber. I just had to wake today and realize who the fukk I am. Even MJ had his droughts and bad seasons, who the fukk am I to be different? But now I can either sink or swim, and I'm not sinking. I'll be damned if I get in the best shape of my life and get my money right a bytch ever deny me p*ssy again. But in all honesty I'm thinking of just going back to paying for it. I got exactly what I wanted without the hassle, mind games and bullshyt. No manipulation, no persuading, no arguments. Just a fair exchange and I get to be my full self.

Don’t give it too much over you otherwise you’ll never be fully in control of yourself

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

shut ur ass up

Make me bum bytch. Better yet take that dildo outta your effeminate ass and stop getting hurt and scorned over a fukking internet conversation.
Weird ass hoes. Learn to conversate like you got some damn sense or stay the fukk out grown folks conversations.

 

[EffYou]

Make me bum bytch. Better yet take that dildo outta your effeminate ass and stop getting hurt and scorned over a fukking internet conversation.
Weird ass hoes. Learn to conversate like you got some damn sense or stay the fukk out grown folks conversations.

lol

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I don’t know why people insist in staying in something as fleeting as a bf/gf situation.

Y’all don’t have kids together so what do y’all really have? Memories?

Just move on and find someone else.

desperation. ngl i be waiting for a dude to fukk up so i can move on lol. in that sense i figure i'm not really relationship material though

 

[Carlton Banks]

desperation. ngl i be waiting for a dude to fukk up so i can move on lol. in that sense i figure i'm not really relationship material though

So stop wasting nikkas time

 

[Roger king]

There is no reason a grown man in a committed relationship should be supporting adultery or cheating, its degeneracy and promotes STD , its wrong