Honestly, why are people so mean to each other?

[Reginald Noble]

Perhaps if you stopped chasing those NuSoul Afrique 2nd generation Naija Ameriwan chicks you wouldn't be having these delusions of grandeur

 

[hayesc0]

Mean people are so freaking disgusting and should be banished to planet Mercury .
b*stards.

You want to kill people for being mean?

 

[charmander]

i thought you was a real nikka bro but this a thread a nikka make after the 7th round of a pillow fight with his nikkas

you an exhausted friendly ass nikka bro

slide on me so we can discuss this

 

[BrandonBanks]

Yeah, I understand being mean when somebody had it coming but being an a$$hole for no reason to random ppl is lame.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

I think a big problem is people believe Evil has to be someone who kills or rapes, etc, when Evil can be a subtle as speaking down on another...

A wise person told me pay very close attention to someone's words... they will tell you everything you need to know about someone...

no that's being bad

bad and evil are different things everybody can be bad not everyone can be evil

 

[AlainLocke]

Meanness and rudenss is about devaluing others in order to assert yourself or pushing people away due to fear of being close or attached to other people.

I don't like being mean. Being mean is disgusting.

 

[The M.I.C.]

i thought you was a real nikka bro but this a thread a nikka make after the 7th round of a pillow fight with his nikkas

you an exhausted friendly ass nikka bro

slide on me so we can discuss this

The hell?

 

[315]

Balance

 

[Lady.Libra.]

You want to kill people for being mean?

Now that's just mean .

I just imagine them getting a virtual punt to a far, far away place where other mean people are. They pulverize, brutalize, abuse, and clobber each other all day, every day .

Ok, being serious now - I don't know what to make of mean (unprovoked) people and I don't expend tons of energy trying to figure them out unless they are my family or friends. In my family, if someone is being mean/giving attitude/having a very rough day - I have playfully mocked them until they laughed, made funny faces, sat in their lap & annoyingly hugged/kissed them, rubbed/brushed their hair, sung them a lullaby, tickled them, pillow fought, cooked a delicious meal, been a sounding board, took them for a long drive, went for ice cream, or whatever else I knew would help them bring it down 1000 degrees and not have a stroke. I've done all these silly things and have made them feel better...at least for that time we were together.
With strangers who are mean for no reason (I'm sure they have a multitude of reasons & they feel justified being mean but I'm not the one who did it ), I find them to be very repulsive. I'm not getting close enough to tickle those prickly mugs.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Some people just don't know how to be nice to others. That, or they're afraid of looking vulnerable. Most of the people that I assumed were naturally mean were the nicest people. The only reason why they appeared to be mean was because they didn't want to look weak. Many feel the need to uphold to a certain image. I think it's all stupid. Making someone else's day makes me feel good, so that's what I try to do. Nothing wrong with being kind.

The people who I have loved the most in my life are the ones who are very kind & sweet but have boundaries that they have no problem enforcing. I love, respect, admire, and adore people like this. They are the perfect balance of 'We can smile & laugh but don't get confused and f-ck with me.'

 

[Johnny Kilroy]

I was meditating about this earlier today while I was spitting chickens and it came back to me while observing a protest.

I was hating on the protesters. Some guy told me off. Typically I'd respond with something witty but out of bounds and mean. What he said changed my position.

He said, "some people never fukk with anybody but they get made fun of. I've never heard a vegan tell someone they can't exercise their rights because they eat meat. I've never seen gay people tell straight people they can't get married. Someone's life is their own and everyone has the right to express themselves without being insulted for it."

I'm mean as fukk. People often tell me when they first met me I was rude and mean to them. Lol, to me it's jokes, but to them it's how they view me, as someone who enjoys being mean.

It's not them, it's me, and I've been working my ass off to repair my relationships and communicate in a healthier way. Sometimes I can't believe I said what people tell me I said because it's so fukking foul. Lol but I know I said it because it's outrageous.

Anyway, read it, ignore it, insult me, or support me. You know what it is. We're still out here writing essays in a public space because I'm an attention whore. I'm also full of shyt.

I feel you, breh. I'm learning similar things about myself. Someone told me and I believe them, that we are what we've seen, heard and felt. I recently realized I grew up in a dysfunctional family. It sounds weird to say it, but my home environment was downright abusive. Verbally and emotionally. My parents and siblings were all mean to each other all the time. We picked on each other, made fun of each other, laughed at each other. I never thought anything of it. To me, it was normal. For the longest I thought I had "tough skin" and anyone who couldn't take my insults and jokes was just too sensitive.

In reality I had just built up a brick wall around my heart. That way, my family could never hurt me. Unfortunately, when we build a wall around our heart we block the sun and it turns cold. Plus we can't see the people on the other side of that wall. So I would hurl insults over the wall for fun without the ability to see how it was hurting people. Not realizing everyone didn't grow up the way I did and didn't have this line of defense.

I got "woke" if you will, when my girl left me. Made me re-evaluate some things. Realize how our words effect people. The one thing I learned through it all was empathy. I let the wall down. I shared my thoughts on the matter with my parents and siblings. I knew they would only get defensive and berate me for it. I also knew I would be vulnerable to those attacks without my wall. But I did it anyway. I embraced the pain so I could know how others felt. It's really changed my life for the better I think. I even started posting on the coli again to practice interacting in a more positive way. On the internet we're quick to go in on someone because we're talking to strangers who we can't see. Anyone who disagreed with my opinion was "an idiot" and I was going in on. Now I've learned to respect people's differences of opinions.

Again, we are what we've seen, heard and felt. Only way to break that is to understand that and consciously choose to see something else, through reading, seminars, whatever. Once I realized what it is, it hit me that a lot of our behaviors go back to slavery. How we interact with our families. I think about how easily our families were split up in those days and generationally blacks without dads around has been going on for centuries. All a part of the "master's plan."

Break the cycle, friends. My fam thought I was telling them to place blame. I told them if any fingers would be pointed they would be pointed at me. Because I decided I was going to break that cycle for my family.

Take care of yourselves, and each other.

 

[Stir Fry]

I just got zero tolerance for stupid people these days

 

[hayesc0]

Now that's just mean .

I just imagine them getting a virtual punt to a far, far away place where other mean people are. They pulverize, brutalize, abuse, and clobber each other all day, every day .

Ok, being serious now - I don't know what to make of mean (unprovoked) people and I don't expend tons of energy trying to figure them out unless they are my family or friends. In my family, if someone is being mean/giving attitude/having a very rough day - I have playfully mocked them until they laughed, made funny faces, sat in their lap & annoyingly hugged/kissed them, rubbed/brushed their hair, sung them a lullaby, tickled them, pillow fought, cooked a delicious meal, been a sounding board, took them for a long drive, went for ice cream, or whatever else I knew would help them bring it down 1000 degrees and not have a stroke. I've done all these silly things and have made them feel better...at least for that time we were together.
With strangers who are mean for no reason (I'm sure they have a multitude of reasons & they feel justified being mean but I'm not the one who did it ), I find them to be very repulsive. I'm not getting close enough to tickle those prickly mugs.

I hear you I don't like it either makes the world a shytty place.

 

[Ninjaz In Paris]

no that's being bad

bad and evil are different things everybody can be bad not everyone can be evil

It's very black & white at the end of the day... the gray area is what allows an Evil person to excuse themselves for not being as Evil as the next person... but Evil is still Evil... you're either Good or Evil, you can't serve 2 Masters... Sin only knows Sin regardless of act... but people will often attempt to justify their level of Sinning so they can feel better...