Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later

[Scaaar]

Breh, I know married women who have toys bc their husband travel alot. Toys don't count anymore than a man rubbing one out.

Since when does "selfwork" have to do with finding a partner? Everyone is not out here damaged, some people just can't find good dating options dependent upon where they live. Especially as a minority.

I get hit up all the time by women 200 miles away on dating apps bc they live in areas with low population and/or not much options.

Selfwork has a lot to do with finding a partner. Most relationships fail because people don't do the necessary work to grow and thrive in a healthy relationship. All I see on most of this post is dudes saying they don't put effort into dating women because of what another man that they don't know could or couldn't be doing for her. That's insecurity and trauma lol. Even the dude from the Reddit post hasn't done his selfwork because he was so insecure he went through his chic phone.

Lastly a lot of people have options where they are. Most people are too delusional and self centered to have a realistic view on where they truly stack on the dating market. Hell I just learned about "Shrekking" on here a couple of days ago . I'm of the mindset and belief that if you can't find anyone out here. The #1 person to blame is the person in the mirror. That's who is holding you back lol

 

[Rekkapryde]

I’m surprised at the comments on here because they differ from Reddit. What I saw on Reddit, I thought I would see on the coli. But, I agree, he should dump her. If a man fukked another chick after our first date and I found out, I would be cutting the corners of my eyes every time I see his face, bolmao. It would be over. fukk it.

people stay ignoring red flags.

 

[Scaaar]

This thread is interesting

Where are y'all finding these single attractive unicorns, with no one on their line, just waiting for you to pop up and take them on a date?

Don't forget she looks like an IG chic and has sex like a pornstar too but she has a low body count. Also he's not spending any money on the first date it has to coffee because he's not a simp and she'll have sex with him on the first night off the tip because he's this amazing high value man

 

[folasade]

It's only serious if she led him on.. if she gave this nikka the whole "We got to know each other first" al speech where she turned him down and he had to go on 3 or 4 dates to finally hit or get a relationship whereas a dude can just slide in them guts with little to no effort . It fukks with dude

Then he needs to get over it. He's not entitled to her p*ssy off of just one date. It's her body and her choice. And she could have really liked him even if she wanted to not rush into fukking him and wanted to get to know him. You do realize women categorize men too, right? Women like sex too. There are men that are dateable, men that are good enough for one hook up, and men who are cool enough for a fwb situation. It is what it is.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

No issues here.

It was only a first date and the other dude was already smashing.

The reddit OP....ASSumes that she would have chosen Chad/Jamal if he committed, but maybe she just enjoyed him as a FWB and had no intention of ever getting serious with him.

Women will smash a dude they don't view as relationship material.

If this was a situation where Sir Smash had JUST met her and got the draws Day One right after y'alls date, I could understand being (a little) salty....but she already knew Sir Smash, and Mr. Date just met her. It's not his business what she's up to. They're not a couple yet.

HOWEVER - he's not obligated to stick with her.

I’m stealing this.

 

[folasade]

This thread is interesting

Where are y'all finding these single attractive unicorns, with no one on their line, just waiting for you to pop up and take them on a date?

That's also not talking to other men as well and just sit at home at watch PBS all day. I bet these are the men that get mad at women for even talking to other men when you've only known them for a week.

 

[MajesticLion]

Make your choices, live with your choices.

 

[jadillac]

Selfwork has a lot to do with finding a partner. Most relationships fail because people don't do the necessary work to grow and thrive in a healthy relationship. All I see on most of this post is dudes saying they don't put effort into dating women because of what another man that they don't know could or couldn't be doing for her. That's insecurity and trauma lol. Even the dude from the Reddit post hasn't done his selfwork because he was so insecure he went through his chic phone.

Lastly a lot of people have options where they are. Most people are too delusional and self centered to have a realistic view on where they truly stack on the dating market. Hell I just learned about "Shrekking" on here a couple of days ago . I'm of the mindset and belief that if you can't find anyone out here. The #1 person to blame is the person in the mirror. That's who is holding you back lol

Self work and healing has its place when necessary, but affirming something you suspect someone of, is not "insecurity". It's just doing your due diligence.

Now maybe one ties into the other, ie if you were healed, you might not be suspicious of someone. But at the same time, healing doesn't automatically mean someone is not doing the same thing to you as someone else did. In fact that probably common. That's why some ppl have a guard up

Bigger question is for the ppl who ain't bout sht, why do they keep putting themselves in the dating market knowing they are foul?

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Don't forget she looks like an IG chic and has sex like a pornstar too but she has a low body count. Also he's not spending any money on the first date it has to coffee because he's not a simp and she'll have sex with him on the first night off the tip because he's this amazing high value man

She also needs to be a Michelin star level chef, have hobbies, a great social life, and be excited to get in bed with prime Wendell Pierce after a watered down drink at Applebees, because any man who isn’t cheating on her, or beating her is a good man.

 

[OneManGang]

12 pages

Shout out to the ppl on the first page with sense. You’re a lame if this bothers you. A first date means nothing, I’ve def done the same before

 

[Jazzy B.]

I've met a few women who literally are single and haven't had sex in over a year,

And you actually believed that bullshyt

They say shyt like that to spare y’all’s feelings.

 

[Ozymandeas]

The idea of the guy leaving the date thinking about the girl while the girl leaves the date to exchange fluids with her FWB still has me

 

[Coco Loco]

Don't forget she looks like an IG chic and has sex like a pornstar too but she has a low body count. Also he's not spending any money on the first date it has to coffee because he's not a simp and she'll have sex with him on the first night off the tip because he's this amazing high value man

UNI-FÚCKING-CORN!!!!!

Now it makes sense why a lot of dudes have dry dįcks, entitlement and anger issues. They're looking for a unicorn!

Listen their standards and preferences are their right! They shouldn't let anyone tell them not to have them, but just like those women looking for a male unicorn, how long are they willing to keep this going?

Will reality hit them when they have grey pubes and dust coming out of their dįck

With how AI is advancing technology at a scary rate, maybe they can create the unicorn and live happily ever after

That's also not talking to other men as well and just sit at home at watch PBS all day. I bet these are the men that get mad at women for even talking to other men when you've only known them for a week.

Make it make sense babe!

 

[The Pledge]

She owed him nothing after only one date. They were basically strangers

This

This reminds me of the breh who wanted to know if the woman was on her period on the first date

The fukk is wrong with some of yall

 

[Apprentice]

12 pages

Shout out to the ppl on the first page with sense. You’re a lame if this bothers you. A first date means nothing, I’ve def done the same before

Once again comparing yourself to a women lol

nikkas happily spending money and courting a women so you can drop her off and a random nikka can come eat it from the back


You at home playing 2k telling yourself “it’s okay, it’s only the first date ”


If a bytch not letting you fukk first date and she getting gunned by another nikka, she wasn’t fukking wit u like that

Y’all in here talm bout “game” and “we weren’t exclusive yet” sound like some nikkas who have spent their whole life getting spun by women