Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later

[folasade]

All of what you said is well and good. He's not entitled to anything, and she very well could not have wanted to rush. Her reasoning is her reasoning. But reading through that thread provides more info that may be key to this whole thing.

- She was setting up her next play 20 minutes after the date (according to that thread, the timing of that bothered him). A good first date will have you trying to set the next one up ASAP as opposed to setting up your next session.

- The guy who posted about said that their first date was fairly run of the mill but from what he gathered, she didn't seem all that into him, so he didn't try to make any moves. Later, he found out that wasn't the case and she actually liked him. He mentions a running joke among the friend groups being that they had to be convinced to do a second date, and the third date is where they got on track.

- When confronted, she said that the person she ended up fukking was someone she had dated in the past, but that person didn't want a relationship with her. About a month after the OP and the girl got together, the other cat reached out to her but was promptly shut down and blocked. She also said that if it were the other way around, she wouldn't like it either.

- Guy said he has a "no sex on the first date" rule he goes by. Perhaps if not for that, she doesn't have to set up the next play.

The timing is still his personal issue though. She doesn't owe him anything at that stage. And not all couples have good first dates for a variety of reasons.

Him not making a move was his choice given you last point. She doesn't have to follow his rule.

okay, so she went with reliable dikk? Many women do that. You know what you're getting and there's a layer of trust there. She could possibly like having someone she knows to have sex with instead of random stranger. That's normal. If he reached out and she blocked him then that's a good thing for the insecure man. It would be different if she was trying link up while in a relationship.

 

[Scaaar]

shyt my current girl watched the flick I made with her former associate, she was like 'You was fukking the shyt outta that bytch!!! Damn her ass got fat after she had her baby.' That's how I knew my girl was special she be on the same type of vibe and time I'm on. It didn't happen while we was together so who cares about it, all that matters is what happens while we are together.

If more men and women thought like this Dating and relationships will be so much easier. They spend too much time worrying about what someone else did or didn't do instead of just dating and being present in the relationship.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Oh nvm it said she's texting dude she fukked currently

The way yall were talking yall I thought she just fukked him then and then they was in a relationship and everything was lovely

Yeah leave her

 

[Harleminthe80s]

The lying about it part is the reason to break it off can’t trust that chick anymore. The hell you going through her text messages though

 

[SpikeLee Cumbersmith]

Fellas,you should always get tested before smashing.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

If more men and women thought like this Dating and relationships will be so much easier. They spend too much time worrying about what someone else did or didn't do instead of just dating and being present in the relationship.

Lol man anyone who is actually out here clapping cheeks ain't shocked by no shyt like this. These nikkas on here just ain't getting no coochie that's all it is. This is a big ass nothing-burger they making a big deal about. I actually be fukking broads(turning they ass out to tell the truth I brings the freak out of them) ain't nobody who actually clapping cheeks thinking he the only one she talking to and they just casually dating or it was a first date. Lol nikkas be telling on themselves all the time.

Only part that's wrong is her lying about the shyt, stand ten toes on it, but why was old boy in her phone anyway sounds to me like he was looking for a reason to dead the shyt.

 

[Scaaar]

You go out on a date with a girl
It’s a good date and you feeling her but it didn’t go anywhere physically yet

You go home around 10pm and a girl who you know that’s attractive is leaving the club and wants to come over and kick it. You ain’t had sex in a month. What you finna do?

You know most men taking her up on that offer. But they're playing double standards games in here. It's only foul when women do it for some reason lol

 

[folasade]

Again, you and others are missing the point. I would be perfectly fine with someone being upfront saying that they are dating (or just fukking) other people while with the person they are with, that is cool. People do not do that however, because they know the response they would get would not be positive.

Man or woman, the average person is not going to have a positive response if the person that they are with was fukking with other people while they were dating. As crazy as it may seem, but not everyone out here has a roster of people they are cycling through and fukking regularly. If you live that lifestyle and want something serious, either stop doing that or be upfront with the person you are dating about your lifestyle.

So what's the point? She messed up my not being honest, but he was going to have an issue anyway for doing something that's in her right to do.

You are right, not everyone has roster. But not everyone is hyper-fixating on who the other person is fukking on the first date. Some people are even going on multiple dates.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Oh...yeah I do that lol. But I make enough that I'm able to do so without changing my standard of living. All dudes should date within their budget. But yeah if I'm interested in going somewhere and I want female companionship I'll ask a chic out. I might buy two tickets to an event months ahead and decide who I want to ask a week or two before it. They can be someone I'm romantically pursuing, FWBs, female platonic friend, etc. Sometimes they might offer to pay but mostly I cover the tab since I invited them. To you that might be a waste but I don't view it that way. I like to live and enjoy life while experiencing people and new things. No point in just sitting on money. Tomorrow is never promised

I have a guy like this. I always joke that we've been dating for 10 years. Never had sex with him but if he needs a date and he's not in a relationship he calls me.

He usually likes to use me to make other women mad. I've seen 3 women that were supposed to be his "friends" go into crying fits after meeting me.

I'M A JUST A PAWN LADIES!!

He's a scoundrel which is why you won't catch me being serious with him. But this man is an absolutely FANTASTIC date!

This man will take you to a NBA game, boat party, tapas, happy hour and a nice sit down restaurant in 1 date. I never miss a call.



I know p*ssy be falling out the sky for him. Lol

 

[Apprentice]

You go out on a date with a girl
It’s a good date and you feeling her but it didn’t go anywhere physically yet

You go home around 10pm and a girl who you know that’s attractive is leaving the club and wants to come over and kick it. You ain’t had sex in a month. What you finna do?

You’re a man bro

 

[Menna]

Some women know or look at men as just sex cause of no stability or they are married/in a relationship or whatever else. Then they have men they view as long term and make them wait or they want to wait to build a connection… it is what it is… they were just dating so….

 

[Ohene]

You’re a man bro

i get it and agree. but this aint 1987

these women out here are different and you have to adapt. you cant be naiive. i can understand the man deading it because she lied about it and even if you know shyt like this happens you dont want to be confronted with it overtly. however, she didnt necessarily do anything "wrong".

and as many said the only reason he was confronted with it was because he looked through her phone. so why did he do that? she musta been showing untrusting / hoeish behavior in other ways...or he has trust issues.

as a man you have to operate under the assumption that this is how most women you meet are moving. and then the ones who arent will naturally stand out when you come across them. but thats the status quo.

just a few months ago i had a chick giving me neck after i took her out for her birthday. after i finished bustin in her mouth some dude called her around midnight to wish her a happy birthday. for all i know that nikka hittin it or is like the boyfriend in the OP. for all he know, that girl was at her homegirls house chilling and watching a movie.

i knew and accepted what type of hoe I was dealing with which is why when the dude called i said "go head and answer it."...hopefully homeboy did too. Its all in the game.

 

[Mugenight]

If the bytch moving like that she shouldn't have been going on Dates period. All you sucka ass nikka's making excuses for this broads trash ass behavior is redundant.

 

[BrehWyatt]

The timing is still his personal issue though. She doesn't owe him anything at that stage. And not all couples have good first dates for a variety of reasons.

Him not making a move was his choice given you last point. She doesn't have to follow his rule.

okay, so she went with reliable dikk? Many women do that. You know what you're getting and there's a layer of trust there. She could possibly like having someone she knows to have sex with instead of random stranger. That's normal. If he reached out and she blocked him then that's a good thing for the insecure man. It would be different if she was trying link up while in a relationship.

I agree she didn't owe him anything.

As for the reliable dikk -- there's a lot of women in the world who'd rather go that route than add to their body count -- the way he took it, especially when it came out that the reliable dikk was attached to someone she dated but did not want a relationship with her -- fukked with his psyche. He said it left him feeling like he was somebody's second choice.

He did what was best for his ego and pride. Maybe he handles it better if it were just some random. I don't know.

On some level, I can understand. As wild as the timing is, I doubt it would've mattered that much if it were a random one-night stand.

 

[Ohene]

I agree she didn't owe him anything.

As for the reliable dikk -- there's a lot of women in the world who'd rather go that route than add to their body count -- the way he took it, especially when it came out that the reliable dikk was attached to someone she dated but did not want a relationship with her -- fukked with his psyche. He said it left him feeling like he was somebody's second choice.

He did what was best for his ego and pride. Maybe he handles it better if it were just some random. I don't know.

On some level, I can understand. As wild as the timing is, I doubt it would've mattered that much if it were a random one-night stand.

theyll ignore the bold

and lets face it ...a lot of us have been the dude who dated a girl and smashed knowing we didnt wanna take her seriously