Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later

[Scaaar]

And this is why dude said you don't sound like you have had much dating experience.

It's unwise for any nikka to be mentally thinking relationship before he has even fukked the broad.

Do you know how many women I have completely lost interest in after I fukked?

They love putting the cart before the horse. They be on the first date worried if the chic is going to take half of his resources if they get a divorce....that's why they ain't fukking them on the first date.

 

[jadillac]

Yeah some men do. I do. I think a lot of brehs don't date their wages. I can go out multiple times a weeks and spend 70, 80,90,etc. a pop of I feel like it. It doesn't always have to be sex. Sometimes I just want that feminine presence around me for conversation. A lot of times it leads to sex. But I have the choice to say no or not depending on how I feel or I might have somewhere else I planning on falling through later that evening.

I have money like that breh.

HOWEVER, the issue for me is spending the money on some woman that I'm not dating. I'd rather give that away to a needy person than to a woman I'm not with.

Me personally, after work I have to go the gym, find/fix something to eat, watch a tv program if I have time and then go to bed.

Going out multiple times per week for me would need to be truly intentional with someone I like. I mean I do hang out with female co-workers occasionally and we'll trade off buying each others dinner

But that's just me wnd my philosophy

 

[Ozymandeas]

True but he doesn't owe her his time now either, considering she hid this information because she knew how he'd feel about it.

He's at home half watching tv/gaming thinking about her and she's either kissing/sucking on the next man or he's slamming it in, sweaty balls beating against her damp butthole with his hands supporting the bend of her knees.

Totally different values and carriage which WILL come into play later.

They're four months in, he'll be good and probably she will too.

With other people.

 

[jadillac]

And this is why dude said you don't sound like you have had much dating experience.

It's unwise for any nikka to be mentally thinking relationship before he has even fukked the broad.

Do you know how many women I have completely lost interest in after I fukked?

I've dated plenty and of course with that comes alot of foolishness.

But people have different philosophies.

If you're looking for a relationship, you don't need to smash to know she MIGHT be a keeper. You can discern that in many ways.

 

[reserved_one]

He gotta cut ties. If she doing that after the first date? It’s a sign of things to come if they did get into a relationship.

She’s not wrong for doing that but you can’t take her seriously and it seems like the dude she fukked that night knows she ain’t nothing but drop off p*ssy for him.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

I know for a fact that it happened to me, except in my case dude picked her up from our date.

To be fair I had the opportunity to take her home first. Family had come in to town and staying at my place. They were supposed to leave days earlier, so when I planned the date they were supposed to be gone. They extended their stay and she lived with her mom. She asked if I wanted to continue the date at my place and had to turn her down and that I needed to bounce anyway cause I was supposed to bring the fam back some food. So she calls her "gay friend" to come pick her and give her a ride home. I find out later it was her ex-boyfriend and that turned into her hooking up with him behind my back the whole time we were dating.

Part of the game, we all take Ls. Just got to know when to cut your losses when you find out. Can't save em.

Drop the caper my guy

 

[BrehWyatt]

She didn't. At the same time, why is she going on dates if she's already getting fukked by some dude? You'd never hear the end of it if the roles were reversed and a woman finds out you fukked another bytch after dropping her off at home on your first date.

This.

Reddit guy did what was best for his psyche and all that. One would think that if the date was good enough to lead to an actual relationship, then buddy who smashed after the first date would have gotten cut off. Instead, he probably had free access to her at any time.

Now granted, she didn't owe the guy anything. She's in her rights to move however she pleases until they become exclusive, and she can't get mad if he doesn't accept it. My takeaway is that two things fukked it up for him:

1. She tried to lie about it. Red flag.
2. The whole thing left him feeling like he was the backup option and that the fukkbuddy was the chick's first choice, but he wouldn't commit. This is probably more impactful on him than the lie, for all we know.

However true that may be for many people in the world, nobody WILLINGLY wants to be another person's second option for a relationship.

They LIE to y’all because they know y’all can’t handle hearing her say “I was fukking someone else when we first met”


They KNOW y’all the types to judge them. A breh running through chicks wouldn’t care because he would be doing the same. They can tell that to that type of breh..

Breh, it's a thread in there where some woman is struggling to get past the fact that her boyfriend of 4 months slept with an escort while abroad at a wedding a year or so before they met, and she's wondering if the relationship should continue. People judge people all the time, and insecurity is a PREVALENT mother fukker. It is what it is.

 

[desjardins]

A first date means absolutely nothing
There was no guarantee she would even hear from dude again
She supposed to cut off her roster and rearrange her life because a nikka took her on ONE date?
She was wrong for lying about it but dude already went through her phone and was clearly insecure about it so she was probably trying to save his feelings
You should always assume people are fukking other people until they commit to you. These bytches be out here single for YEARS yall really think somebody not tagging on the regular? Better yet who are you fukking as a man? Do yall cut off your roster cause some random agreed to go on a date with you

 

[Scaaar]

I have money like that breh.

HOWEVER, the issue for me is spending the money on some woman that I'm not dating. I'd rather give that away to a needy person than to a woman I'm not with.

Me personally, after work I have to go the gym, find/fix something to eat, watch a tv program if I have time and then go to bed.

Going out multiple times per week for me would need to be truly intentional with someone I like. I mean I do hang out with female co-workers occasionally and we'll trade off buying each others dinner

But that's just me wnd my philosophy

So again the question is how do you end up dating a woman? You go out on dates to get to know if you in this person have any chemistry and get along with each other. If you don't want to spend any bread in the initial stages, how do you get to the point where you know this is someone that you want to be intentional with? Also during this process do you expect her not to be fielding her options? Even moreso because you don't want to spend bread on her. You just want to talk/text with her for weeks until it feels right

 

[⠀X ⠀]

As a man, this kinda stuff should be expected.

 

[Scaaar]

A first date means absolutely nothing
There was no guarantee she would even hear from dude again
She supposed to cut off her roster and rearrange her life because a nikka took her on ONE date?
She was wrong for lying about it but dude already went through her phone and was clearly insecure about it so she was probably trying to save his feelings
You should always assume people are fukking other people until they commit to you. These bytches be out here single for YEARS yall really think somebody not tagging on the regular? Better yet who are you fukking as a man? Do yall cut off your roster cause some random agreed to go on a date with you

Right! They spend $90 dollars and she's supposed to drop everything and be grateful lol. These dudes don't really be dating like that. They love through other people's experiences and social media talking points. That's why there takes be so far away from reality. Just go read that thread about dealing with women. The same dudes using that red pill logic are the same ones asking for advice and what to do when they finally get a date and don't know how to respond in real time when they're face to face with a woman lol

 

[Apprentice]

After reading this thread I understand why bytches do what they do lol

nikkas do not respect themselves lol, why are you men comparing yourselves to women?

 

[jadillac]

So again the question is how do you end up dating a woman? You go out on dates to get to know if you in this person have any chemistry and get along with each other. If you don't want to spend any bread in the initial stages, how do you get to the point where you know this is someone that you want to be intentional with? Also during this process do you expect her not to be fielding her options? Even moreso because you don't want to spend bread on her. You just want to talk/text with her for weeks until it feels right

Bro. You're describing a different scenario in this reply than you did in the post I replied.

Now, you are talking about 1 person.... before you were talking about going on multiple dates, multiple times per week with multiple different women.

So that's what I responded to

 

[Mordith]

I've dated plenty and of course with that comes alot of foolishness.

But people have different philosophies.

If you're looking for a relationship, you don't need to smash to know she MIGHT be a keeper. You can discern that in many ways.

That's putting the cart before the horse.

Because how do YOU know that she's a keeper before YOU know how YOU are going to feel after YOU smash?

Unless you are just the type of dude who romanticisies a women in your mind.

Which is why the dude from Reddit is in his feels.

 

[threattonature]

I have money like that breh.

HOWEVER, the issue for me is spending the money on some woman that I'm not dating. I'd rather give that away to a needy person than to a woman I'm not with.

Me personally, after work I have to go the gym, find/fix something to eat, watch a tv program if I have time and then go to bed.

Going out multiple times per week for me would need to be truly intentional with someone I like. I mean I do hang out with female co-workers occasionally and we'll trade off buying each others dinner

But that's just me wnd my philosophy

I'm in the middle. I'll pay for a date or two but I ain't paying for anything extravegant or trying to lead with money. I can afford it but not trying to drop hundreds of dollars on a date trying to impress. A woman has to work her way up to that. It's never caused me any problems dating.