Yep.Women ain’t honest because y’all can’t handle what they would tell you
A woman telling you she hasn’t had sex in a year did that because she doesn’t want to make you feel bad or for you to start judging her.
If y’all smash women the way y’all say y’all do then you should already assume there are men in the picture in some capacity. Especially in this digital era age which makes it easier for women to do that.
Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later
- Thread starter Sonny Bonds
- Start date
Yep.Ahhh i see so his gut feeling was right...
I guess I'm wondering what happened to where he developed said gut feeling. As far as I know, she was loyal to breh from the moment she was obligated to be.
Remembering the first date is just that. It isn’t some sacred thing in real time when you had it. I’m married and I remember our first date. I cant recall if I was seeing anyone else when I had the first date but if I was, I probably stopped by her place on my way back from the date.I’m saying! Married couples tend to remember their first date. The fact that something sacred like that and you’re just gonna gloss over your spouse fukking somebody else RIGHT after y’all’s date?
You’re getting to know someone on the first date so you have no obligation to them. You don’t even know if they are single until after the first date. Unless we are FaceTiming all night as soon as the date is over, I’m gonna assume she could be with someone until there comes a time where I believe there is an expectation of exclusivity between us.
That doesn’t happen on the first goddamn date. This is not a big deal, he made it one. He worried about the wrong thing. Her doing that when they JUST met isn’t a problem. Her even lying about it isn’t either really, I’d expect that. The bigger problem is why are you clearly still texting a guy you used to fukk and we’ve been going out for 4 months? That’s the fireable offense.
But judging from dudes whole way of thinking, I bet they aren’t even dating for real. That’s not his girlfriend, they are friends who hook up and he doesn’t understand. It’s not a real relationship.
LiveFromLondon
Superstar
The world's most virtuous woman also posts on ThecoliThis is actually a really good discussion and I agree with both sides of the argument.
Let me get in on this.
For me personally, I have never had a roster of people I am sleeping and I've never been one to sleep around. Now, a lot of people don't believe this, but it's true. I'm incredibly loyal and my eyes don't stray.
I am a very practical, skeptical and A-line thinker so hopping from bed to bed has never made sense to me. It's completely reckless and illogical IMO.
When dating I ALWAYS assume the other person is having sex with someone else.
I think having sex with multiple people is nasty and a terrible idea for a woman especially because a dude being in other women can mess up your PH and cause you to get BV among other things.
HOWEVER, if dating a desirable man you'd have to be an idiot to think he isn't getting cheeks so if you are having sex the best you can do is get tested (both of you) and wear a condom to stay safe.
I won't lie the thought of a man I really like having sex with someone else is a turn off for me. As a result (and because I assume everyone is) i don't get emotionally attached easily.
It's to the point now where I have had multipe men I have dated tell me "You act like a nikka!!" or accuse me of cheating. One guy told me I was too "attractive to trust" and all types of wild shyt.
I'm not emotionally investing in a dude giving out dikks like lollipops. But I'm also not going to hold it against him. We can date and, if we decide that is the best thing for us, we can see about being commited but I ain't crying or carrying on with anyone unless I know we are 100% on the same page.
So I agree with both sides. Great discussion.
etrofllenrod504
Superstar
Sounds like an insecure dude who only had her as an option. If you man with some type of rotation or some consistent cakes while single, you ain’t tripping on this. You not exclusive then it’s fair game. Also the first date??? Maaaan c’mon.
The only issue I’d see is if she still had breh orbiting. If not, then who gives a damn. dikk her down to the point she forgets he existed.
The only issue I’d see is if she still had breh orbiting. If not, then who gives a damn. dikk her down to the point she forgets he existed.
number21
Strive for rulership not equality, black man.
The game is the game.
You cats want this.
You cats want this.
number21
Strive for rulership not equality, black man.
"You owe no one anything"
Same nergoes will turn around and preach black unity and love.
You cats are confused on another level.
Same nergoes will turn around and preach black unity and love.
You cats are confused on another level.
That's the thing RE: the bolded. From what OP said, the last time the guy reached out to her, she shut it down, said she was in a relationship with OP and then blocked him. That was about a month after said first date or very early into their relationship.
CreepyMcCreeperson
Veteran
I’m not surprised by most of the responses in this thread. Nobody is exclusive after one date, and if you’re the type to think this is egregious, you most likely think someone going on date with you equals interest, and commitment.
You can date intentionally, and still sleep with people you know aren’t going to be the one. Some people are cool to talk to, hangout with, but they aren’t the one for you. That doesn’t mean they are low quality, they just aren’t the one for you, but you’re physically attracted to them. If both parties are honest, I don’t see the problem. Human beings have needs, and to expect a woman to ignore her needs after ONE date, and most of y’all are only doing drinks, and coffee on a first date, then expect her to cut all other men off after $30 max, because you gave her a good conversation is crazy to me.
You can date intentionally, and still sleep with people you know aren’t going to be the one. Some people are cool to talk to, hangout with, but they aren’t the one for you. That doesn’t mean they are low quality, they just aren’t the one for you, but you’re physically attracted to them. If both parties are honest, I don’t see the problem. Human beings have needs, and to expect a woman to ignore her needs after ONE date, and most of y’all are only doing drinks, and coffee on a first date, then expect her to cut all other men off after $30 max, because you gave her a good conversation is crazy to me.
What's crazy is they don't. Because they're the same type that love to post the clips of chics going out with dudes strictly for food and use it as their basis for not taking women out. They move the goal post to fit their narrative of why they're not an active participant in dating. Any sane and normal person saw this as a nothing burger except for them. But it just points out the fact that's it's a subsect of angry, miserable, and entitled that aren't getting the results they want out here dating and they spend a lot of time posting clips and pointing the finger at everyone/everything else as the reason people aren't choosing up on them except for themselves lol
number21
Strive for rulership not equality, black man.
Free for all babble.
But I bet you think Black people need to come together to overthrow "White Supremacy" though.
Ah man you nikkas aren’t serious people.
