How are black men coddled and a protected group?

[MajesticLion]

Your post made me think of something I saw a while ago. Time 4:00-6:00

Question answered.

 

[High Art]

I see what u saying. But honestly I hate how us BM AS A COLLECTIVE give BM haters justification to use against us.

Those BM haters use statistics against us like crime rates, unemployment rates, education rates, absentee father rates, us killing men, women and children of our races and STD rates. It's sad and I just want us as BM to do better and be better as a collective. Also, we need to do better towards women and children of our race.

Sometimes I hate the shyt we have to deal with.

A lot of those stats are not taken in context. It is easy to amass a bunch of stats and make a group look bad. Even more, it is easy to apply a reason to a series of correlations instead of noting the trends themselves. People who do all of this are hoping and relying on the fact that the average person is not well-versed or has a background in dealing with stats like an epidemiologist or statistician. It's how white supremacists fool people and how those that hate black men fool people as well.

That said, all groups could do better towards their own. All of them. And yes, it is easy to pull up stats to show this and even more, put a spin on it to make them look even worse.

 

[Weaver31]

@Weaver31

If you feel this way, and you're not planning to do anything about it, expect more of the same. As long as there are no repercussions for the things you have a problem with, it will continue.

Complaining to other members of the group isn't going to change one thing.

U still didn't answer the question

 

[Astroslik]

There are literally state sanctioned murders of black men. How are we coddled?

 

[tuckgod]

It’s very true

 

[Weaver31]

It’s very true

What's very true?

 

[get these nets]

U still didn't answer the question

You are ducking a clear suggestion I made. Keep complaining, though.

 

[DA_LURKA]

Because black men are the white people of black people...

 

[V Skyye]

I disagree that Black boys are coddled in school. Black kids go from being “cute kids” to just being Black around the age of 7 or 8, which is why I don’t believe in putting kids in school with too many white teachers during their formative years.

Black men aren’t coddled. I think the biggest issue has been Black men’s participation in the manisphere. I’m not sure who thought it was a good idea to publicly call out Black women under the guise of accountability. Because what happened is Black women clapped back hard, turned the mirror back to Black men’s failures, and the media loves nothing more than to highlight the failures and criticisms of Black men. It was like bringing a knife to a gun fight. Or winning a battle but losing the war. We have to keep our issues in house. But with social media that’s practically impossible.

 

[Taadow]

When you do something bad and people make an excuse for you then it's coddling. It's not all black men but in some black household yes black meñ are coddled by their moms.

No, those Black men are not "coddled" by their Moms if the inference is those Men are "protected".

Likely those men are raised by their Moms to be Son-Husbands - so those men aren't "protected" or "excused"
If (IF) any man does something "bad", his Mama isn't gonna save him from consequences of his actions.

 

[The Wall Is Undefeated!]

Because 'PaTrIaRcHy!', 'YAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSS', 'DuStY'.

And other such nonsensical bullshyt.

 

[TheAnointedOne]

My Grown Son Told Me Today He Wants Limited Contact With Me/No Contact With My Husband.

Thank you. I was 56 and he was 39. I really really appreciate your prayers. He called me back tonight and asked for "no contact" but would not tell me why. He doesnt have to tell you. You are a nobody to him. This font is very mentally unwell and I can see why nobody saw it for her until she...

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Black woman posted a story about her son having possible mental illness:

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We went to visit with them two weeks ago for the weekend and had a nice time. Next time I talked to him, he was rude to me on the phone. I let it rest, and then called him back to today, and he was still rude to me. I asked him to please tell why he was upset. Finally drug it out of him that he never wants to see my husband again, but refuses to say why, and told me he already told me enough. My husband is not his father. I married my husband seven years ago. My son's father was a man who I got pregnant by at age 16. Now I'm 60. I gave my son to adoption for a better life, which he says he has had. His adoptive father passed suddenly in December, and since then, my son has lost 80 pounds, from nearly 300 pounds, which I think maybe a red flag?

He refused to say why my husband was no longer allowed around his family. He said his family took a vote to never see him again. He is 43, wife is 44 and my grandson is 11. I asked my husband why he thinks my son would do this? The only thing we can think of is at the visit, my husband and my DIL went inside to talk. My son and I were outside. My husband told me that when my son came in, that he(husband) and my DIL were sitting at the table, and she was crying because she said my son was "no longer the man she married", and she said he was being "manic" that day, and my husband had taken her hand across the table to comfort her. Do you think that's why he so enraged? Son also called my grandson "fat" that day at the pool, and I didn't say a thing.

Is my son having mental issues or ????

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Mental health isn't taken seriously in the black community especially if the sufferer is a black man. I'm sure you guys will just gloss over and tell him to 'man up' repeatedly until he pulls a Chris Benoit.

Black Women are treated the harshest for every issue, any mistake.

Black Men are coddled by other BM and plenty of Black Women w/the pickmeisha spirit.

We see way more BM age 30+ living at home in their Mom's house telling stories of yester year, meanwhile all the Black Female relatives had to get up/get out and get something.

Seems to be something black feminists often repeat. Like the whole, "BLACK WOMEN ARE KILLED EVERY 4 MINUTES" bullshyt

 

[tuckgod]

What's very true?

Black men in America are coddled and protected

 

[Wildhundreds]

If y'all keeping it .. When yall talk about single moms, you're also talking about coddled children, that grow up to be coddled adults.

 

[TheAnointedOne]

Good thing idk who Cynthia G is or what a divestor is. From white men that shyt is to be expected

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Come on man. How you spend a considerable amount of time on the internet, have 37k+ posts on a black website, and never heard of a divestor? Come on man. I don't get why some of you guys play dumb.