How Can I successfully maintain a side chick??

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In order to maintain some side trim, you gotta be on point.

Ideally, you should let your girl know you smash puss on the side. If you on point with ya life she will deal with it.

If you're not there, you MUST let the side know she's a side! nikkas mess up when you mislead women. nikkas go overboard with the lying and make fools of themselves.

Also, unless you really doing the dayum thang, you better make sure ol girl has a man. Single women usually don't make good sides because they hold all the cards.
 
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mcdivit85 said:
The reason women get different reactions with the "side dude" thing is because women have a much harder time simply having an ongoing sexual relationship with a man without letting it affect their emotions and therefore, their relationship at home. When a woman is continually having sex with another man, she will develop an emotional attachment towards that man even if she never plans to be with him or leave her boyfriend/husband for him.

Women tend to allow this emotional attachment to affect how they act at home.....and THAT is the biggest problem. If a woman starts to have an ongoing situation with another man, the respect and treatment that she gives her man tends to fall off. She tends to have less and less respect for her man because she knows that she is doing something wrong and deep down wants her man to check her for it. Women want leadership from their man, and if they're not being led or chastised for bad behavior, even bad behavior they consciously choose to engage in, they will start to have contempt for the man whose supposed to be leading her.

Men generally don't have this issue because they are not women and are not built like women. A man can cheat on his wife and never develop feelings strong enough for his side chick to affect his treatment of his wife based on his dealings with the side chick. If a man starts to deteriorate his feelings for his wife, its because he was feeling some type of way independent of the side chick....not as a result of the side chick. That's the difference.

Women are not built to be men, and it's sad that so many women today feel so apathetic towards their femininity that they take on some of the worse attributes of men in order to proclaim their equality. Women are not built to be players and they're not built to internalize sex the same way men do, which is why they tend to get attached moreso than men when engaging in sexual relationships.

Men and women are judged by two different sets of ideals because men and women are two different beings.

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No I call bs. You guys try to make men sound like they aren't human beings, like they have no emotions and can manipulate on cue just to put their penis in a new hole. If that were true there wouldnt be so many men running off with their lovers or mistresses. Men like to THINK that they can have sex without attachment of some kind forming, but if you're having sex with the same woman something is going to develop between you. It may not be love or a relationship but it's something. Even if it's with different women the emotional attachment is now the chase for sex with the others and financial with the main. It becomes a pointless and arbitrary relationship with no real purpose or meaning but to pay bills. Your sex life becomes your obsession and it just sounds like a little of your personhood and likability is lost.

And then men think they are able to treat their main the same or better and that's not true either or possible for expanded amount of time. You're either going to try to overcompensate for your guilt or fear of being found out or losing money or whatever is keeping you with the main girl, or will become dismissive out of lost respect for a doormat that was blind to what was going on. Eventually it will become about what the side girl does that your main girl doesn't, and what a plethora of side girls could do for you. The resulting attitude crosses over to the relationship whether you are aware of it or not. Women can always tell when men are cheating. Things start feeling different. Men are human beings with emotions that show through like anyone else; they aren't animals or magicians.
 
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Look to the female in here asking why homie needs a jumpoff.

If his main chick was holding shyt down 100% at home. Not 90%.....If everything was on point. He wouldn't need a jumpoff. That 's my belief. men step out to fill the cravings and desires not being met.

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Op, you got some good advice from the fellas in here. I hope u take it and make your next move, the best move.

Im telling you, lil moma cant save you when Slim kicks you out. You can get that Plan B shyt out cha head right now.:skip:
 
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BedRoomI'z said:
Didn't u just get a new spot too?
Oh hell :snoop:
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I did. 2 months ago. But I patched things up with the ex. However, this new chick is fun and her body is :banderas: Nice perky Ds, ass is phat/thick and she is a blast to chill with. But not wife able even if I was single. She pursued me like it was some friend shyt but after we fvcked she said it was a plan of hers all along :smugbiden: And I respect that but I literally feel like I gotta be on some Bruce Wayne/Batman shyt to keep it going.
 
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1298ty said:
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How deep down the rabbit hole did you have to go to find this random ass tumblr blog post? :russ:
Not a single chick on here can tell you who this fukk "Ugg" is :heh:
And you presented it so clean on some "This ought to shut that bytch up :birdman:" shyt

:whew::whew::whew:
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Bruh, all I did was a simple google search of "how to cheat on your husband/boyfriend" and a gang of search results came up. :pachaha:

Once I did that @Sunshine started movin goalposts talkin about "she's never seen a thread on here that gave tips on cheating on a boyfriend" Then low and behold this morning a female poster made a post about "how to cheat on your boyfriend" :dead:

I tagged her in that post and she made more excuses :heh:
 
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thegreatwb said:
How is the best side chick a lonely woman? In my experience, the best side chick is the one with a husband/boyfriend. Basically, a chick that has just enough to lose as I do if the ship goes down. Single/lonely women like to blow up your phone at all times of day and night and want to meet up and fukk whenever it's convenient for them. A lonely woman will sit at home and get jealous quick while you out spending time with your main girl. Finally, a lonely woman can threaten to tell your main chick any time and she won't have anything to lose when doing so.
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That's why you deal with women who don't even know who your girl IS...
Look man... I have talked to several women for months who never saw what car I drove...
 
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Slang Dussain Ali said:
In order to maintain some side trim, you gotta be on point.

Ideally, you should let your girl know you smash puss on the side. If you on point with ya life she will deal with it.

If you're not there, you MUST let the side know she's a side! nikkas mess up when you mislead women. nikkas go overboard with the lying and make fools of themselves.

Also, unless you really doing the dayum thang, you better make sure ol girl has a man. Single women usually don't make good sides because they hold all the cards.
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They dont hear you though.
 
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Ronnie Lott said:
Bruh, all I did was a simple google search of "how to cheat on your husband/boyfriend" and a gang of search results came up. :pachaha:

Once I did that @Sunshine started movin goalposts talkin about "she's never seen a thread on here that gave tips on cheating on a boyfriend" Then low and behold this morning a female poster made a post about "how to cheat on your boyfriend" :dead:

I tagged her in that post and she made more excuses :heh:
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wtf ???? You're still on this???

1. that thread was a spinoff to this one......and I saw it so what's the point in talking about what I said BEFORE the thread was made? :mindblown: and didn't you mention me and the thread and I said I saw it. wtf is your problem??

and 2. "moving goalposts"? you just posted an article and didn't know what I was talking about and I told you what I meant (and AGAIN didn't you mention me in the thread that female made today?? so why are you STILL talking about what I said?) :damn:
 
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