How Can I successfully maintain a side chick??

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smh

 

[AlreadyKnow]

Look to the female in here asking why homie needs a jumpoff.

If his main chick was holding shyt down 100% at home. Not 90%.....If everything was on point. He wouldn't need a jumpoff. That 's my belief. men step out to fill the cravings and desires not being met.

Nope. Men and women step out because they are selfish. They could easily just break up with one person before starting relations with another but they don't because they.are.selfish.

 

[DreadHead P]

By making sure everybody on the team knows their position, if you gotta lie to anyone you doin it wrong

 

[mariahcooper]

Look to the female in here asking why homie needs a jumpoff.

If his main chick was holding shyt down 100% at home. Not 90%.....If everything was on point. He wouldn't need a jumpoff. That 's my belief. men step out to fill the cravings and desires not being met.

I've heard men say even if they met a woman that fulfilled all their needs they would still be tempted to cheat with the next video vixen they saw. men just like sex

 

[TKOK]

Dump the other chick and get with the girl. First, it's pretty douchey to cheat on people, second you're probably not smooth enough to pull it off, sooner or later you're gonna get caught.

 

[mcdivit85]

OK, I just read the original post I replied to. I see your point but it is flawed. Every woman's action isn't dependent on a man. Every woman isn't looking for a man to lead her.

I guess my point would be that women don't necessarily harder time separating emotions from sex. My 2nd point is men and women differ in why they cheat.

Women in general aren't looking for variety, a different dude every night. We are looking for the best. If main dude ain't acting right, then she may start looking for alternatives. Or even if she wasn't looking, she may meet someone she considers could be the next one.

Some women, if they can't find it all in one man, they will have a different man for different needs.

A lot of times, women are just looking for someone to blow their back out and nothing more. It's all about motive and mindset.

And the reason why a woman would change how she feels about her husband is if he's not fulling his needs or another man is doing it better than his value diminishes. We don't need to have extra men around for no reason that aren't benefitting us. Its not a numbers game with us. Women have different priorities then men. Quality over quantity.

I disagree with the idea that women are looking for the best. I would even say the same for men. Many people cheat on the 80% to get with the person offering the 20% they perceive to be so much more. I don't know too many women who have cheated on their good husband with a great man only to want to keep the affair sexual in nature with the great man. If anything, if she's cheating with the best, then she's going to want to leave her good husband for the great man.

From my experience, women don't generally want just sex with men they perceive to be the best.....they want those men for themselves. They will generally trade up....leave the good guy for the great guy. This is why Chris Brown's song "Loyal" rings so many bells with dudes.....because its a known fact that a portion of women will leave a 7 to get with 10....if the 10 wants them. But that's a rare occurrence.

And how many examples do we have of women cheating on their successful husband with one of the husband's employees or the help or someone with even less than her? On some "just because he made me smile" tip....that's not being practical....and if it's not practical, then it can't be the best.

We can agree to disagree. I don't want to invert the OP's premise.

Peace

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Look to the female in here asking why homie needs a jumpoff.

If his main chick was holding shyt down 100% at home. Not 90%.....If everything was on point. He wouldn't need a jumpoff. That 's my belief. men step out to fill the cravings and desires not being met.

Not true. No person will be everything to a person. We all want different things at different times. It boils down to what matters most.

 

[mcdivit85]

No I call bs. You guys try to make men sound like they aren't human beings, like they have no emotions and can manipulate on cue just to put their penis in a new hole. If that were true there wouldnt be so many men running off with their lovers or mistresses. Men like to THINK that they can have sex without attachment of some kind forming, but if you're having sex with the same woman something is going to develop between you. It may not be love or a relationship but it's something. Even if it's with different women the emotional attachment is now the chase for sex with the others and financial with the main. It becomes a pointless and arbitrary relationship with no real purpose or meaning but to pay bills. Your sex life becomes your obsession and it just sounds like a little of your personhood and likability is lost.

And then men think they are able to treat their main the same or better and that's not true either or possible for expanded amount of time. You're either going to try to overcompensate for your guilt or fear of being found out or losing money or whatever is keeping you with the main girl, or will become dismissive out of lost respect for a doormat that was blind to what was going on. Eventually it will become about what the side girl does that your main girl doesn't, and what a plethora of side girls could do for you. The resulting attitude crosses over to the relationship whether you are aware of it or not. Women can always tell when men are cheating. Things start feeling different. Men are human beings with emotions that show through like anyone else; they aren't animals or magicians.

Lady, please point me directly to the line or statement that I made where I said men had no emotions or aren't human beings. I'll wait.

Now, what I DID SAY was that women tend to develop emotions for men they have continuous sexual relationships with. This is more prominent in women than in men who can externalize sex much easier than women can. Especially over long periods of time with the same person.

And let's be clear....men don't leave their wives for side chicks. They leave their wives for their mistresses. Side chicks are simply consistent jumpoffs. A mistress is a second wife, a second confidant.....she is loyal to that man and only that man, and because of that loyalty, she plays her position.

Peace