How Can You Expect Someone to Cook and Clean AND Bring in 50% of the Income?

[mcdivit85]

Lazy, difficult, and selfish is having someone cook for you and clean up your fukking mess while they go home, and do the same for themselves. He's an adult with a job he should be able to do those things for himself. You all sound like children. You want to be leaders, but you don't provide shyt. No one would have said anything if they were living together, and she was doing that, and he was paying most of the bills. No she goes to work pays the bills at her own place then goes, and cooks and cleans for him at his. That is the height of desperation, and I'd be willing to bet any amount of money that he will not marry that poor woman. Disgusting. You notice how he mentioned that, and I didn't get defensive. You dudes are illogical, and why some American black males are looked down upon. Entitled to the core. The dude isn't even providing for her, but it should just be normal for her to be Suzy Homemaker.

Baby, you need to relax that anti-black male perogative you got going on with you. Black men are not entitled. We couldn't be if we tried.

Like I said above, I appreciate my lady. I treat my lady well. I just don't have to cook or clean or wash dishes or do laundry or make the bed because my chick takes care of that for me. Why are you so mad that my chick gets up on Saturday and makes sure my place is spotless? Why are you mad that my chick makes sure all my dishes are washed in the morning? Why you mad that she irons and folds my clothes?

And if my chick is desperate, then I guess I must keep running into desperate chicks because my exes did the same stuff.

You assume I take and never give. You're creating a story in your head, which is fine but inaccurate.

Maybe instead of focusing on what you won't do for a man, maybe you should focus on what you will. Maybe you'll get one

Peace

 

[Rayzah]

You're too aggressive and crazy to be a woman that deserves happiness or anything good in life.

if you happen to make more money than your man that's ok.

Anyway, I believe the man should take care of all financial needs, but if the woman would like to help or would like to have a career then she can - but she should def serve him in all the ways that she can, cooking, cleaning etc. he can help with that if he wants - but mainly he is to make sure they have cars, home, food, private schools , and can protect her and satisfy her.

its simple. it works.

My momma did it

I'm more than happy to help cook and clean tho

I really don't mind...

I was raised that a woman is supposed to take care of her household so

even if I have to pay 50% of the bills i wouldn't feel like we need to be even or some shyt like that.

I am the woman of the house

I was with until you said you want someone who is slightly less smarter than you and make less money than you.

because its fukking weird and lets us know you're crazy with control issues

No, your feminism is showing
I said what I said because its my reality. But it's nothing special because that's always been my reality....all my exes cooked, cleaned, did laundry, dropped gifts, etc.....while working full-time and/or being a full-time student. And they did it not because I forced them because I don't believe in forcing anyone to do anything, especially for my benefit.
Matter of fact, all my exes would have y'all mad...women with two, three degrees cooking and cleaning for their man...parish the thought

Maybe instead of focusing on what you won't do for a man, maybe you should focus on what you will. Maybe you'll get one
Peace

and there you have it. There is nothing else to be said..

Lazy, difficult, and selfish is having someone cook for you and clean up your fukking mess while they go home, and do the same for themselves. He's an adult with a job he should be able to do those things for himself. You all sound like children. You want to be leaders, but you don't provide shyt. No one would have said anything if they were living together, and she was doing that, and he was paying most of the bills. No she goes to work pays the bills at her own place then goes, and cooks and cleans for him at his. That is the height of desperation, and I'd be willing to bet any amount of money that he will not marry that poor woman. Disgusting. You notice how he mentioned that, and I didn't get defensive. You dudes are illogical, and why some American black males are looked down upon. Entitled to the core. The dude isn't even providing for her, but it should just be normal for her to be Suzy Homemaker.

So if I told you that my boyfriend has no problem paying all the bills at my apartment and his, and coming over and cooking and cleaning for me you wouldn't think it made him look silly?

Please don't lie in your answer, because keep in mind I'm watching an exchange between you and a female poster where you are essentially berating her for having the exact same standards (actually her standards are even more fair because at least she said she wants to provide more financially) that you are defending a man for having in his post.

So the moral of the story is, successful relationships require both individuals involved to be willing to do things for one another without expecting something in return. and to be open minded about the things you will or wont do when entering a relationship.... oh and if none of what I said or any of these people have said makes ANY sense to you, or if you haven't even considered rethinking your stance a little bit then there is no point in responding anymore..

 

[PartyHeart]

No, your feminism is showing

You say this as if I'm supposed to be offended by it

And more than likely they'd be mad at me. Because I didn't have to do any of that and I'm a wife and not one in a series of gfs

and there you have it. There is nothing else to be said..




So the moral of the story is, successful relationships require both individuals involved to be willing to do things for one another without expecting something in return. and to be open minded about the things you will or wont do when entering a relationship.... oh and if none of what I said or any of these people have said makes ANY sense to you, or if you haven't even considered rethinking your stance a little bit then there is no point in responding anymore..

You have to be really egotistical to think because someone didn't come to your side of the fence after a debate that there is something wrong with them and not you

I will continue to live my life with my husband where we both help each other out and don't put more burden on each other in an effort to stick halfway to whatever gender roles to make ourselves feel more secure in our masculinity/femininity. You will continue to provide...whatever supposed benefits it is that you are giving a woman who provides the same as you do financially while doing all household work herself while you watch. If they like it I love it, but I thank God I will never have to deal with all the extra work she "happily" does by herself when she's supposed to have a partner.

 

[Rayzah]

You say this as if I'm supposed to be offended by it

And more than likely they'd be mad at me. Because I didn't have to do any of that and I'm a wife and not one in a series of gfs



You have to be really egotistical to think because someone didn't come to your side of the fence after a debate that there is something wrong with them and not you

I will continue to live my life with my husband where we both help each other out and don't put more burden on each other in an effort to stick halfway to whatever gender roles to make ourselves feel more secure in our masculinity/femininity. You will continue to provide...whatever supposed benefits it is that you are giving a woman who provides the same as you do financially while doing all household work herself while you watch. If they like it I love it, but I thank God I will never have to deal with all the extra work she "happily" does by herself when she's supposed to have a partner.

Do you, but Never once did I say I wouldn't help. I don't know why yall keep saying that, my point was to the one that refused to clean up any or cook, and to you for making it seem like you should be ashamed of yourself if you spouse likes to clean and cook more than you.

 

[mcdivit85]

You say this as if I'm supposed to be offended by it

And more than likely they'd be mad at me. Because I didn't have to do any of that and I'm a wife and not one in a series of gfs

You're married?

Please tell me he's a cac. Please.

I would hate to know a black man is being mentally and spiritually crushed by a black feminist in his own home. Married to a "won't" chick.

Sad enough he has to face white supremacy when he walks out the door. Only to be faced with its mascot when he comes back.

Peace

 

[bcrusaderw]

You're married?

Please tell me he's a cac. Please.

I would hate to know a black man is being mentally and spiritually crushed by a black feminist in his own home. Married to a "won't" chick.

Sad enough he has to face white supremacy when he walks out the door. Only to be faced with its mascot when he comes back.

Peace

You are a disgrace.

 

[PartyHeart]

You're married?

Please tell me he's a cac. Please.

I would hate to know a black man is being mentally and spiritually crushed by a black feminist in his own home. Married to a "won't" chick.

Sad enough he has to face white supremacy when he walks out the door. Only to be faced with its mascot when he comes back.

Peace

Nope, he's a Black man. The best kind. Not so desperately insecure about his manhood outside the home that he burdens his woman inside the home to make himself feel better.

I have a partner. I couldn't ask for more. I hope one day your girlfriend becomes the wife of someone (obviously not you, wouldn't wish any Black woman to be the wife of a man who thinks of Black female equality being a mascot for white supremacy) who considers her the way he considers me

 

[iBrowse]

what the fukk happened in here

 

[mcdivit85]

Nope, he's a Black man. The best kind. Not so desperately insecure about his manhood outside the home that he burdens his woman inside the home to make himself feel better.