How Can You Expect Someone to Cook and Clean AND Bring in 50% of the Income?

[Tropical Fantasy]

O god. I did not know the women were in on this "imma find me a foreign" pipe dream too. You really are Reincar's mirror image, just a little smarter and less pathetic

it's not a pipe dream breh, some of us already living the life

 

[Elle Driver]

O god. I did not know the women were in on this "imma find me a foreign" pipe dream too. You really are Reincar's mirror image, just a little smarter and less pathetic

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

Nah, it's not weird at all. I'm not crazy, but I'll acquiesce the control issues though.

she gets her wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

 

[bcrusaderw]

There is so many things wrong with this mindset,... again good luck finding this unicorn that will put up with that..
#TheLaziestshytIhaveEverHeard

one last question, lets say M-thu I pick up some stuff you accidently left behind, Friday gets here and I leave something, the maid is off for the week, will you pick it up or naw?

It depends on what it is. If its food, sure. If it's clothes or something like that then Guadalupe can handle that when she gets back. Also, if you have to pick up after me Mon-Thu then Guadalupe isn't doing her job, and we'll need to get a new maid. Hopefully, Maria will be better.

 

[PartyHeart]

I have been trying to say this all day, but I knew if I was that blunt she would have got super defensive..



OMG yall are something else, and how does that make his girl look silly? I bet she has NO problem or complaints.. and it aint like he said, he put his foot down and she submitted. he wasn't bragging to make his girl look bad, desperate or whatever, it was to say how he has what some of yall say, are ridiculous or unattainable. He was showing how what he has is normal to him and most, and shouldn't be looked at as a negative thing..

fukk it, I'm a say it,, yall are lazy, difficult and selfish, but its cool be close minded, biased and everything else all you, want..

So if I told you that my boyfriend has no problem paying all the bills at my apartment and his, and coming over and cooking and cleaning for me you wouldn't think it made him look silly?

Please don't lie in your answer, because keep in mind I'm watching an exchange between you and a female poster where you are essentially berating her for having the exact same standards (actually her standards are even more fair because at least she said she wants to provide more financially) that you are defending a man for having in his post.

 

[CinnaSlim]

I think folks over estimate the ACTUAL time it takes to cook & clean.

Unless you have young kids, what are you cleanin' on a DAILY basis? Dishes? Makin' a bed?

And how much time are you ACTUALLY cookin'? The stove/oven does most of the work. Prep time, what, 5-10 minutes? Unless you're stir fryin' or fryin' somethin', you're not actively workin' most of the time.

Depeindin' on the situation, I'd bet a lot of dudes put in just as much "house work". Walkin' dogs, cuttin' grass, cleanin' front & back yards, managin' money (bills, investments, etc), odd jobs around the house...

Hard to speak on the money because I've seen married folks on here keep their money separate like they just fukkin'.

Cooking and cleaning does take time. Cleaning chicken, cutting and peeling potatoes, stopping to check on it, basting and marinating. I mean unless you just wanna eat out or fast food 6 out of the 7 days of the week and I'll just cook on Sundays.

Cleaning, seperating and folding laundry, vacuuming and dusting, doing the dishes, mopping, scrubbing and polishing etc.

And then after all that you have to have time to take care of the kids and their homework, go grocery shopping, please your man and finally find time for yourself.

 

[iBrowse]

Cooking and cleaning does take time. Cleaning chicken, cutting and peeling potatoes, stopping to check on it, basting and marinating. I mean unless you just wanna eat out or fast food 6 out of the 7 days of the week and I'll just cook on Sundays.

Cleaning, seperating and folding laundry, vacuuming and dusting, doing the dishes, mopping, scrubbing and polishing etc.

And then after all that you have to have time to go grocery shopping and finally find time for yourself.

I do all this shyt for myself and its extremely time consuming...especially considering that I prep for the week cooking 2-3 different meals with extra portions on Sundays..on top of general errands...work...grad school prep...its not as cut and dry as people may think

 

[Rayzah]

So if I told you that my boyfriend has no problem paying all the bills at my apartment and his, and coming over and cooking and cleaning for me you wouldn't think it made him look silly?

Please don't lie in your answer, because keep in mind I'm watching an exchange between you and a female poster where you are essentially berating her for having the exact same standards (actually her standards are even more fair because at least she said she wants to provide more financially) that you are defending a man for having in his post.

Yes if he did all of that he would be the biggest simp ever...............












































but just one question








where in this thread did anybody say anything about wanting the woman to pay the bills too? please point that out.... You can't just be adding stuff, to prove your point... Look, you cant maintain a house if you refuse to clean up, how are you going to feed your kids if one of yall dont cook, and if you do find a dude who doesnt mind cooking, after a while he is going to wonder why you dont even want to make an attempt to help out..

 

[Rayzah]

Me and my girl have our own places. She takes care of her place and mine. Cooking and cleaning at both spots

I feel compassion for dudes dealing with these "what I won't do" a## chicks out here nowadays. Won't cook for him. Won't clean for him. Won't be in pocket for him. Won't do anything for him unless it benefits her. Won't. Won't. Won't.

So, I'm going to light some candles. Dress in black. Recite some chants. And pray for these n#ggas dealing with these "won't" chicks

Let us pray

Peace

idk if you noticed but these last few posts have been about what you said, let me know if i said anything wrong

 

[mcdivit85]

idk if you noticed but these last few posts have been about what you said, let me know if i said anything wrong

I haven't looked at the thread since I made my post. I will check it over for the f#ckery

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

It really is. She pays the bills at her place, but still cooks and cleans at his? Does she actually go over there cook and clean then go home to do the same? Desperate girl.

 

[mcdivit85]

seriously, these dudes want a slave not a gf/wife.

 

[mcdivit85]

Lol he isn't going to marry that girl. He'll string her along for the free sex, maid, and cooking services, but she's not getting a ring. The kind of male I'm looking for wants a dominant partner, and that's what I'll bring him. What do you patriarch-lites bring your partners? You aren't even willing/able to fully provide, but you want to be the leaders. You sound like children.

 

[mcdivit85]

I really don't mind...

I was raised that a woman is supposed to take care of her household so

even if I have to pay 50% of the bills i wouldn't feel like we need to be even or some shyt like that.

I am the woman of the house

Bless you, my child

May your home forever be warm

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

I feel bad for his gf. Its almost like he was clowning on her. There is no possible way he could have thought saying that would make his gf look anything less than desperate and silly. But it made him look "dominant" so I guess thats all that mattered.

No, your feminism is showing

I said what I said because its my reality. But it's nothing special because that's always been my reality....all my exes cooked, cleaned, did laundry, dropped gifts, etc.....while working full-time and/or being a full-time student. And they did it not because I forced them because I don't believe in forcing anyone to do anything, especially for my benefit.

Matter of fact, all my exes would have y'all mad...women with two, three degrees cooking and cleaning for their man...parish the thought

No, the reason for the season is me knowing a good chick when I see one. You see, you and your cohorts here, want a good man at "aint sh#t n#gga" prices. Anything of value has a cost. For some reason, women feel that they alone are the prize. That men should break necks and break bread for their presence.

But the learned know that value is gender neutral. And just like a fly chick aint free, neither is a fly dude. And by free, I'm not referring to money spent.

In closing, my lady is a blessing and I highly respect her. You know why? Because she's smart enough to choose the right kind of man to submit to. And she's secure enough, in herself, to submit knowing that weak chicks will try to make her feel wack for doing something they don't have the courage, foresight nor the ability to do.

And so my chick takes care of me because she understands that her commission is in the submission. And she's been earning well.

Peace