How Can You Expect Someone to Cook and Clean AND Bring in 50% of the Income?

[Darts]

isn't that the generation that turned to crack to deal with life's pressures

Your mother did crack? Mine didn't and I don't know of any that did.



Single out a small percentage of a larger population to make a point brehettes

 

[13473]

Your mother did crack? Mine didn't and I don't know of any that did.



Single out a small percentage of a larger population to make a point brehettes

downplay an epidemic that wrecked our communities, tore families apart, put mass amounts in prison & effects we still deal with today just to make a point, brehs

After decades of decline, black infant mortality began to soar in the 1980s, as did the rate of low-birthweight babies and parent abandonment.
The gap between black and white schoolchildren widened.
The number of blacks sent to prison tripled.

Crack was so dramatically destructive that if its effect is averaged for all black Americans, not just crack users and their families, you will see that the group’s postwar progress was not only stopped cold but was often knocked as much as ten years backward. Black Americans were hurt more by crack cocaine than by any other single cause since Jim Crow.

And then there was the crime.Within a five-year period, the homicide rate among young urban blacks quadrupled. Suddenly it was just as dangerous to live in parts of Chicago or St. Louis or Los Angeles as it was to live in Bogotá.*

 

[Darts]

downplay an epidemic that wrecked our communities, tore families apart, put mass amounts in prison & effects we still deal with today just to make a point, brehs

What does this have to do with the thread topic?

 

[13473]

What does this have to do with the thread topic?

scroll up.

 

[Gully Bull]

:/ time management isn't your best skill

Spend a good portion of Saturday cooking and cleaning (with him) so Saturday night yall can go out and chill. Sunday morning rolls around and the entire house is clean and there is food for lunch (can't premake breakfast). Spot clean if you have to and then spend 30 mins a day doing spot cleaning so when the weekend comes around your house is still generally clean and you can be even more thorough such as cleaning the grout or doing lawn care

Spoiler

if you aren't getting/giving oral/straight fukking while the food is being made every night then you are doing it wrong

 

[Sterling Archer]

I like home cooked meals so I cook, I also do have OCD so I don't even like the idea of someone else cleaning that isn't me. I don't care if I worked 16 hours, I will come home and make a damn meal and clean up. The thought of being in a house that aint clean with no real food is uncomfortable to me. Frozen dinners. I'd also rather handle my own food and make then trust it to some strangers. Even my man. Also, when you love someone you just wanna make them feel good. Food makes you feel good. He does the same thing for me. You can't just expect a woman to cook all the time, without him doing the same too sometimes, that shyt will create resentment.

I also want a whole bunch of kids like little ducklings all born around the same time, so I can have a full house, and just teach them nurturing things a mother would. I remember being in a full house, with all 9 brothers, and I was the baby and everyone was just excited to finally have a girl. My step mother and father would be cooking in the kitchen, and my brothers would play with me outside in the back yard, and I just had such a fulfilling childhood. For the first few years of my life I just remember their being joy and happiness in my family, between my father, his exes, and my mother. What I appreciated is that my mother, although she was a horrible cook, she always made home cooked meals for me and never ever let me have processed crap. Everything had to be freshly made. That gave me the good eating habits I have today. My father would step in a lot since he was a really good cook (he was from the South) though. But my mother didn't really work and tended to the home until I went to head start. But she was always there and so was pops. I really would like to do the same thing. Maybe work at home. But I like motherly stuff. To me there are no set gender roles, whatever you are comfortable with just go with.

As for bringing in 50% of the income and being expected to do that is kind of ridiculous. If a man makes enough money to rely on one income for the household then I understand. But no, you can't have it both ways because like I said it will breed resentment. And in this day and age you cannot afford to be out of work as a woman for a very long time. I have a Masters, hopefully a phD in the future, I would not be comfortable not working. Even working per diem just to still be in the industry is fine. You even have the luxury these days of working from home.

I do it but that's only because 1. he doesn't clean the house the way I want it clean and 2. he cooks like an old white man and I can't deal with that shyt every night lol
I've got no problem juggling that and working..it keeps me busy so

what does piss me off is when that nicca acts ungrateful or doesn't ATTEMPT to help out around the house Like...nikka we BOTH work and I tend to the babies 90% of the time. You don't need to suck your fukking teeth when I ask for you to change a pamper or iron a fukking shyt.

I'm not a simp or nothing but yall pushing it.

 

[resurrection]

I pretty much do all the daily cleaning and even been doing the cooking too. Pretty much catering to my girl and I make more than her. Am I doing it wrong?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

The foreign fantasies kill me. One of my mom friends took her awful ex husband to the cleaners... IN GHANA.

These nikkas are in for a rude awakening. They gonna get done like the warden in OITNB. Green card jumpoffs

Me n wifey share cooking/cleaning duties but we have a housekeeper come in to scrub tubs and shyt. I agree w/the OP tho. Its either one or the other. Lot of these nikkas living home with mom or have roommates bluffing like they can support a family

 

[twan83]

how I'm feeling right now is why im bout to end up by my damn self right now
when u do so much but u dont bring shyt too the table but complaints that are not even logically or make any sense
u wonder why u bout to end up alone then gonna wanna come back and get hit with the real quick

go ur own way as i will too

 

[bcrusaderw]

how I'm feeling right now is why im bout to end up by my damn self right now
when u do so much but u dont bring shyt too the table but complaints that are not even logically or make any sense
u wonder why u bout to end up alone then gonna wanna come back and get hit with the real quick

go ur own way as i will too

I'll be there for you. The kids are going with their respective mothers right?

 

[twan83]

I'll be there for you. The kids are going with their respective mothers right?

2 with me 2 with her

 

[Rayzah]

I really don't see what's wrong with that list.

I tried to stay out of this but at that list, its crazy to me because its such a specific set of requirements, it seems super unrealistic to expect to find someone that is exactly or close to being like that.. Those parts don't fit together either, and why do they have to be less smart and make less than you, wtf..... Im sorry I should not even be in here...
I can tell you are under 30..

 

[bcrusaderw]

I tried to stay out of this but at that list, its crazy to me because its such a specific set of requirements, it seems super unrealistic to expect to find someone that is exactly or close to being like that.. Those parts don't fit together either, and why do they have to be less smart and make less than you, wtf..... Im sorry I should not even be in here...
I can tell you are under 30..

o Some of the parts are negotiable others aren't. Like I'm actually going to turn someone down because they make more than me? The list is just what I would prefer in a perfect world.

 

[bcrusaderw]

I pretty much do all the daily cleaning and even been doing the cooking too. Pretty much catering to my girl and I make more than her. Am I doing it wrong?

You got a brother?

 

[mcdivit85]

I don't want a baller. I want to make more than my husband, but if/when I do I most certainly won't be cooking and cleaning. That's what he and Guadalupe are for.

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