exactly my dude....thats why so many ppl hate life...life is about the simple things.....material is cool but it doesn't mean nothing in the end
How come these people with these so called "preferences" look terrible themselves.
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Larry Lambo
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It's a catch 22.
If an ugly or short dude says he has to go for average chicks because he's ugly and/or short, then he's a lame, looks don't matter, it's all about confidence, etc.
If he goes after the women he's most attracted to, he's being unrealistic and shooting out of his league.
It may not be the same people criticizing him in both situations but he's going to catch flack either way.
The key is not to care what other people think and do you. You can't make everybody happy no matter what you do.
If an ugly or short dude says he has to go for average chicks because he's ugly and/or short, then he's a lame, looks don't matter, it's all about confidence, etc.
If he goes after the women he's most attracted to, he's being unrealistic and shooting out of his league.
It may not be the same people criticizing him in both situations but he's going to catch flack either way.
The key is not to care what other people think and do you. You can't make everybody happy no matter what you do.
lotteryplaya
Winning a big lottery jackpot is my dream.
If the ugly person is also rich they are allowed to be picky about preferences and act like jerks in most societies.
joeychizzle
光復香港，時代革命
I'm 6'3I'm actually 5'9
all jokes though. people like what they like. just don't be ultra ultra picky cuz that shyt will limit your experiences.
This is an internet phenom. All the women I know in real life who have high standards have the looks, income, and accomplishments to warrant them.
And the ones who don't... don't really have high standards at all.
And the ones who don't... don't really have high standards at all.
But I sitll don't see why this is a problem....
If an ugly, fat, short, dirt poor girl came up to me talking about how she needs at minimum ildris elba, i'll just say "Good Luck with
"If this bothers people, thats a personal issue. Women and men can have whatever standards they want. Fukk I look like getting mad at an ugly broad for wanting to do better
What if you want your experiences to be limited?
This thread confuses me.
If you are monogamous, picking a life partner is going to be the single most discriminating task you embark in throughout your life. There is nothing honorable or praiseworthy about lowering your standards. That benefits no one in the long run. If you want something, do what you have to do get it. Don't settle.
If I want to marry a 5'9+ Igbo girl with at least 2 degrees and a traditionalist view of family, I'm not going to apologize for chasing after a specific demographic
Oceanicpuppy
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it sThe heart what the heart wants
It does bother me alot more when slightly above average and below talk down on other people or act like the only thing they can deal with is 8's 9's and 10's.
I had a friend of mine that for year criticized women up and down when it came to why a chick wasn't attractive to him "you see how her ears sits" and BS like that. Only for him to finally get a girlfriend after years. I was like she must be
We all go out to get drinks one night and I see her and in my head im likedog. ALL those years of talk and you bagged a 5. She wasn't ugly no shade to her but based
It's aBut I sitll don't see why this is a problem....
If an ugly, fat, short, dirt poor girl came up to me talking about how she needs at minimum ildris elba, i'll just say "Good Luck with
If this bothers people, thats a personal issue. Women and men can have whatever standards they want. Fukk I look like getting mad at an ugly broad for wanting to do better
no one saying settle but don't reject people who can measure up to a lot of your standards but because there not super wealthy or fit or beautiful. It's more about people your rejecting more so than people you are accepting. It you get with some who meets those standards good for you. But love and relationships are privilege not a right.What if you want your experiences to be limited?
This thread confuses me.
If you are monogamous, picking a life partner is going to be the single most discriminating task you embark in throughout your life. There is nothing honorable or praiseworthy about lowering your standards. That benefits no one in the long run. If you want something, do what you have to do get it. Don't settle.
If I want to marry a 5'9+ Igbo girl with at least 2 degrees and a traditionalist view of family, I'm not going to apologize for chasing after a specific demographic
Why not?
No seriously, people are saying don't do that, but I haven't seen a good reason why not to.
I'm not saying you need to be an a$$hole about it, but if you want certain standards, why not save your time and resources for someone who measures up?
Do you feel like a better person than someone else because you choose to be with people who don't measure up to your standards?
And the last part of love and relationships being a privilege not a right has nothing to do with anything i'm saying. If I have high standards, and I never meet someone with those standards who wants to be with me, I'll gladly take my L.
This whole thread is just people trying to make themselves feel better for not being shallow. What if instead of looks or money I say religion or worldview? Its still a preference, but one is acceptable to have and one isn't?
EDIT: Let me put it this way, if a girl says to me I don't meet her standards, i'm cool with that. I dont get offended because I understand where she's coming from. I don't think she's a bad person or that she's shallow. I think she is better than 99% of people because she knows what she wants.
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agnosticlady
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Why not?
No seriously, people are saying don't do that, but I haven't seen a good reason why not to.
I'm not saying you need to be an a$$hole about it, but if you want certain standards, why not save your time and resources for someone who measures up?
Do you feel like a better person than someone else because you choose to be with people who don't measure up to your standards?
And the last part of love and relationships being a privilege not a right has nothing to do with anything i'm saying. If I have high standards, and I never meet someone with those standards who wants to be with me, I'll gladly take my L.
This whole thread is just people trying to make themselves feel better for not being shallow
EDIT: Let me put it this way, if a girl says to me I don't meet her standards, i'm cool with that. I dont get offended because I understand where she's coming from. I don't think she's a bad person or that she's shallow. I think she is better than 99% of people because she knows what she wants.
I think the strongest point is that you may reject people for petty asinine reasons only to end up alone or having to settle for someone you really do not feel, but you are afraid of being alone. A lot of people will reject someone only to look back later in life and wish they would have given that person a chance. This reminds me of a children poem I once read by Shel Silverstein
"Almost perfect... but not quite."
Those were the words of Mary Hume
At her seventh birthday party,
Looking 'round the ribboned room.
"This tablecloth is pink not white--
Almost perfect... but not quite."
"Almost perfect... but not quite."
Those were the words of grown-up Mary
Talking about her handsome beau,
The one she wasn't gonna marry.
"Squeezes me a bit too tight--
Almost perfect... but not quite."
"Almost perfect... but not quite."
Those were the words of ol' Miss Hume
Teaching in the seventh grade,
Grading papers in the gloom
Late at night up in her room.
"They never cross their t's just right--
Almost perfect... but not quite."
Ninety-eight the day she died
Complainin' 'bout the spotless floor.
People shook their heads and sighed,
"Guess that she'll like heaven more."
Up went her soul on feathered wings,
Out the door, up out of sight.
Another voice from heaven came--
"Almost perfect... but not quite."
