How did u kno ur ex was cheating on u

[karim]

cheating is scumbag shyt and can really fukk with you, especially if the person is gaslighting you. we went to lunch one day, i had a gut feeling he was still talking to her, i brought it up, he told me i was crazy, being insecure, emotional, gave me the silent treatment, didn’t talk to me the rest of the day or talked to me until i apologized..

2 months later i found out that just the day before that argument took place, he was fukking her in a hotel while i was at work. what hurt the most was that, the day he did that, i woke up 3:30 am to bring him to work, bought him groceries, brought him lunch on my way into work, when i was going in, he was getting out of work.. when he got out, he went to meet up with her when they were done, he came to my house, ate, sent me a sweet text, showered and napped.

that’s just one story. i’m pretty fukked up over it.

nah, my ex’s father made him that way. he grew up in an awful environment


and no, you can’t blame women.. that’s weak men are the leaders, when the men are out of order, so will be the women as women are biologically made to be followers of men. hence why women literally change, hobbies, personality, beliefs etc all based on and around their man because they are our head, we are the neck.

I'mnot trying to put you down while you're hurting but that second post is utter nonsense. And as far as the hotep guy goes, anybody could have told you that that shyt was going to end in tears from the very beginning. Everything you posted about it screamed extremely unhealthy relationship, first and foremost the whole serving the man and accepting him as your leaders shyt. A relationship is not a cult, no matter how hard you want to make it work

 

[Prevail]

I disagree, I don't think it's cool to be that insecure dude that accuses your girl of cheating unless you have solid proof and the main way to get proof these days is to check that phone.

If she's not comfortable with you having her phone when she's not in the same room then that's a clear sign.

What are you disagreeing with exactly? I wasn't claiming its okay to make accusations without proof...

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

“too focused on the bad stuff.."

she was a straight up narcissist

my ex did the same shyt throughout our relationship

he even said to me a week after i saw him in her car at the gym we both went to! “you’re always focusing on the past! don’t you see i’m really trying, you never wanna see the good in me!”




cheaters idea of the past is anywhere from 2 hours to yesterday to a week ago, where as ‘normal people’ refer to as the past as like month ago, a year ago, years ago.. nope, not manipulators

You are one dumb white bytch.
It's always someone else's fault too or your putting blame on another person. You're wack as fuk, the problem is you. You were with a damn 19 yr old who you literally gave a pass to fuk other women. Talking and boasting all that hotep talk and religious spiritual when you're nothing but a the typical hypocrite ho with the pseudo intellectual banter. He was using your easily manipulated rabid mind until something better up. Anyone other you is an immediate upgrade - he saw the out and used it to level up. You were expendable - he saw you as a mark.

 

[Big Boss]

After about a half hour after kickin it w/ me accidentally sent me a bunch of texs confirming she got $100 from me to "...get the room, Daddy" and proceeded to speak on how she can "get the real dikk now".

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

What are you disagreeing with exactly? I wasn't claiming its okay to make accusations without proof...

I don't think it's wrong to check your girlfriend or wife's phone. Invasion of privacy or not... you won't find a smoking gun on an innocent person.

 

[karim]

I don't think it's wrong to check your girlfriend or wife's phone. Invasion of privacy or not... you won't find a smoking gun on an innocent person.

I have never cheated in my life and still, snooping through my phone would be reason enough for me to immediately end the relationship. So i would be a damn hypocrite if I would look through my girls phone. You either trust your partner, or you don't.

 

[King Poetic]

I had a dummy phone

And I text this broad about how we should meet up and this chick said ok

The throw away phone is a good way to catch’em

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

I have never cheated in my life and still, snooping through my phone would be reason enough for me to immediately end the relationship. So i would be a damn hypocrite if I would look through my girls phone. You either trust your partner, or you don't.

Trust is earned chief.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

I had a dummy phone

And I text this broad about how we should meet up and this chick said ok

The throw away phone is a good way to catch’em

Who did she think sent the text?

 

[King Poetic]

Who did she think sent the text?

A dude on her Facebook from years ago she knew, so I wanted to see if she was still feeling him and I was right

 

[Jparker]

She posted the dude on tumblr. I never had one but I would always check hers. Once I saw that I ghosted her. Saw her on campus hit her with a head nod and kept it moving.

 

[Silkk]

Jeezus :youngdro:

 

[karim]

Trust is earned chief.

Which is why I wouldn't be in a relationship with a woman I don't trust.

 

[Morose Polymath]

She posted the dude on tumblr. I never had one but I would always check hers. Once I saw that I ghosted her. Saw her on campus hit her with a head nod and kept it moving.

:pantherswow:

 

[null]

If you pay attention you know. Just act all innocent, naive and oblivious and they will eventually betray themselves.
That's why IMO you have to pick someone with the right mentality or just don't bother.

A friend of mine (who died a few years ago) had cheated on his wife several times.
After he died we managed to get access to his email (we knew his phone pin number) and she eventually found all sorts of messages from other woman (even though that is not what she was looking for or why she got access in the first place).
He never ever told me that he was doing her dirty. Never said a word. They were married for more than 10 years.

Even now a girl I know recently got married and I know for a fact that she still has a thing for me.

One girl I started dating back in the day told me that she had broken up with her BF. Turns out he was on tour with the US Army and she was still in contact with him, and from his side, still in a relationship with him. Then when I found out they were in contact she said she couldn't tell him because he might commit "that" with depression if she did that to him while he was under combat stress. Me being young and innocent at that time believed her. Eventually I got access to her yahoo messenger (key logger on my computer) and discovered the truth. She was engaged to him but was busy banging around in home territory because she couldn't handle being "alone".

That was the women who taught me about sociopathy.

Suspicions started when one day we were out at a restaurant and her phone rang. She didn't answer and started to look a bit uncomfortable. After about 20/30 mins she went to the toilet and took her phone with her. At that moment I knew something was up.

Red flags:

Lack of empathy for others.
Lies, especially needless lies.
Protective of phone / more than one phone. Takes phone to toilet / bathroom.
Excessively clingy and cannot stand to be alone.
fukked up childhood - Father/mother abandonment issues.
Secretive.
Temperament switch-up after starts to feel comfortable.