You just gotta have a carefree, nonchalant attitude. Get other things going on in your life, don't stick with just one chick in particular when you're single and don't be afraid to check her on her bs. Don't give her an ultimatum but basically don't become some nikka that's scared to check her in fear of losing the ass. I had a chick that I damn near kick out my car the other day hitting me up today through video chat. I never even told her shyt was gravy or whatnot, I just dropped her azz at home and left and never hit her up for about a few days. I honestly thought I would never hit her up again.