MalikX
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Average nikkas lost again
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I've pretty much reached the point where I know I need to divorce him. I'm trying to find the courage to break his heart and ruin his life though.
Nothing is obviously wrong with him. He doesn't cheat, there's no abuse, we still have sex, he doesn't drink/use drugs/have terrible spending habits, we don't fight nasty. He is generally a good person. I just... don't feel like he enriches my life. He still loves me very very much and absolutely does not want to split.
The reason I am leaving him are pretty harsh though. I'm not sure if I just tell him "I don't want to be with you any longer" and leave it at that, which will probably leave him yearning for 'closure', or to spell it out, which will probably result in him being incredibly hurt and hating me.
Where my reasoning is: - I'm pretty sure I have never been in love with him. We got together when I was young because I wanted to be with someone and I stayed with him out of convenience. - I have always felt like I was settling - I think he's a loser with no ambition that doesn't work for what he wants in life. Which doesn't make him a bad person, but does make me not want to be with him. - I want to be with someone that makes me proud to be able to tell people "look, he wants to be with ME!". I want to admire him, be in awe of him, look up to him. Obviously no one is perfect but it would be nice if I considered at least some aspects of my lover admirable. - The idea of having to spend the next 50 years of my life with him terrifies me. - I feel like I can do better
I am just not sure if I should tell him that I look down on him and have never been in love with him, or if I should tell him nothing. I also feel like these are terrible reasons for leaving someone and feel like I should 'stick it out' because I made a promise. But I really, really, don't see myself waking up one day and suddenly feeling lucky to have him. Another feeling I have never, ever had. I kinda feel like I should cheat or withhold sex or start fighting nasty to give us a good reason to break up. But I don't really want to 'make things bad' to give me a reason to go. I just want to go.
How did you guys do this? How did it go? Do you regret it or was it the right way?


#GMB batting 1000

I've pretty much reached the point where I know I need to divorce him. I'm trying to find the courage to break his heart and ruin his life though.
Nothing is obviously wrong with him. He doesn't cheat, there's no abuse, we still have sex, he doesn't drink/use drugs/have terrible spending habits, we don't fight nasty. He is generally a good person. I just... don't feel like he enriches my life. He still loves me very very much and absolutely does not want to split.
The reason I am leaving him are pretty harsh though. I'm not sure if I just tell him "I don't want to be with you any longer" and leave it at that, which will probably leave him yearning for 'closure', or to spell it out, which will probably result in him being incredibly hurt and hating me.
Where my reasoning is: - I'm pretty sure I have never been in love with him. We got together when I was young because I wanted to be with someone and I stayed with him out of convenience. - I have always felt like I was settling - I think he's a loser with no ambition that doesn't work for what he wants in life. Which doesn't make him a bad person, but does make me not want to be with him. - I want to be with someone that makes me proud to be able to tell people "look, he wants to be with ME!". I want to admire him, be in awe of him, look up to him. Obviously no one is perfect but it would be nice if I considered at least some aspects of my lover admirable. - The idea of having to spend the next 50 years of my life with him terrifies me. - I feel like I can do better

I am just not sure if I should tell him that I look down on him and have never been in love with him, or if I should tell him nothing. I also feel like these are terrible reasons for leaving someone and feel like I should 'stick it out' because I made a promise. But I really, really, don't see myself waking up one day and suddenly feeling lucky to have him. Another feeling I have never, ever had. I kinda feel like I should cheat or withhold sex or start fighting nasty to give us a good reason to break up. But I don't really want to 'make things bad' to give me a reason to go. I just want to go.
How did you guys do this? How did it go? Do you regret it or was it the right way?