How do women react when you take them on a first date for coffee or walk in the park?

[Double Burger With Cheese]

I can’t believe y’all really be going on dates with these hoes like that. fukk all that shyt, meet me at the crib. Or we going to get drinks at one of these spots....right by the crib. Man fukk a date. You supposed to date these hoes in reverse.

 

[ColdSlither]

That's what I mainly do now. Depending on my mood I may suggest dinner, but it won't be something crazy. I took one date to this cute little Cuban joint. Not a whole in the wall, but also not a luxury high priced experience. But I either do the coffee date or meet for drinks. I have a date next week and we're doing a photo walk. We're both going to bring our cameras and walk around the city, and I planned the route to be around some drinking holes so if things are going good, I can suggest a spot close by to go chill for a drink and a bite to eat.

 

[Bless't]

You're not wrong that you'll weed out the users, the problem is you'll also weed out some decent ones who themselves are trying to weed out low quality guys.

alladis

I do enough vetting beforehand to know those I take out for a bite to eat is not going to be time wasted.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Naturally I think if one's money is straight and they have a good perception through bs, $20 is nothing if you just going out to get to know someone. I can understand a woman looking at a breh sideways if he can't even afford that
But at the same time, I understand the principle of if she's really feeling you, you can take her to McDonalds and she'll treat that as the time of her life

yall aren't making sense with "if she's really feeling you". this all stems from the fact that yall don't know each other so who is feeling anyone at that point? if you say that then she can easily say "if he's really into me then he won't waste our time doing something neither of us want to instead of playing test games". nobody likes mcdonalds, why would you take someone you like there

if i can sense a guy is being testy, i'd rather just invite him to my house to see how i'm living so he can realize i'm not using anybody for a measly meal lol. then if we go out, shyt i'll offer him a drink just to show money is not my focus. i wont even ask him what he does for a living, it doesn't matter to me. but by then i already noticed the insecurity and baggage so nothing matters.

this is probably just me though. i just don't even like coffee for one, and 2) my time is super limited so i try to treat social time very seriously by either doing something cool or doing something that will kill two birds in one stone like get something to eat (we all eat at least twice a day, let's multitask like meghan brother) or go for a walk if you want to be cheap (gotta get steps in)

 

[The ADD]

yall aren't making sense with "if she's really feeling you". this all stems from the fact that yall don't know each other so who is feeling anyone at that point? if you say that then she can easily say "if he's really into me then he won't waste our time doing something neither of us want to instead of playing test games". nobody likes mcdonalds, why would you take someone you like there

this is probably just me though. i just don't even like coffee for one, and 2) my time is super limited so i try to treat social time very seriously by either doing something cool or doing something that will kill two birds in one stone like get something to eat (we all eat at least twice a day) or go for a walk if you want to be cheap (gotta get steps in).

Honestly think y’all (we) aren’t on much of a different page with all this:

• Both sides want to maximize social time
• Coffee is cool for some and drinks work better for others. Some people don’t drink one or the other
• Walking is acceptable which is low $ investment.

 

[god shamgod]

I never took a chick out for coffee or a walk in the park, get that sleepless in Seattle corn ball cheap shyt outta here

if I take you on a date you’ve already been vetted & worthy of it

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Honestly think y’all (we) aren’t on much of a different page with all this:

• Both sides want to maximize social time
• Coffee is cool for some and drinks work better for others. Some people don’t drink one or the other
• Walking is acceptable which is low $ investment.

drinks is perfect. that's usually how i meet guys in the first place, we are chopping it up at a bar organically, he's probably offered a drink and it's like the first date is already done thankfully there's no way we go from that to coffee lol

 

[King Poetic]

Always been lounges on my first meet up with chicks and if that works out then it’s a date

 

[The ADD]

drinks is perfect. that's usually how i meet guys in the first place, we are chopping it up at a bar organically, he's probably offered a drink and it's like the first date is already done thankfully there's no way we go from that to coffee lol

Yeah that’s what I was saying earlier I think it’s the same ultimate outcome, just different beverages.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Yeah that’s what I was saying earlier I think it’s the same ultimate outcome, just different beverages.

and different price point... which seems to be what people are stuck on. it's what the whole thread was about lol

 

[SNYC]

Some chicks expect you to take them to a "nice" restaurant (ie Olive Garden

BBQ / Red Lobster

 

[Nigerianwonder]

Coffee is great. If I can't talk to you one on one intimately and enjoy your presence that then why would I want to hang out with you in any other environment. Some of yall think the purpose of dating is to eat food and do activities. The point of dating is to get to know someone. Activities and busy environments like restaurants, concerts etc. are actually distractions to that. That's why you can "date" someone for months and not really know them. The downtime is where you really connect with someone and see what they about.

 

[Zime]

I don’t drink coffee or alcohol

 

[ExodusNirvana]

That's how my homie met his current girl actually...they been together a year and change now

It is an EXCELLENT way to weed out the roaches (ie. women who just want a free meal and will scurry away when the light gets shined on them) and if you're online dating and it's not freezing out? It should be your default first date.

Not everyone drinks alcohol or is comfortable with that being your first date AND having coffee after work is pointless unless ya'll are gonna fukk on the first date and stay up to do said fukking

 

[The ADD]

That's how my homie met his current girl actually...they been together a year and change now

It is an EXCELLENT way to weed out the roaches (ie. women who just want a free meal and will scurry away when the light gets shined on them) and if you're online dating and it's not freezing out? It should be your default first date.

Not everyone drinks alcohol or is comfortable with that being your first date AND having coffee after work is pointless unless ya'll are gonna fukk on the first date and stay up to do said fukking

That’s how I met my girl last year, well the first time we met offline. She doesn’t drink coffee but showed up