How do women react when you take them on a first date for coffee or walk in the park?

[ExodusNirvana]

yall aren't making sense with "if she's really feeling you". t

I think this stems from you not knowing what it's like out there or underestimating it.

For every POS Man there is an equal POS Woman out there who will use a dude for a free meal

You might not, and we thank you for not being trash like some of the females out there.

But it is a very very common thing for people to meet on those dating apps, chat for a bit, decide to meet up, and then get a free meal and ghost

It is literally one of the foundations of "ghosting" in modern dating

So yeah...if ya'll met elsewhere or through a hook up from a friend, SURE go out to a lounge or a some place nice to set a good impression.

Otherwise....

 

[ThiefyPoo]

Ice cream date is the goat but it can’t be planned .


You just gotta hit her like Imma come scoop u let’s get some ice cream .


She had to like you doe .

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I think this stems from you not knowing what it's like out there or underestimating it.
For every POS Man there is an equal POS Woman out there who will use a dude for a free meal
You might not, and we thank you for not being trash like some of the females out there.
But it is a very very common thing for people to meet on those dating apps, chat for a bit, decide to meet up, and then get a free meal and ghost
It is literally one of the foundations of "ghosting" in modern dating
So yeah...if ya'll met elsewhere or through a hook up from a friend, SURE go out to a lounge or a some place nice to set a good impression.
Otherwise....

yeah dating for sport (which is what i consider the dating app game) has it's pros and cons. seems like people are looking for a easy hook up or a meal. it's not for me

 

[NoMorePie]

If a women denies a walk on the first date, then it's because she's a lazy ass bum who wants men to do shyt for her

 

[ExodusNirvana]

yeah dating for sport (which is what i consider the dating app game) has it's pros and cons. seems like people are looking for a easy hook up or a meal. it's not for me

Some people are...I have a lot of friends who have met their current long time SOs on there

 

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

yall aren't making sense with "if she's really feeling you". this all stems from the fact that yall don't know each other so who is feeling anyone at that point? if you say that then she can easily say "if he's really into me then he won't waste our time doing something neither of us want to instead of playing test games". nobody likes mcdonalds, why would you take someone you like there

if i can sense a guy is being testy, i'd rather just invite him to my house to see how i'm living so he can realize i'm not using anybody for a measly meal lol. then if we go out, shyt i'll offer him a drink just to show money is not my focus. i wont even ask him what he does for a living, it doesn't matter to me. but by then i already noticed the insecurity and baggage so nothing matters.

this is probably just me though. i just don't even like coffee for one, and 2) my time is super limited so i try to treat social time very seriously by either doing something cool or doing something that will kill two birds in one stone like get something to eat (we all eat at least twice a day, let's multitask like meghan brother) or go for a walk if you want to be cheap (gotta get steps in)

I respect all of that. Mind you, there are some brehs that prey on women that don't mind paying for things, but you seem to be perceptive to bs. But while there are those bums that are looking for someone to suger mama them, alternatively there are dudes that have a huge amount of pride and will be intimidated by the fact that you probably are more financially stable than him which plays on the same insecurities that you mention.

It wasn't that long ago I got into my career and a better financial position I was in a period I didn't even wanna date like that because I hated the thought of a woman of value, or any for that matter, perceiving me as broke so I was focusing on getting my money right.

Point of saying that is, I think at least like, 70%+ of men find it hard to believe that there are some women that genuinely have no materialistic ulterior motives and date as you do to see if personalities fit. That's why I think we have our own bullshyr tests just to see where a woman's mind is at. Hell, some men understand the game and prefer just paying for shyt cause it makes them feel like that nikka. What one person calls tricking another will call it 'pay the cost to be a boss's or some shyt

The mind games and tests is why I hate dating. Everyone is jaded and does these bullshyt quasi-background checks (self included) stemmed from being hurt when you were younger and emotional, mentally immature by another young person that probably was equally if not less emotionally and mentally immature.