How do y'all go out alone?

[Balla]

I wanna start going to bars and lounges alone, mostly lounges, but it just seems so weird to me to go there alone and people just standing around talking in groups.

I gotta try it tho, I'm literally going everywhere dolo now.

Naw it was a pretty mixed crowd.

I've always been someone that generally ran solo so to an extent I always stood out. I dress nice and get compliments so I take it from there as far as conversation.

My reason was I've always been a homebody and introverted. In my younger days when I did go out with my friends was because I was usually the designated driver. I've never been a hard drinker so I was always the sober dude. When I relocated to Houston years ago I didn't know anyone so it made it hard for me. I literally only went to work and the gym. I would do stuff like go to the movies or dinner alone or whatever but those are things you can generally do alone. Basically I just got tired of spending my free nights at home watching Netflix, sports, or playing video games. Due to my work schedule I wasn't really able to hang out with folks because when I was off they were working or weren't available and when they were available I was working. Plus in my circle I'm one of the few who doesn't have kids and not married/long term relationship. I generally got my stuff together as far as finances, transportation, my own spot, etc. I started out just going to Dave and Busters to watch a game and eventually moved on from there.

 

[Sad Bunny]

Wished I live in a bigger and better city so I could go out alone

 

[Balla]

Just left your thread bout that dc dude.

What's your opinion on avoiding situations like that with women?

I know it's online, but this can go for clubs, bars, and day time as well.

You can try to smash a chick from any spot and they got some shyt they thinking about that u not aware of.

This can happen after u leave with a chick after the club.

How do brehs not end up like those nikkas?

shyt gotta nikka paranoid about every damn thing.

I go outside, I figure out what I wanna do, I go to the destination, I enjoy myself, maybe strike up a convo about somebody's clothing or a current event, or whatever the fukk comes to my mind and I feel like talmbat...then I leave if I'm not busy walking around and watching people. I enjoy people-watching

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

Just left your thread bout that dc dude.

What's your opinion on avoiding situations like that with women?

I know it's online, but this can go for clubs, bars, and day time as well.

You can try to smash a chick from any spot and they got some shyt they thinking about that u not aware of.

This can happen after u leave with a chick after the club.

How do brehs not end up like those nikkas?

shyt gotta nikka paranoid about every damn thing.

I was lucky in life but I almost got fukked up a few times.
Tell people where you're about to go and have emergency contacts on deck...keep a lil blade or something somewhere, and ALWAYS keep your head on a swivel.
A bytch picked me up and drove me to some projects before saying she had to pick her kids up. Them kids daddy appeared out of nowhere and was on some bullshyt.

There is a whole database of demonic red flags on here...If you feel something is up and the situation is getting out of your control, BOLT...My idiot self used to go to secluded areas with women when I was new to cities...
Please don't do this...Nothing BAD happened per se, but things could have went left so many times.

 

[Balla]

Where would u say is better to be at? The chicks house or your crib?

There's really no easy answer cuz u don't know nothing bout her area, and I'm sure u don't want her ass to know where u stay n shyt.

shyt got me hella paranoid.

Never thought about carrying blades, are there like legal sizes you have to carry or some shyt?

I was lucky in life but I almost got fukked up a few times.
Tell people where you're about to go and have emergency contacts on deck...keep a lil blade or something somewhere, and ALWAYS keep your head on a swivel.
A bytch picked me up and drove me to some projects before saying she had to pick her kids up. Them kids daddy appeared out of nowhere and was on some bullshyt.

There is a whole database of demonic red flags on here...If you feel something is up and the situation is getting out of your control, BOLT...My idiot self used to go to secluded areas with women when I was new to cities...
Please don't do this...Nothing BAD happened per se, but things could have went left so many times.

 

[Rozay Oro]

I want to do this shyt eventually but still living at home makes me feel I'll take an L when closing in on a girl lol

 

[Rozay Oro]

get drunk, take an uber downtown and see whats good

Easy for you to say you're a cac. Your choices aren't as limited as ours. Especially us southern brehs

 

[Killer Instinct]

How do you get the women to choose?

Hope she finds you attractive enough to approach or invite you to.





You cant make women choose (ie: approach or linger) If you aren't going to approach, your best bet is to hope she opens (not likely unless she thinks you're sex on two legs or she's borderline tipsy ) or demonstrates body language that suggest shes open to you shooting your shot (90% of the time, this is how women "choose.")

 

[Coerezmoney2212]

My conversation skills really ain't all that bad, I'm just hard on myself.

I feel you on letting the women come 1st, I really don't see myself going out just to get laid. But I ain't had no p*ssy in a year + 1 week no fap[/QUOTE]


Why not

 

[kwazzy100]

and to actually have diverse experiences in life so you have things to talk about and relate to other people about

Holy fukk this.
I wanna pick up many hobbies and life experiences as I can just to connect with people. The best I could think of now is just cooking, playing an instrument, and traveling.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

How do you go to a bar or lounge alone?

At least with clubs u can walk around more and it's darker.

The other two is more lit and less room to move around.

Going to a club solo isn't a good idea if you're introvert and you have no experience with the club scene.

In that environment everyone is all about showing out..and social proof goes a long way in a club. You would need to be real attractive,charismatic and standout to get a broads attention. Most of the men in the club will be with they homies, and when it's alcohol and p*ssy involved dudes get real petty so there is a higher chance of some hating nikkas tryna flex on you because you're solo.



At a bar it's easy because you have a reason to just chill,and eat,watch the tv, and if a chick sits next to you that is an easy way to start a convo...even with the bartenders conversate with them, find out info on other shyt to do in the city.

 

[kwazzy100]

How do you go to a bar or lounge alone?

At least with clubs u can walk around more and it's darker.

The other two is more lit and less room to move around.

Bars and lounges are cozy. Cant imagine myself in a club alone. I like the ones where they do live performance by locals. It's rare for me to talk to a random, but it beats being inside the house all the time. Plus, the weed shop is right around the block

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

How do you get the women to choose?

Make sure that when you step out, that you're looking good and smelling good. Nice shoes that stand out help, as does wearing a fitted blazer. That alone will have them checking you out. And the fact that you're there by yourself, just chillin, will have them slightly intrigued.

Some women choose harder than others. Some will talk to you and ask you dumb questions that make zero sense, and others might just stare at you briefly, stand really really close to you, or touch you as they walk past. When they do any of the above, just talk to them.

Yup..

And if you're going to the club it's def a must to only chat up chicks who are choosing because women in a club environment whole demeanor is different...they got so much shyt going on, and a bunch of dudes tryna get their attention.

I was that dude once who was talking to random broads who didn't want me talking to them at all, but I didn't even notice

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Hope she finds you attractive enough to approach or invite you to.





You cant make women choose (ie: approach or linger) If you aren't going to approach, your best bet is to hope she opens (not likely unless she thinks you're sex on two legs or she's borderline tipsy ) or demonstrates body language that suggest shes open to you shooting your shot (90% of the time, this is how women "choose.")

THIS..

Don't be one of them dudes who tries to peacock for women's attention either...

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Easy for you to say you're a cac. Your choices aren't as limited as ours. Especially us southern brehs

An in shape black man can eat just about ANYWHERE in the country....

You don't even have to be in phenomal shape...

A decently put together black man with natural swag,and some confidence can eat in fukking Idaho,Utah,,Alabama,Cali,.