How do y'all go out alone?

[Dont@Me]

Holy fukk this.
I wanna pick up many hobbies and life experiences as I can just to connect with people. The best I could think of now is just cooking, playing an instrument, and traveling.

do this.

Even if you can't talk to people about it, you can play and entertain them. I've learned how to play several instruments and i'd "prejudge" the type of person and what i thought they would like, play it on the spot, and easily get money from them even though I wasn't doing it for cash. I was doing it to improve at my hobby. I gained so many useful connections doing that, not to mention girls who straight up dropped $20's on me and ended up fukkin me

 

[Rozay Oro]

An in shape black man can eat just about ANYWHERE in the country....

You don't even have to be in phenomal shape...

A decently put together black man with natural swag,and some confidence can eat in fukking Idaho,Utah,,Alabama,Cali,.

I was referring to being careful where you go when you live in gotdamn cacsville. Remember that Indian that got shot at a cac bar due to some old fakkit cac talking about get out my country. It only takes one fakkit cac whether a cop or civilian to shoot your ass for no gotdamn reason breh. I really need a better job or a career. I'm really in need of new clothes. If I want to do this shyt outside like once a few days a month lol

 

[Balla]

I always been to clubs and have been solo.

I know how to move in the clubs and I can hold my own.

It's just doing it over and over again solo is what annoys me.

Plus what am u I supposed to do? Stay home?

What bars are you talking about? A sports bar? The bars I'm talking about are the college bars where people be in groups n shyt ain't no sitting down watching tv.

Bars and lounges are the only spots where I don't know how to go solo because of how everyone is in a group talking in light and I can't really go anywhere.

Going to a club solo isn't a good idea if you're introvert and you have no experience with the club scene.

In that environment everyone is all about showing out..and social proof goes a long way in a club. You would need to be real attractive,charismatic and standout to get a broads attention. Most of the men in the club will be with they homies, and when it's alcohol and p*ssy involved dudes get real petty so there is a higher chance of some hating nikkas tryna flex on you because you're solo.



At a bar it's easy because you have a reason to just chill,and eat,watch the tv, and if a chick sits next to you that is an easy way to start a convo...even with the bartenders conversate with them, find out info on other shyt to do in the city.

 

[Balla]

So bars and lounges are good solo?

They're better than the club fr?

Maybe that's where I need to go.

What kind of bars u talking about?

Bars and lounges are cozy. Cant imagine myself in a club alone. I like the ones where they do live performance by locals. It's rare for me to talk to a random, but it beats being inside the house all the time. Plus, the weed shop is right around the block

 

[luckyse7enz]

Definitely just peeped this thread while out alone. Went to a bar not too far from me.

Just give it a shot. Go somewhere and post up with a brew or something.

Treat it like The Coli and occasionally comment on shyt while under the influence. You'll be surprised at the results.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

I always been to clubs and have been solo.

I know how to move in the clubs and I can hold my own.

It's just doing it over and over again solo is what annoys me.

Plus what am u I supposed to do? Stay home?

What bars are you talking about? A sports bar? The bars I'm talking about are the college bars where people be in groups n shyt ain't no sitting down watching tv.

Bars and lounges are the only spots where I don't know how to go solo because of how everyone is in a group talking in light and I can't really go anywhere.

Well personally speaking I always met people at the park...Pike Place,Myrtle Edwards, or capitol hill in Seattle...in Seattle they got bars with pinball machines and shyt.

 

[Balla]

One thing that I don't like about going out alone is not being able to drink my ass off.

Not get drunk, but wavy.

I just do it to feel good n chill, I don't even drink so that's the only time I do.

 

[Balla]

How long were u there for?

Definitely just peeped this thread while out alone. Went to a bar not too far from me.

Just give it a shot. Go somewhere and post up with a brew or something.

Treat it like The Coli and occasionally comment on shyt while under the influence. You'll be surprised at the results.

 

[Cadillac]

I don't go out like that to Bars. I dont drink so I see no point of going. Alot of my friends do, so I don't join them to go out drinking or anything.

I do go to open mics, and such. But sometimes I go alone because I be performing at them. And I need to get myself ready rather than entertain my friend or family who came with me.

In regards to friends? Well that would be fellow performers, who I have befriended and grew friendly with.
So most of the time I talk to the other performers. When I go to events that I will be performing at. As well as some of the girls that I find interesting and spit game at them.

 

[kwazzy100]

So bars and lounges are good solo?

They're better than the club fr?

Maybe that's where I need to go.

What kind of bars u talking about?

Bars that mostly young adults be at downtown. You'll see a lot of chill people there. If you strike up a conversation, I'm sure they'll be nice. Even if they don't wanna talk that much. I prefer the ones that play downtempo or chill hop.

 

[TRUEST]

to the op, whatever you do, do not go to clubs by urself, unless of course u are popular and u know most people in there. its a terrible idea.

bars and lounges are your best best. i've seen many people come in there by themselves just to grab a bite to eat, drink and bounce. how u act at a bar/lounge dictates whether or not u'l feel awkward. when you're at the bar, try to remember to smile, be approachable. and have ur drink ready. switch between sipping on ur drink to eating, to checking whatever u want to on ur phone. watch for any nervous mannerisms, and check it. Be calm! What is being calm? Slow down everything you do. Ur movements, and how you talk.

also, try to pick a bar that is very close to where u live.

u probably wont get it right the first time u go. but, go to the same bar two or three times in a row so u get a feel for that scene. then try different bars. u dont have to stay there long. the goal here is to help u shed that nervous "ooh my god i feel so weird" feeling and embrace a "i really dont give a sh1t" attitude.

 

[Taadow]

I hope this a troll post lmao

No disrespect - but ain't you the one always asking for advice on how to meet folks?
You best soak game...

 

[Omar Little]

Strongly thinking about doing this..

My Grandson got me some PodAirs and it’s been too long to not go solo to the bar. I love having a steak, beer and reading thecoli at the bar

 

[Vodun]

Make sure that when you step out, that you're looking good and smelling good. Nice shoes that stand out help, as does wearing a fitted blazer. That alone will have them checking you out. And the fact that you're there by yourself, just chillin, will have them slightly intrigued.

Some women choose harder than others. Some will talk to you and ask you dumb questions that make zero sense, and others might just stare at you briefly, stand really really close to you, or touch you as they walk past. When they do any of the above, just talk to them.

I'm married now but back when I was single I never understood the standing real close or touch in as they walk by. It's like damn just say something lol

 

[Wildin]

I hope this a troll post lmao

It's not. A lot of the places I used to go now have games, not arcade or pinball but darts, billards, shuffleboard, and even stuff like connect 4.

It wasn't til I started playing darts (I've always played pool) that I notice how many people are like (at lemme go against you)

Even with males (no homo) they be like "let me run one) yall play for or drinks, just start talkin about the NFL or NBA then you kinda mix in with their crowd.

It's real easy especially if you smoke (weed or nicotine) in kind of a loser way it extends the hangout time but builds rapport and depending on the size of the group when it starts winding down people are like " yall wanna go parlay (chill in a parking lot/after hours spot) or eat?" For some reason there's always more people than rides so you can end up driving to a spot chillin afterwards.

The only problem I've ever had was 8/10 times I wasn't truly dolo because Id bump into someone I know or knew someone I know.

If people ask why youre dolo I always said "I'm just chillin I got off at 11 and didn't even bother to call anyone, just wanted to get out the house"

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