How do you motivate yourself?

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

As an introvert this is one of those pieces of advice that's really hard to put into practise. I'll try and give it a go though, through the power of curiosity if nothing else.

Can I give you 3 pieces of advice?

1. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of that introvert/shy shyt. This is coming from someone who use to be painfully shy. It took time but it was so worth it. It will open up avenues that you never thought possible. It will seriously change your life. Force yourself to be around people. I know it will feel uncomfortable but you have to do it.

2. No one ever got anywhere by being nice. People do not respect nice people. It is reality. The sooner you apply this principle to your life the farther you will get. And I don't mean be a bytch. I mean NEVER compromise EVER.

3. Please don't let people guilt you into not wanting or accepting help. Men always want to shame women for getting something out of them. There is a business concept call leverage. You don't depend on someone's money but you can damn sure use it to take you where you need to go. If you need something ask for it. You will be surprised what you can get by just asking.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

shiiiiiettt I had to go through HELL, meet a few people only to lose them and a few things to develop this mentality

I guess my life has been pretty easy up until now, thank God, so I can take things for granted.

But you're obviously a testament to hardship making you stronger

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Can I give you 3 pieces of advice?

1. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of that introvert/shy shyt. This is coming from someone who use to be painfully shy. It took time but it was so worth it. It will open up avenues that you never thought possible. It will seriously change your life. Force yourself to be around people. I know it will feel uncomfortable but you have to do it.

2. No one ever got anywhere by being nice. People do not respect nice people. It is reality. The sooner you apply this principle to your life the farther you will get. And I don't mean be a bytch. I mean NEVER compromise EVER.

3. Please don't let people guilt you into not wanting or accepting help. Men always want to shame women for getting something out of them. There is a business concept call leverage. You don't depend on someone's money but you can damn sure use it to take you where you need to go. If you need something ask for it. You will be surprised what you can get by just asking.

Thanks. That's like the absolute opposite of me, I hate asking for help, especially money which is why I can't even picture getting it from a husband. Nothing comes for free comes to mind so even on a project I don't ask when the person would have been more than willing. Not good.

But I'm not shy, not at all. I just find it exhausting being around too many people for too long. A good time for me, is being completely alone with no human interaction for a few hours.

And I hate conflict so I look for compromises, I don't like aggression and negativity, it makes me anxious.



I am a lost case, we're like polar opposites LOL

 

[AgentGrey]

I think of the sweet feeling of doing what you want when you want, being in control of your world is so satisfactory
its like a deepthroat on your ego.

 

[skeetsinternal]

I think about the light at the end of the tunnel

 

[Yung Yogurt]

I think about the light at the end of the tunnel

are u tryna be gay? Because light from a tunnel is code for something in the homo world

 

[skeetsinternal]

are u tryna be gay? Because light from a tunnel is code for something in the homo world

Nah, I don't do anything gay. I am anti-gay if anything. I just think about my rewards at the end of my journey is all im saying, ....cut it out homie!

 

[Theraflu]

Judging by your posts on here @Ms.CuriousCat I highly doubt you have the option of being a rich mans trophy wife lol so u should stay motivated knowing that ain't an option

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Judging by your posts on here @Ms.CuriousCat I highly doubt you have the option of being a rich mans trophy wife lol so u should stay motivated knowing that ain't an option

Damn, and what makes you say that?

 

[Nemesis]

Can I give you 3 pieces of advice?

1. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of that introvert/shy shyt. This is coming from someone who use to be painfully shy. It took time but it was so worth it. It will open up avenues that you never thought possible. It will seriously change your life. Force yourself to be around people. I know it will feel uncomfortable but you have to do it.

2. No one ever got anywhere by being nice. People do not respect nice people. It is reality. The sooner you apply this principle to your life the farther you will get. And I don't mean be a bytch. I mean NEVER compromise EVER.

3. Please don't let people guilt you into not wanting or accepting help. Men always want to shame women for getting something out of them. There is a business concept call leverage. You don't depend on someone's money but you can damn sure use it to take you where you need to go. If you need something ask for it. You will be surprised what you can get by just asking.

This is so wrong its unreal....... This is a dumb myth perpetuated by people who lack scruples or morals ......If anyone honestly thinks they cant get ahead by being a decent human being they will learn the hard way...

Life is about compromise....we compromise every damn day...theres no Coke in the store you buy a goddam Pepsi or Sprite ..... You think Obama became president without compromising on a lot of his ideals?

no disrespect miss.

 

[Theraflu]

Can I give you 3 pieces of advice?

1. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of that introvert/shy shyt. This is coming from someone who use to be painfully shy. It took time but it was so worth it. It will open up avenues that you never thought possible. It will seriously change your life. Force yourself to be around people. I know it will feel uncomfortable but you have to do it.

2. No one ever got anywhere by being nice. People do not respect nice people. It is reality. The sooner you apply this principle to your life the farther you will get. And I don't mean be a bytch. I mean NEVER compromise EVER.

3. Please don't let people guilt you into not wanting or accepting help. Men always want to shame women for getting something out of them. There is a business concept call leverage. You don't depend on someone's money but you can damn sure use it to take you where you need to go. If you need something ask for it. You will be surprised what you can get by just asking.

Awful advice. Don't lead this innocent girl down a demonic path.

 

[Theraflu]

Damn, and what makes you say that?

Let's be realistic here you don't have the model looks to be a trophy wife. So u better work cos no mans gonna give u nothing

 

[Yung Yogurt]

2. No one ever got anywhere by being nice. People do not respect nice people. It is reality. The sooner you apply this principle to your life the farther you will get. And I don't mean be a bytch. I mean NEVER compromise EVER.

I disagree with this all the way, If u a nice person just try to surround yaself with other nice people. Everybody is not a pitbull and most people that think they are pitbulls are weak ass fakkits.

My advice would be to try avoiding negative people altogether. (unless it's work, school, or jail) then u have to play the game because 9 times out of 10 you will encounter some bullshyt in those places. But don't let negativity fukk up ya positivity...it takes a special type of person to overcome the bullshyt with a positive attitude. Negative outlooks breed negative energy, try to be on some monk shyt and make peace with yourself and learn to not let people bother you or disturb your peace. Perhaps even look into positive/relaxing meditation practices.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

Let's be realistic here you don't have the model looks to be a trophy wife. So u better work cos no mans gonna give u nothing

So I am guessing this where I say nah huh am too, and then you ask me to prove it

Nice try though

 

[Theraflu]

So I am guessing this where I say nah huh am too, and then you ask me to prove it

Nice try though

Nah I have a girlfriend don't need ur pics lol or want em but yh you don't have the supermodel looks so just be realistic with urself