How Does The Coli Feel About Small Talk?

[Pifferry]

Yes because without small talk you can't have real conversations or get to know people
I'm not gonna go up to a friend or someone I just met and say "so what do you currently think about the conflicts in the middle east and isis?"

 

[duckbutta]

The fukk job is this?

I do IT management, specifically dealing with other companies IT infrastructure...so pretty much I deal with Type A management types trying to trick me into agreeing to something or trick me into giving them a service for free or trick me into making a guarantee so they can try and hold my feet to the fire later...dealing with people like this on a day to day basis has pretty much turned me into a social predatory...meaning that in any social situation I tend to try and dictate the ebb and flow of conversation...action...anything...if I join a conversation involving 5 people I just sort of begin to shift the conversation into whatever I want it to be

Pretty much I have to always be "on"...and since I've been "on" for so long...I don't really ever turn it "off"...I doubt I ever will be able to until I quit my job

 

[the cool]

whats big talk?

ya'll nikkas just talk about sucking dikk and how much money ya'll make all the time?

you need small talk brehs

 

[Ciggavelli]

Small talk at work is fukking annoying as hell.

Small talk at parties is alright though. That's how you get to know people.

 

[ThaRealness]

Im not one to force a conversation

 

[QuintessentialBM]

I'm a non-conversationalist conversationalist.

Not into small talk. Feels intrusive.

 

[Dwolf]

Majority of people cant any hold a decent convo.

 

[TRFG]

I don't have a problem with small talk depending on the circumstance.

If I feel like you're talking to me just to get something, I'll give half heartedly responses.

I remember this little 15 year old girl started talking to me outta nowhere. She ask me about my sneakers and where I get them. After that I walked away.

I'm waiting outside the mall, she come up to me and ask do I want a ride anywhere. Her fresh out pen uncle heard her and said you asked him about a ride.

I'm like I'm good, thank you tho.

Small talk can lead to big problems

huh?

 

[TRFG]

In my many years of talking to people, if someone strikes up a conversation with you, they either want to tell you someones business or ask you for a favor, or find some kind of way to come up at your expense.

Again, I'm from Chicago , so

This is why I like don't like small talk

 

[Krispy]

Its kind of awkward when you don't have anything else to say but, if it means speaking im good

 

[3rdWorld]

I will start the small talk if I need to, but hate it when people small talk with me..

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Only at work and I hate it.
I have to do it with guests, coworkers, managers, dept. heads

The list is infinite, but I'm like this, catch me on a good day and I can
shoot the shyt with the best of them.

These last few days I have been struggling.
I am not that chipper, Pharrell Happy singing ass negro

I wanna be left alone but I work in the public and that's not
an option, so....

 

[Flay Mayweather]

huh?

Her uncle looked like he just got out of jail

 

[UserNameless]

I enjoy small talk cause I naturally like learning about people that I meet.

That's not small talk.

Small talk, and small talk only, with complete strangers usually isn't intended for the interlocutors to substantively learn from the content provided during small talk. That's why it's called small talk. You're lucky to get the basics.


Granted, you can learn a lot about someone from small talk... as @duckbutta said ... if you're really attentive to the entire communication process during the encounter.

I honestly feel this way. At the same time I'm starting to think it's important to be good at it.

It is.

If you're trying to network, build a brand and climb the ladder. Unless you're in a field that is highly individualized and requires a highly specialized, specific skill, which only a small few are able to access and have an aptitude for, then you better know how to small talk, regardless of whether you like it.

Yes because without small talk you can't have real conversations...

You shouldn't need small talk to have "real" conversations with people in your life who aren't strangers.

Small talk at work is fukking annoying as hell.

Small talk at parties is alright though. That's how you get to know people.

Spot on.

The only way it's cool for me at work is if I like you ... and that's rare ... or if a person is really creative, imaginative with their small talk, splicing in humor, harmless sarcasm and/or appears genuinely sincere. All rare, but I've encountered it from time to time.

Some people really think they're good at small talk and they aren't, yet expect you to reinforce their egos by maintaining interest. No. Fukk out my office. Your 5 mins are up. Save it for your spouse when you get home.

There's really only one person whom I tolerate small talk with at work from time to time, because she appears to have some level of sincerity when she does it. I don't cringe as much inside when it happens with her.

My homeboy and I were just having a convo about this... he was saying how the "lifers" at a job are the worst. They feel they have some measure or tenure and seniority, and will literally not do their job for damn near an hour and talk his ear off about some bullshyt while he's trying to work.

It seems as if the workers who claim the have the most going on with the most people in their lives wanna engage in idle chatter the most. I like damn, "You got all this going on and all these people in your life, go talk their ear off. This is work."

Honestly, the worst is the baby/kid workplace small talk. I'm like Yo, I'm glad your kids are healthy and alive and all that... but nobody wanna hear that shyt.

Good thread, btw. Big talk on small talk. The dualities. Life is so paradoxical.