How Long Did It Take You To Approach Your Wife/Gf?

[Ashley Banks]

Like I told you in another thread Juice. What homie is going thru is perfectly normal in the modern day adult relationship. Both men and women go thru the feelings that he is going thru. Nothing is wrong "per se" in the relationship.
But that lust for more, jus makes you so dead and unhappy inside that you start to resent your partner

I know those times , those feelings, thats when women start to look for that "thrill" elsewhere, n when men go on the Coli and confess gameplans of leaving their life partners of 10 years for some random chick at the local plant fitness

It's so sad.

This is why I don't want to get married or have kids with anyone. Just reading this has me like and I'm not even going through it. I'm gonna try my hardest to avoid it.

I'm not looking forward to the conversation. I honestly don't think she'll ever be the same again.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

You gotta do what you gotta do bruh so good luck. but damn, you fucked it up for the next nigga who tries to get with her Just know you'll more than likely create the angry and bitter woman that everyone on this website complains about

Yea, I know breh.



Won't even be able to be friendly with her cause she'll view any kindness as me wanting "us" back again.

 

[Drew Wonder]

Yea, I know breh.



Won't even be able to be friendly with her cause she'll view any kindness as me wanting "us" back again.

nah you're gonna have to cut it off. trying to be friendly with her while being in a relationship with the new girl is probably the cruelest thing you can do to her.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

nah you're gonna have to cut it off. trying to be friendly with her while being in a relationship with the new girl is probably the cruelest thing you can do to her.

lol, the "new girl" is a pipe dream. She's in a relationship and even if she did leave, she probably wouldn't be realistically interested in me, and even if she was, it wouldn't be any time soon. But knowing there are women like her out there is motivational is all.

 

[Drew Wonder]

No no no, there's definitely things wrong in the relationship. And before all the women come in like , yes they are things I have talked to her about MANY times over the years. Behaviors that I've allowed to fester over time (I'm not blameless) because I loved her. Times I've looked the other way, shyt we've even gone to counseling before, but in the end, she just gets lazy and reverts back to her old habits and I'm just tired of the cycle.

There is some resentment there. Not anything specifically that she's done but just the nature of being in a relationship is limiting and I look back on opportunities I had in the past to travel or advance my career, but I didn't or couldn't because it wasn't right for "us". shyt like that. I guess I'm just tired of compromising is all.

that's some real shit, a part of me feels bad for your girl but another part of me you for not settling an accepting a subpar relationship just because ya'll been with each other for a long time like most people do

 

[Rominati]

No no no, there's definitely things wrong in the relationship. And before all the women come in like , yes they are things I have talked to her about MANY times over the years. Behaviors that I've allowed to fester over time (I'm not blameless) because I loved her. Times I've looked the other way, shyt we've even gone to counseling before, but in the end, she just gets lazy and reverts back to her old habits and I'm just tired of the cycle.

There is some resentment there. Not anything specifically that she's done but just the nature of being in a relationship is limiting and I look back on opportunities I had in the past to travel or advance my career, but I didn't or couldn't because it wasn't right for "us". shyt like that. I guess I'm just tired of compromising is all.

I know plehboi, I know

Ive been in long term relationships too b. No matter who ya are. Wheter its Rominati or Blvd to Kanye West n Kim Kardashian.

Over the years.All Relationships hit that comfortable "dead zone". Where its just a never ending cycle of monotony and lack of serious care/love for your partner. No amount of "Eating out" or "Going to the movies" or "Beach picnics" is ever gonna bring back that spark, that lust, that love, that mutual respect you once had for one another

Mix that with the fact, that being with another person limits the amount of flexibility you have with your life in ya 20s. NO you cant go get that job across the country, cuz wifey dont like the weather. NO you cant go to Rome or Paris and experience new places on ya own, cuz wifey gon think you cheating. NO you cant ask for space or the house to yaself, cuz she gon think you hate her. NO you cant go hang with ya dawgs while they out there chasing tail cuz thats disrespectfull to ya queen

All those feelings fester in you and just become a Cancer to your relationship.


Best believe ya shorty prolly had/has those feelings too. At this point its just a matter who is gonna be the one to pull the plug on all the pain n let the relationship die in peace

-The paradox of love brehs

 

[BlvdBrawler]

I know plehboi, I know

Ive been in long term relationships too b. No matter who ya are. Wheter its Rominati or Blvd to Kanye West n Kim Kardashian.

Over the years.All Relationships hit that comfortable "dead zone". Where its just a never ending cycle of monotony and lack of serious care/love for your partner. No amount of "Eating out" or "Going to the movies" or "Beach picnics" is ever gonna bring back that spark, that lust, that love, that mutual respect you once had for one another

Mix that with the fact, that being with another person limits the amount of flexibility you have with your life in ya 20s. NO you cant go get that job across the country, cuz wifey dont like the weather. NO you cant go to Rome or Paris and experience new places on ya own, cuz wifey gon think you cheating. NO you cant ask for space or the house to yaself, cuz she gon think you hate her. NO you cant go hang with ya dawgs while they out there chasing tail cuz thats disrespectfull to ya queen

All those feelings fester in you and just become a Cancer to your relationship.


Best believe ya shorty prolly had/has those feelings too. At this point its just a matter who is gonna be the one to pull the plug on all the pain n let the relationship die in peace

The paradox of love brehs

Gospel.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

What do you mean? We had a good run. Helped each other grow and mature. Have some great memories, but the thing has just run it's course. It's always funny to me when people look at past relationships as "time wasted" if they don't result in marriage.

Was going to make a thread about that a while back after a convo I had

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I said something but no play. It took time and we became friends before lovers. sigh...

 

[stealthbomber]

be in serious relationships in your early 20s brehs.

fukk that, relationships are investments. if me and a chick aren't in the same place emotionally, intellectually and in terms of future plans she can get the dikk and bounce

obama didn't become the president by himself, it takes a michelle to drive him to that.

if your woman aint about shyt, you won't be either.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

I saw her as she was walking towards me, stopped her, talked for 2 minutes, got her number then dipped.

 

[Ricky Church]

same day.

 

[Illuminatos]

My future wife (met her about 6 months ago, didn't know she was gonna be my wife till today) I'm going slow and steady with. We're both in relationships at the moment. I'm creating plans within plans.

 

[duckbutta]

Went to pick up some watches at the mall...she was working in the store...as soon as I saw her I said to myself "yep...this one has to be mine...and mine alone"

 

[concise]

What do you mean? We had a good run. Helped each other grow and mature. Have some great memories, but the thing has just run it's course. It's always funny to me when people look at past relationships as "time wasted" if they don't result in marriage.

No no no, there's definitely things wrong in the relationship. And before all the women come in like , yes they are things I have talked to her about MANY times over the years. Behaviors that I've allowed to fester over time (I'm not blameless) because I loved her. Times I've looked the other way, shyt we've even gone to counseling before, but in the end, she just gets lazy and reverts back to her old habits and I'm just tired of the cycle.

There is some resentment there. Not anything specifically that she's done but just the nature of being in a relationship is limiting and I look back on opportunities I had in the past to travel or advance my career, but I didn't or couldn't because it wasn't right for "us". shyt like that. I guess I'm just tired of compromising is all.

I agree on the bolded, but it seems to me you've known for a long time that you've wanted to leave and just never got around to it. So some of that time has definitely been wasted.

It's so sad.

This is why I don't want to get married or have kids with anyone. Just reading this has me like and I'm not even going through it. I'm gonna try my hardest to avoid it.

Don't get into any relationships, then.