How many guys here still insist on paying for the first date? Article defending this inside.

[KenyaDoll]

If she doesn't want to go to grab a coffee with you because its not "a real date" then she wasn't interested in you in the first place.



And this is the reason why coffee dates needs to be the first move.

and coffee dates are just fine. My boyfriend and I (of 2.5 years now) ate at Chipotle for lunch on our first date. That wasn't the original plan, but most of restaurants near his Chicago apartment didn't open until 4 or 5. I didn't care either way. However, a man would be sadly mistaken if he thinks red box on his couch is going to cut it or that I owe him sex because he bought me a meal. I don't do the "chill" thing and I make no apologies about it.

 

[andre patton]

i honestly just dont care.

if i end up going somewhere with a girl...we go somewhere that I wanna go...or do what I wanna do...that I wouldnt go/do otherwise. so if i chose to take a girl its because i think they will make the experience more fun for me. if i end up paying for it, thats fine. we end up splitting, thats fine too...it doesnt matter.

now if she starts suggesting restaurants or shyt she wants to do, that i DONT want to do...yet she expects me to pay...then we have a problem.

i dont see "dating" as some complicated chess game where you gotta always be 2 steps ahead and always outwitting your opponent n shyt like that. i dont overanalyze facebook posts...or emojis...or care how long it takes you to text/call me back. people always wanna search for the hidden messages behind peoples actions and what that "really means"....its stupid to me. i come w/ the real...and take everything said to me at its face value.

 

[andre patton]

I still got free meals from various guys (don't get it twisted), but they just didn't get nothing from me.

are you patting yourself on the back because you were able to fool some guys into buying you stuff for nothing in return? thats lame as fukk.

 

[TheBigBopper]

How y'all nikkas get a bytch in bed on the first night without taking her to a bar and getting her tipsy?

 

[Arianne Martell]

men can do the courting without spending money

 

[dc007]

How y'all nikkas get a bytch in bed on the first night without taking her to a bar and getting her tipsy?

Being in shape and not being socially awkward is a good start

 

[MikelArteta]

Oh but when I made my only SIMPs pay on the first date thread y'all were hating


Nukkaz won't even take their moms or grandma out to dinner bit throwing money on a chick they don't even know bthat well yey

 

[KenyaDoll]

are you patting yourself on the back because you were able to fool some guys into buying you stuff for nothing in return? thats lame as fukk.

No. I played the ATL dating game without getting played. I bet you have no issue with men trying to sex from women without much effort. It's only an issue when women date to their advantage. You call it lame; I call it smart. If you don't like it

 

[Arianne Martell]

I don't really do "dates" anymore. It's a waste of money and time. Coffee is the move. You can still be a gentleman and pay that 13.50, plus your pockets ain't gotta be broken into like that. Plus, since you pulled up in a whip she knows that you're not "broke". And on top of that, I can normally tell after a first coffee date if I'm going to want to see her again based on the conversation and chemistry. If not, I just missed out on 13 dollars. Which is whatever.

:blacklaff: @ nikkas who spend 275 on a first date between a movie, dinner, gas, etc. only to get a hug at the end of the night.

Your mind is more important then your pocket. You could spend all that bread on her, and she'll still not feel you because you're boring. Spent all that time tryna impress her you didn't even show your best features

Which is why coffee dates are GOAT.

I keep telling niccas stop doing these bundle package first dates. Movies, dinner, walk in the park, than get ice cream, all for really nothing. Just do 1 thing at a time and see how it progress.

This, two males in my life that are having a hard time finding a girlfriend; my cousin and friend.

I told my cousin that he doesnt have to prove to no woman that he can provide for her because he is a chief petty officer in the navy and my friend is a psychologist so that bullshyt about being able to be a provider is already cover. My friend he likes to do the date bundles...I tried to tell him to stop doing that until the chick is his girlfriend and they are really worth spending your money. At least my cousin listened to me but my friend still paying for dates on women he just met

 

[Soundbwoy]

if you decide to ask her out you should pay imo( you also get to choose the place) that's if you decide to ask her out as opposed to invite her to chill at the crib

 

[babylon1]

i don't care if she spends money to get ready. that's not my fault. i am not interested in chicks who wear makeup anyways, so the chicks i go out with won't have spent on that shyt. besides, don't act like men don't spend money to look good.

if a woman expects you to pay for her time, she is a prostitute

 

[freetroit]

I take bytches on tea dates...they have nice ambiance... Cost no more than. 10 dollars...
I ain't feeding these hoes till my dikk get fed

 

[Nigerianwonder]

No. I played the ATL dating game without getting played. I bet you have no issue with men trying to sex from women without much effort. It's only an issue when women date to their advantage. You call it lame; I call it smart. If you don't like it

sex is an even exchange. Im pretty sure women get the same enjoyment from it like men do.

 

[KenyaDoll]

sex is an even exchange. Im pretty sure women get the same enjoyment from it like men do.

I'm not down for random sex; therefore, it wouldn't be an even exchange for me.

 

[swimmingpools]

I met this guy last week and we've been talking here and there. So Monday he asked me out for this weekend and at the end he said, "It'll be all on me". I just thought it was a little funny, and maybe I'm reading too in to it. I think that if we're in a relationship its different because I will pay sometimes, but first date if you're asking me out then you should pay.