Houses as bait? It’s not bait. It’s one of the many factors that makes you a higher quality man. When you’re older, you understand yourself better, understand what you’ll put up with, the type of environment you want to be in, reading situations, vetting who in your life will be an asset or a liability. You feel better & more confident when you have your own shyt.
Don’t worry about “shyt flying”, you make your own rules, the biggest priority is doing things for you. Enjoy life in environments where women may happen to be at, but not as the primary focus. So if you happen to be at the mall shopping for some reason and you see an age appropriate joint
Go talk to her. No one is saying to look like a mark & lead with your wallet or house.
All those memories don’t mean shyt. If we’re being honest. What you need to focus on is quality, creating balance & having fun with the process