How much space yall need from ya GF?

[NeilCartwright]

I wanted a second opinion from those in relationships, me and my girl been together for about half a year and we dont live together yet. We both work from home and she wants to interact for what seems like all day.

When i wasnt remote i couldnt have my phone from 7:30-4:30but sometimes it seems like she doesnt feel where im coming from with that.

Sometimes she'll travel for work, maybe 4 days out of the week, and will want to be on facetime at the end of the night. A nikka needs his sleepi dont necessarily mind being on the phone but im not a huge fan of facetime...but she prefers it so we kinda bump heads on that. I used to travel while in the military and honestly 4 days isnt a long time to me, ive done longer, but she thinks it is

The main thing is i feel like there's no opportunity to miss each other, it seems like we're interacting most of the day, every day

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

I'm a advocate for taking time a part. You see this person day in and day out and a lot of people get to a point where they unconsciously depend on that person.

But to answer your question...this is where compromising come into play. I don't like FaceTime calls either but if its important to her then either do it 2 times out of the 4 or something else. To me that isn't something to really be bothered about imo

 

[kdslittlebro]

There is no one size fits all. Everybody opinion is only gonna apply to them and their situation. You gotta either talk it out and find compromise or deal with the disagreement til it’s a dealbreaker.

Any time I’m in a relationship I find or I’m told I want “too much” space, so I keep life casual until I find one that’s either on my time, or dope enough that I wanna spend all that time, but that shyt sound scary

“Everything in moderation” is damn near the key to life tho

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

You share that girl

 

[DaddyFresh]

I'm a advocate for taking time a part. You see this person day in and day out and a lot of people get to a point where they unconsciously depend on that person.

But to answer your question...this is where compromising come into play. I don't like FaceTime calls either but if its important to her then either do it 2 times out of the 4 or something else. To me that isn't something to really be bothered about imo

This. Compromise and if she’s not a nut she will understand

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

There is no one size fits all. Everybody opinion is only gonna apply to them and their situation. You gotta either talk it out and find compromise or deal with the disagreement til it’s a dealbreaker.

Any time I’m in a relationship I find or I’m told I want “too much” space, so I keep life casual until I find one that’s either on my time, or dope enough that I wanna spend all that time, but that shyt sound scary

“Everything in moderation” is damn near the key to life tho

I was in that situation once and I asked the girl "how did your past relationships work out without taking any breaks from each other? Why don't you try something new this time" and she was at a loss for words

 

[Bossyyyyy]

Was in a similar situation and my girl was accommodating. I really feel you on the “never get a chance to miss her” thing and tbh, I doubt she’ll let you get THAT MUCH space. But talk it out w her and let her know how you feel. Like personally I’m an only child, so talking/ being around ppl all day can be overwhelming…or I just don’t wanna do it. Let shorty know Neil need his Neil time, and odds are when you and shorty do get back together she’ll have more fun, because you’re recharged.

sounds like she really fw you, so jus let her know

 

[kdslittlebro]

I was in that situation once and I asked the girl "how did your past relationships work out without taking any breaks from each other? Why don't you try something new this time" and she was at a loss for words

Too much logic, not enough emotion that’s gospel tho.

 

[UpNext]

My girl introverted as fukk so it's not much text messaging or phone conversations going on, we see each other 4-5 days out the week tho. And she used to trip when I wouldn't answer the phone or would take hours to text back but in time got over it. I just need to be away from my phone sometimes, she got a key and can pull up anytime she wants tho.


As for your situation I'd move in the exact same manner I move in this relationship. If she needs all this affirmation and communication I'm just not that guy. Sorry burn out is real in my industry and I gotta protect my headspace at all cost.

 

[NeilCartwright]

I really appreciate the responses brehs. We have talked it out, and we view it differently right now, so there will have to be some compromise.

 

[bigde09]

There's times where I like to be left alone. You have to communicate that to your girl.

I used to disappear for hours and not speak to my girl without explanation and she eventually got fed up and was no longer my girl

 

[BuckFilly]

Why you don’t travel with her ?

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Just wait until y’all get married...

 

[Xcenai]

if your girl demanding so much time and attention from you, she has no life or hobbies, and that won't end well

 

[gho3st]

I wanted a second opinion from those in relationships, me and my girl been together for about half a year and we dont live together yet. We both work from home and she wants to interact for what seems like all day.

When i wasnt remote i couldnt have my phone from 7:30-4:30but sometimes it seems like she doesnt feel where im coming from with that.

Sometimes she'll travel for work, maybe 4 days out of the week, and will want to be on facetime at the end of the night. A nikka needs his sleepi dont necessarily mind being on the phone but im not a huge fan of facetime...but she prefers it so we kinda bump heads on that. I used to travel while in the military and honestly 4 days isnt a long time to me, ive done longer, but she thinks it is

The main thing is i feel like there's no opportunity to miss each other, it seems like we're interacting most of the day, every day

Im in the same boat. Give in on the facetime and text her every now and then during the day