How Secure Are You In A Relationship?

[Lithe]

Do you keep a close eye on social media
Do you allow your significant other to have friends of the opposite gender?
Do you get mad when male friends hug her in public?
Do you let her go to club nights or holiday trips alone?

Male and females can answer

I'm single, but from past experiences...

No

Yes

*him, and no

*him, and yes, but I doubt he'd actually be going by himself.

I won't be in a relationship with anyone who makes me feel like I should have a reason to be insecure. In fact, that's why I turned down a marriage proposal at 22, and ended my high school "sweetheart" relationship (two different guys) because both of them were on some ego tripping "compete for me to prove yourself" agenda. I will fight for my man, but I will never fight over a man. No, no, no. If he wants to go, let him... I'd just like the respect of knowing ahead of time. Being cheated on is really hurtful!

I learned very young at 17 which kept me from slipping at 22. Ain't nobody got time! Fool me once, shame on you...

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

where did the abandonment issues stem from?


if you dont mind me asking

From my pops and first serious girlfriend.
Those two both faded to black when I needed them the most.
So I rarely put stock into any type of relationship which causes people to think I don't care.
I bottle a lot of stuff up and don't voice my emotions or show affection.
But it's coming natural with my current but I still have my moments of withdrawal and doubts about her which makes her sad.
But I'm trying harder in this relationship to open up because she's an amazing woman..

 

[Lo-Co]

I feel like I I can't get attached to people like I used to. I shut myself out constantly from the world. So much I lost what little conversational skills I started to gain. I'm not good with romance. I don't like the vulnerability. As stupid as it sounds. I want to open up to people but I feel like people treat me like a kid the moment I do. It angers me because I'm a man. A man whos on his own two who don't take nothing from no one. Who has shyt to offer someone in a relationship.

From my pops and first serious girlfriend.
Those two both faded to black when I needed them the most.
So I rarely put stock into any type of relationship which causes people to think I don't care.
I bottle a lot of stuff up and don't voice my emotions or show affection.
But it's coming natural with my current but I still have my moments of withdrawal and doubts about her which makes her sad.
But I'm trying harder in this relationship to open up because she's an amazing woman..

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I feel like I I can't get attached to people like I used to. I shut myself out constantly from the world. So much I lost what little conversational skills I started to gain. I'm not good with romance. I don't like the vulnerability. As stupid as it sounds. I want to open up to people but I feel like people treat me like a kid the moment I do. It angers me because I'm a man. A man whos on his own two who don't take nothing from no one. Who has shyt to offer someone in a relationship.

Trust I feel you and I'm scared shytless at this moment but I took a chance and it's working out.
The vulnerability is the hardest because I've seen people switch up so fast but at the same time I didn't want my past to run my future.
I'm getting better but I still have moments that cause pure fukkery because I don't hold my tongue for people l don't like or I feel that can take advantage of not only her but myself as well.
As cliched and as corny as it sounds, you only can take it one day at a time...

 

[Lo-Co]

Trust I feel you and I'm scared shytless at this moment but I took a chance and it's working out.
The vulnerability is the hardest because I've seen people switch up so fast but at the same time I didn't want my past to run my future.
I'm getting better but I still have moments that cause pure fukkery because I don't hold my tongue for people l don't like or I feel that can take advantage of not only her but myself as well.
As cliched and as corny as it sounds, you only can take it one day at a time...

True. I get scared of the switch up at times. I've been paranoid about taking chances in the vein of Sosa from scarface. Just the cold look he gives tony, as he says "don't fukk me. Don't you ever try to fukk me". I just don't want to fukk up the investment. So I have to be cold to protect myself at times. But I miss out and freeze myself and miss things on some futurama shyt.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

True. I get scared of the switch up at times. I've been paranoid about taking chances in the vein of Sosa from scarface. Just the cold look he gives tony, as he says "don't fukk me. Don't you ever try to fukk me". I just don't want to fukk up the investment. So I have to be cold to protect myself at times. But I miss out and freeze myself and miss things on some futurama shyt.

It'll get better..
It's hard but from what my girl has shown me these past couple of months is that having a shroud of darkness around your heart can make you miss out on a lot.
Enjoy the moment, accept it for what it is and if love bounces, just enjoy what you had and continue on.
I know betrayal is hard to deal with but the world has a funny way of dealing retribution. Everybody that has done me wrong has been assed out from what I have seen.
Just try before it's too late.

 

[Lo-Co]

It'll get better..
It's hard but from what my girl has shown me these past couple of months is that having a shroud of darkness around your heart can make you miss out on a lot.
Enjoy the moment, accept it for what it is and if love bounces, just enjoy what you had and continue on.
I know betrayal is hard to deal with but the world has a funny way of dealing retribution. Everybody that has done me wrong has been assed out from what I have seen.
Just try before it's too late.

True. Maybe I'll take the jump and it'll get better. I just need to take the chance and see that it'll be something good out there for me. Maybe ill build confidence first

 

[Express]

That's crazy, that's not love.

im jokin

 

[↓R↑LYB]

@ allowing your women.

 

[The Mad Titan]

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Very secure I see lol

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Very secure I see lol

I was going in on my ex so I decided to delete it. I am very secure though.

 

[CinnaSlim]

I dont have the time or energy to keep tabs on people. I dont mind when chicks hug my man but I expect him to introduce me to whoever is close enough to be hugging up on him.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I dont have the time or energy to keep tabs on people. I dont mind when chicks hug my man but I expect him to introduce me to whoever is close enough to be hugging up on him.

What if its one of those tight slow hugs lol.

 

[Nemesis]

Do you keep a close eye on social media
Do you allow your significant other to have friends of the opposite gender?
Do you get mad when male friends hug her in public?
Do you let her go to club nights or holiday trips alone?

Male and females can answer

Im not on social media, neither is my wifey
dont care.....
nope... dont care
yep.... dont care .... dont really want to be up in a club

 

[Express]

Im not on social media, neither is my wifey
dont care.....
nope... dont care
yep.... dont care .... dont really want to be up in a club

u real