How Some Black Mom’s Treat Their Sons vs. How They Treat Their Daughters
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SplizThaDon
This thread and the posts in it are very one sided.
spliz
SplizThaDon
The other side of the coin. And look. Noone dapped it. Smh. Lol
It’s kinda why I’m HOB hard on bros. Dudes wanna call me a feminist but men being coddled worldwide on some “boys will be boys” and “just let em be” has resulted in a bunch of dudes acting crazy as hell without consequence.
Really hate how this forum constantly displays a general ignorance of other cultures/people, constantly shows that people here simply don't...read anything (articles, newspaper, etc), and constantly defines all black people in a denigrating fashion in order to make broad points about behavior. The "coddled son, harassed daughter" is NOT black exclusive and has been a staple of multiple cultures for a LONG time. It was even prominently displayed in arguably the most important TV show of the last 20+ years: The Sopranos. If you remember, Tony's son was constantly babied and given excuses for his behavior while his daughter was pushed to excellence. In the end his son was a deadbeat, and his daughter was on a successful path of post-grad education. The show often delved into many aspects of Italian American culture...and that is definitely a major one in terms of family dynamics.
This is seen in Hispanic families. I assume brehs didn't peep it since it's "sjw bs" but there's been a lot of talk about the cultural practice of men not being expected to do jack shyt in the house while women are herded into the kitchen to cook/clean/etc during family events. That mentality doesn't remain in the kitchen, or the house. It expands out.
One of the biggest reasons we have a generation of goal-less, drifting young white men is because they were coddled all through their life. The minute life got hard they weren't prepared, and they shrunk into negative behaviors, extremism, violence, etc. Meanwhile women are constantly pushed out the house, or controlled. Parents often see daughters as a ticking time bomb (ie the fear of pregnancy) and want to get them prepared and out the house as soon as possible. You see this in black, white, Hispanic, etc communities all the time. And it's contributing to our society's decline. Men are being raised to fail.
The world can’t survive the old coddle the men, shame the women dynamic any longer.
This is also why a lot of younger dudes resent male authority...or ANY authority. Half the shyt these young cats on this website brag about would have gotten their teeth knocked down their throats in my family. My parents and extended family go hard on the females, but they go hard on the males too.
I distinctly remember my uncle cursing my cousin out over the holiday dinner telling him to keep his wack ass dikk in his pants instead of having nothing but sex and stress to offer a chick.
I was like...DAYUM...pass the peas.Similarly, my other auntie took my other cousins Xbox and smashed it to pieces and left it in his room to clean up when he failed a class.
My family is crazy as fukk but the shyt works.
To date we have no divorces, no OOW babies, no scandals.
Accountability for all. My male cousins and family members are all homeowners and tradesmen. One owns his own plumbing business and the other one has his own ranch and does landscaping as an LLC.
Nobody ever benefitted from a lack of accountability. I see this frequently. A lot of those incels were created by moms who coddled and reinforce that nonsense.
I remember a story about a grown ass dude sueing his parents over the right to continue to live with them instead of working and moving out.
Let me try some shyt like that. If I stayed, I would have stayed PERMANENTLY in a fresh grave. My parents would have choked my ass out.
saturn7
Politics is an EXCHANGE!!!
Michelle Obama actually said this in public too.
IMO it means they are preparing their daughters to be independent and to take care of themselves (Black Girls Rock etc) but for the boys they just want him to get through life without falling into the traps waiting for black men (street life, interactions with the police etc). It seems like the mom has different expectations for each. The girls would excel at academics and the boy would have all the girls chasing him.
Kind of a twist on the Baby Boy syndrome with the spoiled pampered son.
There is nothing wrong with mom's coddling their sons. It's natural. It's only a problem when there are no men around to provide balance and accountability. As a kid...at a pretty early age, I knew that I could have my way with mom, my aunts, and certainly grandma. However, I also knew that pops, uncles, and certainly grandpa weren't going for that shyt. Same thing with the new generation. My sons and nephews run all kinda game on their mom/aunts and I shut that shyt down. When I walk in the door, my eldest son's whole demeanor changes and sometimes he will even verbally acknowledge the shift.
This ain't a black thing either. In all cultures, there is an epidemic of single mothers. It has been accepted as the norm. If dad is not around or not consistent how are sons supposed to learn how to be a man? Certainly not from a woman that worships the ground he walks on. The coddling of sons isn't what needs to change...it's the poor selection and coddling of grown ass men that needs to change. Chicks gotta stop picking nikkas that clearly aren't fit for fatherhood to mate with. They need to be held accountable for that. It's not shaming or bu...bu...but what about the man, it's basic logic. If shytty men can get raw sex AND get to skate on the responsibility for the child that comes as a result, then why should they do any different?
This ain't a black thing either. In all cultures, there is an epidemic of single mothers. It has been accepted as the norm. If dad is not around or not consistent how are sons supposed to learn how to be a man? Certainly not from a woman that worships the ground he walks on. The coddling of sons isn't what needs to change...it's the poor selection and coddling of grown ass men that needs to change. Chicks gotta stop picking nikkas that clearly aren't fit for fatherhood to mate with. They need to be held accountable for that. It's not shaming or bu...bu...but what about the man, it's basic logic. If shytty men can get raw sex AND get to skate on the responsibility for the child that comes as a result, then why should they do any different?
It’s kinda why I’m HOB hard on bros. Dudes wanna call me a feminist but men being coddled worldwide on some “boys will be boys” and “just let em be” has resulted in a bunch of dudes acting crazy as hell without consequence.
The world can’t survive the old coddle the men, shame the women dynamic any longer.
This is also why a lot of younger dudes resent male authority...or ANY authority. Half the shyt these young cats on this website brag about would
Only weak men and women abide by this dynamic. And when it comes to relationships and breeding, women are coddled even more than men. Women get shyt talked about them. Men suffer actual consequences. I agree with what you say about these young cats and their resentment for real men attempting to check them. If you don't get that early in life and aren't used to it, it can be overwhelming and once you get to a certain age and have freedom and choices, you aren't gonna choose to deal with that. I would have gladly avoided it as a child if I could, but I am so happy now that I couldn't. That's why it all comes back to people making better choices in regards to who they make children with. It's really so simple and honestly in 2019 there is no excuse for having a child by mistake...there are just to many means of contraception and just being careful who you fukk is still an option.
I feel like this happens in all cases with the opposite gendered child.
Mother's coddle sons
Father's spoil daughters
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Exactly...that's why you have two parents (or at least you are supposed to have two). Men recognize the bullshyt in boys and can effectively check it. Women recognize the bullshyt in girls and can effectively check it. You learn how a man/woman is supposed to treat you from the parent of the opposite sex. The breakdown of that family dynamic inevitably leads to the breakdown of society.
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
I must be an anomaly then 
My older, middle sister is my Mom's angel and can do no wrong.
My oldest sister has constantly been a fukkup but must never be criticized.
Me on the other hand, am the black sheep of the family, and my Mom gets on my ass for every little shyt.
My older, middle sister is my Mom's angel and can do no wrong.
My oldest sister has constantly been a fukkup but must never be criticized.
Me on the other hand, am the black sheep of the family, and my Mom gets on my ass for every little shyt.
You see this is why every poster on here is 6ft plus, earns 6 figures, early 20s or at least looks early 20s and is pretty much perfect.
Why reveal a vulnerable side when posters will just use it mock you in every thread.
I mean I’m no better; I’ve mocked other posters who revealed their vulnerable side so I’m just as bad.
Like when @Billy Ocean said he used to watch tranny porn and if that was homo or not and got mocked mercilessly
It’s kinda why I’m HOB hard on bros. Dudes wanna call me a feminist but men being coddled worldwide on some “boys will be boys” and “just let em be” has resulted in a bunch of dudes acting crazy as hell without consequence.
The world can’t survive the old coddle the men, shame the women dynamic any longer.
This is also why a lot of younger dudes resent male authority...or ANY authority. Half the shyt these young cats on this website brag about would have gotten their teeth knocked down their throats in my family. My parents and extended family go hard on the females, but they go hard on the males too.
I distinctly remember my uncle cursing my cousin out over the holiday dinner telling him to keep his wack ass dikk in his pants instead of having nothing but sex and stress to offer a chick.
Similarly, my other auntie took my other cousins Xbox and smashed it to pieces and left it in his room to clean up when he failed a class.
My family is crazy as fukk but the shyt works.
To date we have no divorces, no OOW babies, no scandals.
Accountability for all. My male cousins and family members are all homeowners and tradesmen. One owns his own plumbing business and the other one has his own ranch and does landscaping as an LLC.
Nobody ever benefitted from a lack of accountability. I see this frequently. A lot of those incels were created by moms who coddled and reinforce that nonsense.
I remember a story about a grown ass dude sueing his parents over the right to continue to live with them instead of working and moving out.
Let me try some shyt like that. If I stayed, I would have stayed PERMANENTLY in a fresh grave. My parents would have choked my ass out.
Aren't you that bytch who hit licks with her bum of a husband?
I think one of the issues with our community is degenerates like you feeling at liberty to look down on others. It is the moral compass is broken for many that someone showing softness is worse than robbery.
