How soon is too soon to propose?

[onelastdeath]

it takes 5+ years to do that?

Absolutely. How much can you know about someone in a year or twO? Only in American marriage is knowing someone a year enough time to think you know someone completely. Thats why the divorce rate is so high now. Everyone is giving into social demands, and not taking the time to know one another.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Are we talking about eternal love or a contract

It doesn't matter when you get married. It's the strength of the marriage and relationship that counts. All this "wasting" your youth shyt like the guy isn't getting older too

No way you can know someone well enough to dedicate your life to them after one year.

I never said that, but you certainly know before year 5.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Absolutely. How much can you know about someone in a year or twO? Only in American marriage is knowing someone a year enough time to think you know someone completely. Thats why the divorce rate is so high now. Everyone is giving into social demands, and not taking the time to know one another.

meh, I disagree. That's why you need to get with someone on the same path as you. I would never stay with a guy that wanted me to just date him for 5 years, even my fiance thinks that's ridiculous. and I think getting married after a year is crazy too but getting engaged after 2 years and married after a year of being engaged works for me. but 5 years? no. I'm leaving.

 

[onelastdeath]

I never said that, but you certainly know before year 5.

How? Why is 5 years too long to decide if you want to spend the next 50 with someone? You're essentially giving them everything you have, and promising them that everything that you will have their desires and emotions taken into consideration. You're giving them your last name, and promising to build a future with them. 5 years is too long for that? 5 years is too long for someone to feel comfortable being with one person UNTIL THEY DIE?

 

[Mob H]

not trying to get strung along by some dude that's just using me. To me, he's just waiting until he finds something better then he's just gonna leave you behind, so I'll just leave before it gets to that point.

So you wanna rush marriage so you can do the same then make out with half?

 

[onelastdeath]

meh, I disagree. That's why you need to get with someone on the same path as you. I would never stay with a guy that wanted me to just date him for 5 years, even my fiance thinks that's ridiculous.

maybe I'm different. But im not dedicating and vowing to spemd the rest of my life with someone after knowing of their existence for 2 years. You didn't know the person was even alive 2 years ago, and you're vowing your life to them?

5 years minimum. Notice I said minimum. If you're with someone and in love with someone, a piece of paper won't and shouldn't dictate the love.

 

[Aceofspades404]

Absolutely. How much can you know about someone in a year or twO? Only in American marriage is knowing someone a year enough time to think you know someone completely. Thats why the divorce rate is so high now. Everyone is giving into social demands, and not taking the time to know one another.

lol, in a lot of non western cultures, ppl are engaged and married within a year of knowing each other and they seem to be fine. Me thinks that isn't the issue

 

[onelastdeath]

So you wanna rush marriage so you can do the same then make out with half?

I'm not even thinking about money breh. But how can you honestly say that you're ready to give someone your life when you didn't know who they were 2 years ago?

It all goes back to women wanting to be brides and not wives. You want "that day" and you want "that title" not everything that comes with it.

 

[Ashley Banks]

So you wanna rush marriage so you can do the same then make out with half?

I wouldn't be able to take half even if I wanted it. and I'll sign a prenup if he wants one, idc.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Women that set time limits on things are so stupid saying it's a waste if not by a certain amount of time we not married. Really any number you put on it is arbitrary because there is no set time limit on when things happen.

I only use facts to come to my conclusions.
Ted Huston’s research suggests that men and women who have courted for an average duration of two years and four months benefit from greater martial success.

While couples who are fast to marry are as equally likely to divorce as couples who are slow to marry, those who have been courting for around two years on average tend to remain married for seven years longer.

 

[bcrusaderw]

lol, in a lot of non western cultures, ppl are engaged and married within a year of knowing each other and they seem to be fine. Me thinks that isn't the issue

Some of them don't even know each other at all. Apparently 54% of marriages worldwide are arranged, and their divorce rate is like 6%.
http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/
Crazy stats in that link.

 

[Ashley Banks]

maybe I'm different. But im not dedicating and vowing to spemd the rest of my life with someone after knowing of their existence for 2 years. You didn't know the person was even alive 2 years ago, and you're vowing your life to them?

5 years minimum. Notice I said minimum. If you're with someone and in love with someone, a piece of paper won't and shouldn't dictate the love.

I don't usually date people I haven't known for a while.

and if you're with someone and in love with them, why can't you get that "piece of paper"? Since it's just a piece of paper.

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

Thread is hilarious

Im back on my #GMB shyt though We in here

 

[onelastdeath]

I don't usually date people I haven't known for a while.

and if you're with someone and in love with them, why can't you get that "piece of paper"? Since it's just a piece of paper.

Because that paper is more contract than it is love.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Because that paper is more contract than it is love.

I thought it was just a piece of paper?

now it's a contract. So you love me but not enough to sign a "contract" proving it. Got it.