How the hell do grown people make friends?

[Zebruh]

Most people I've met and became friends with as an adult have been either through work, or hooping at the gym. You start to see nikkas you hoop with regularly out and about at random places and nikkas get cool.

With work it's easy, if your co-workers seem cool enough and do shyt like X-mas parties, step out and attend one. You see them outside of work and you can meet their friends/fam. My co-worker invited me out to her birthday dinner and I ended up meetin a really cool chick that worked at a different branch from us as well as a couple higher up dudes that just liked to chill, drink and get at women. I get up with the two dudes from time to time just to shoot the shyt with them.

And even just parties. At 26 I can honestly say I don't really party hard like I did at 21 but we still send out a few texts and invite people over and they'll invite a couple of their peoples out too and I generally meet cool people just by throwing a lil kickback here and there.

 

[RareHunter]

Tbh, you're not gonna make "friends" post college as a male, this is just the truth. Its possible but not likely

 

[Take It In Blood]

The simple answer is.....


through other friends.


That friend of a friend, eventually becomes your friend and so on.....


Now if u have no friends at all then I guess you're just screwed, start over next lifetime

 

[Taadow]

What do you want friends for?

 

[SupremexKing]

1.Neighborhood

2.Da Club

3.Yo Co Workers

4.Yo College

5.Parties/Kickbacks


U makin dis shyt harder den it needa b
Open yourself up u gon b good

why do you nikkas spell like this, on purpose?

 

[SupremexKing]

Quit being shy and get social, I can chop shyt up with just about anybody who got common interest.
from the hood to the burbs.

your avi tho

 

[Shadow King]

The best way to make "friends" as an adult male is provide value to other people's lives...

As an adult...you kinda get over the whole "liking" someone thing and get more into "what can they do for me..."

Everything revolves around trade at this point...

This is what I meant when I said adult friendship is conditional. As a grown man if a dude isn't putting you on to money, p*ssy, or access to a place that's otherwise difficult to get to, there's really no need to befriend that person, male or female really.

 

[4-Rin]

This is what I meant when I said adult friendship is conditional. As a grown man if a dude isn't putting you on to money, p*ssy, or access to a place that's otherwise difficult to get to, there's really no need to befriend that person, male or female really.

How does that work exactly. What is the person putting you on getting out of it?
If it's not beneficial to him why should he put anyone else on money, p*ssy or access to something that hard to get into.

I don't understand the logic breh.

 

[EndDomination]

College/military friends are usually a part of that.
Depending on what you’re involved in: friends through work, friends through church, mosque, temple, etc, friends through book clubs, advocacy/political groups, using old friends to make new friends, meeting people at the gym, etc.
There are a lot of ways to do it, just depends on how your personal life is already set up.

 

[Shadow King]

How does that work exactly. What is the person putting you on getting out of it?
If it's not beneficial to him why should he put anyone else on money, p*ssy or access to something that hard to get into.

I don't understand the logic breh.

That's where you having a resource/aspect of value comes into play.
You might be good with your hands, he knows you're a mechanic and you might fix his car in the driveway for cheaper than taking it to a shop. He work at the arena, you're able to get 2 game tickets dirt cheap and kick it with him.

You're a dude making decent money but reserved/have a hard time getting out, he's a social butterfly with women in orbit. When he invites you out, he's putting you around women you'd normally be unable to break the barrier with alone, all the while you're chopping it up about ways to make money.

You got a rotation of women, or women you talking to but haven't closed, who all happen to be smokers; breh grows his own weed. You get cool with him and he sells you eighths for $10-15 cheaper than a regular customer, fukk around and give you dubs on the house cause you asked. Now the women got every reason to be over at your spot. You don't care about them like that so you name drop ol boy so he can smash too.

These are scenarios I imagine adults becoming "friends" over. Obviously there's concepts larger and more professional than that but that's my point.

 

[mr.africa]

remember as a kid when you saw a kid with a nice toy and just walked up to him and 10 seconds later you were friends
easier times

 

[El Bombi]

So these dudes can't be friends because they met as adults

LeBron, Melo, and CP3 been friends since high school through AAU basketball.

 

[Kex]

Most work. You are around co-workers most of the day.

Events/hobbies.

 

[rabbitfood]

Start selling ass and you'll have all types of buddies. You got a bubble?

 

[Sane]

Start selling ass and you'll have all types of buddies. You got a bubble?

I'm sure that was funnier in your head