How the hell do grown people make friends?

[UserNameless]

The best way to make "friends" as an adult male is provide value to other people's lives...

As an adult...you kinda get over the whole "liking" someone thing and get more into "what can they do for me..."

Everything revolves around trade at this point...

Hate to say it but yeah...that's primarily true.

but if you're employed and involved in stuff in a decent sized city, you'll meet people post college.

 

[richaveli83]

How old are you OP?

 

[UpAndComing]

I never understood how it's so hard for people to make friends

 

[Da King]

So these dudes can't be friends because they met as adults

Right, they’re your average 4 adults

 

[richaveli83]

Start selling ass and you'll have all types of buddies. You got a bubble?

 

[richaveli83]

I never understood how it's so hard for people to make friends

A lot of these guys are social outcasts, socially awkward, etc. A lot of their life is based on social media, the coli, etc.

 

[semtex]

Oldheads, where do you guys meet women?? Cant imagine just hollering at a girl in the supermarket or some shyt

Still trying to figure it out. 3 years out of college it takes so much effort now. Then again my city was ranked WOAT for dating in 2014

 

[puppetmaster]

remember as a kid when you saw a kid with a nice toy and just walked up to him and 10 seconds later you were friends
easier times

Yup. Adults over complicate this process. It's still this simple, create dialogue over common interests

"hey man tell me about. .. (insert common interest) "

Yes, it could involve admitting you don't know something . .. and?

Folks are too busy trying to be "masculine/save face" that they won't put themselves out there which I understand but that's the problem that holds a lot of brehs up in making friends as adults

there's someone they're afraid to look silly/needy in front of sometimes that person is themselves


It's never been easier to make friends /acquaintances than it is now because you can hop on twitter/instagram right now and talk to someone way across the planet or in your own city within a few clicks of a hashtag on any subject you're interested in.


I know how to talk to people in person and did so a LOT pre social media so thus I've met some cool ass people/connections just using twitter and instagram alone.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

Still trying to figure it out. 3 years out of college it takes so much effort now. Then again my city was ranked WOAT for dating in 2014

I understand tbh. At college and achool it just happens. What city if I may ask?

 

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I’ve made some acquaintances from online activities. Sports interests and gym shyt. I don’t consider them friends though.

Friends are rare.

Yup I understand op question perfectly, everyone I consider a friend know them 15 plus years.

Have a ton of acquaintances and associates and mad business partners I don't considered them friends. Making lasting bonds in adulthood that turn those acquaintances and associates and business partners into friends is rare. A friend is a person you could show up at their door step at 3 in the morning and with out a doubt they got your back, or you call them at 3 in the morning needing a crazy amount of money and they wire to you instantly.

OP should change it to meeting associates which is easier just have a common interest. Meet ups a are great place to find people. Also gym.

 

[UpAndComing]

A lot of these guys are social outcasts, socially awkward, etc. A lot of their life is based on social media, the coli, etc.

Exactly. I could easily play ball one weekend, meet a cool breh and like that we friends. It's really not that hard
I just made a friend with the mechanic a couple weeks ago, when he was doing a fuel system cleaner on my car

 

[str8cashhomie87]

Be a part of organizations. If you live in a city check out young professional non-profit boards, leadership organizations, college alumni groups etc.

 

[semtex]

I understand tbh. At college and achool it just happens. What city if I may ask?

Raleigh NC

 

[ImGucci]

Its sad, but most of the new friends I make are only at work.

Meetup.com, etc. All of my co-workers are cacs Some of them are cool, but...

Thats my issue also, dont even talk about meeting a black woman at work, its like a unicorn meeting a black woman who isnt old at my job. These corporate jobs will hire a million white sorority girls straight out of college, but cant give me 1 young pretty black/hispanic thang

 

[Carlton Banks]

You don't.