How to deal when you're not happy?

Prynce

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Cosign talking to a councillor.

To be honest the 1st thing you've got to do is not be a typical "man". You need to listen to the side of yourself that is upset, you need to cry and you need to let yourself be vulnerable if you're going to get help.

I'm in a similar position in my life where my friends circle is getting smaller and smaller and only a few loyal ones are left and I lost a friend last week who died at 34. She was healthy and just married and she just passed. I'm been pretty down, mix of her death and just the fact we're not going to be here forever.

But besides that there are little fixes: listen to a podcast or something on TV that will make you laugh. See loved ones and chop it up with them, read the Coli for a funny ass thread, save some P, get a passport and travel somewhere for cheap by yourself. Make a playlist of motivating music too, mine has a lot of Pac and DMX on it. Hit the gym or just take a walk somewhere with some music/podcasts

There is no easy way out, depression (which is what you have, there is no mistaking it or undermining it) is not a light switch. I've been in the same hole since 2007 when a my very close cousin took his life. Since then everyday is grey. Even coming back to my mum's crib reminds me of his death and the general mood, so I am pretty down now. But spending time with my mum is good

We all go through the shyts bro. Even nikkas that are rich, look how many of them use drugs or take their lives. You just need to know what it is you're dealing with and ensure you can maintain composure whilst you're going through it. Don't be embarrassed about it either
pride has been holding me back because I don't want to look weak but idk
 

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pride has been holding me back because I don't want to look weak but idk

Gotta say fukk pride. If you have time, seriously, just go to the bathroom/bedroom and just release all them emotion. Even if it' just a lil tear drop that falls fukk it. It helps

You also need to then look for counselling session online. I'm in the UK, so the NHS provides it for free, but I am sure there are people like the Samaritans or other people you can call and talk to.

The biggest issue with me is that for years I held it all in until it popped and I struggled to keep control of it again
 

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-Change your surroundings this plays a huge factor. however most people can't just up and move or leave a city or state.

-Change your life style, if you listening to 21 savage and kodack black all day trying to fight off demons...yeah

-Exercise, this one is huge you don't really feel the effects of it right away however. It takes up time, gives you something to focus on and goals to achieve. Plus over all mentally and physically you'll feel better.

- Eat better, this one is difficult for most people. Especially people that are down and out because we use food as comfort. But one you improve your diet (it can be as small as not drinking cold drinks anymore) along with exercise... in a few months you'll feel like a new man.


-Let things go, most of the time we aren't happy because we are holding on to something or someone. Its good to have goals its good to be loyal but at some point you have to let go of fantasy's especially if it keeps you depressed in reality.

-Really meditate and learn from your mistakes.
 

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why are you unhappy?
I mean it's not major because I've been through morr unfortunate things but this the 1st time something has affected me.

Don't really wanna go into much detail but I'm dealing with loss
 

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wtf how can you be unhappy when you exercise so regularly

go to a psychiatrist seriously, never met someone who exercised that often and wasnt feeling amazing 24/7
It has helped me a lot don't get me wrong cause it helps me with anger and stops me from being hostile
 
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