How to deal when you're not happy?

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What gave you that feeling before?

When did that feeling subside? Specific event or time in your life?

Also, have you been continuously happy before?
I'm usually pretty upbeat and silly but as of late I'm future on throw away
 

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Brehs i'm in a period where i'm just not happy. I been in this funk for months and I haven't been able to claw my way out of it. I've done so many things and I just can't be happy. If I do find some joy it's only temporary and i'm back to where I was. It's not a deep dark hole or a dramatic depression it's just a lethargy. I'm just not happy.

I don't want to be miserable everyday.

So brehs what can I do to escape this place I've been in for so long cause I don't like it.
immerse yourself in hobbies and start saying "no" to people around you more often.

even if you dont have a hobby, find something youve been interested in or something that you're good at and explore that further. set goals for these hobbies, this will help you boost your confidence and the way you feel about yourself as you achieve these goals. it will also give you a repetitive but interesting activity to distract your mind from the pain inside. learning "no" and not feel bad about it will also help you feel more powerful and in control of yourself, time and the people around you.

also seek counseling/therapy if you need someone to talk to.
 

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Gotcha. I would pay attention to triggers (people, situations, events) and stay on guard mentally. Don't allow negative thoughts to fester. Kill em quick

It's a battle breh, hold ya head
Breh it's kind of hard to avoid thoughts cause they just pop up on you and then once you're in funk it's hard to stop thinking that way
 

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Do you know what exactly you're unhappy about?
I should be more clear

It's just hard for me to understand that nobody really cares

Everybody is self centered

I don't get people for the most part.

Even though I have friends I feel loneliness because most people for self while I'm about everybody.

I made the mistake of thinking people were like me I guess. I have too much faith in people.
 

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Breh it's kind of hard to avoid thoughts cause they just pop up on you and then once you're in funk it's hard to stop thinking that way
Believe me I know. I overthink and it's like quicksand. When I say its a battle, I wasn't kidding. I am in the same boat. At some point you gotta say fukk it, it's me or these thoughts. Push it out your mind before it takes root. You can't allow your mind to wander, full court press soon as you wake up.

What works for me: Change your music, do the opposite of what you feel like doing (don't feel like talking? answer the call instead of rejecting it. Feel like sitting home? Go to the gym or out of the house)

Getting a fresh cut can help too
 

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Believe me I know. I overthink and it's like quicksand. When I say its a battle, I wasn't kidding. I am in the same boat. At some point you gotta say fukk it, it's me or these thoughts. Push it out your mind before it takes root. You can't allow your mind to wander, full court press soon as you wake up.

What works for me: Change your music, do the opposite of what you feel like doing (don't feel like talking? answer the call instead of rejecting it. Feel like sitting home? Go to the gym or out of the house)

Getting a fresh cut can help too
Ye breh i got to get better at that cause I usually don't fight my thoughts
 

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I figure out what is making me unhappy. I then find out what beliefs I have that are causing me to be unhappy. I then explore past experiences and find evidence contrary to that belief.

Life is impermanent, get out there and change something.
 

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Idk breh. Wish i knew myself. I haven't been truely happy since middle school :mjcry:
 

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Embrace it until it passes. Plus fall and winter is seasonal depression time so up your vitamin d. Also it wouldn't hurt to seek a professional and see what your testosterone levels are too.
 

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I feel the OP. I'm not very content with my life. I wish I was married to a female who had my best interest, wasn't a financial burden, and who could help me so we could build together. Im 33, with no children and had to sell my home and move in with my parents. I feel so ashamed and less than a man. I have drinks on weekends to cope with my situation.

I would advise talking to a counselor and really taking time to assess ur life and think about where your depression stems from. Finding out the root cause and trying to fix that can help ur issues.
 

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You are suffering from apathy.

There's really nothing you can do about it, eventually you fall out of it or you may not fall out it.

Just keep going about your life. I haven't did shyt that was enjoyable in a long time. I just keep going because there's really nothing else for me to do.


Sisyphus - Wikipedia
Life is the story of Sisyphus, laugh as you push the rock up the hill only for it to come down you, crushing your bones.
 

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I feel the OP. I'm not very content with my life. I wish I was married to a female who had my best interest, wasn't a financial burden, and who could help me so we could build together. Im 33, with no children and had to sell my home and move in with my parents. I feel so ashamed and less than a man. I have drinks on weekends to cope with my situation.

I would advise talking to a counselor and really taking time to assess ur life and think about where your depression stems from. Finding out the root cause and trying to fix that can help ur issues.

If you not trolling...

I hope things get better for you bruh...
 

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You are suffering from apathy.

There's really nothing you can do about it, eventually you fall out of it or you may not fall out it.

Just keep going about your life. I haven't did shyt that was enjoyable in a long time. I just keep going because there's really nothing else for me to do.


Sisyphus - Wikipedia
Life is the story of Sisyphus, laugh as you push the rock up the hill only for it to come down you, crushing your bones.
Ye it's apathy

I hate being stagnated

I'm not content if I'm not making moves. I feel useless if I'm not making myself useful in some way either for myself or other people

I have a need to be great I need acknowledgment. If I feel looked over or fogotten I feel low. I shine so hard because I'm great at a lot of things but once people forget then im feeling bad again. Thats why I'm so good at school or music or what ever I do. I need acknowledgment.

If it's not something I really care about them I'm apathetic about it. I can't live being content with what is going around me. I want more and I'm chasing it but it's not happening as fast as I want it.
 
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