How to forget about someone that doesnt want you....

[MikelArteta]

We call that blessed

What if I have all that AND i'm not balding so hard?

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

The only one thing you need to do is cut off contact. Don't call, text, Skype, stalk their social media, etc. the rest happens on its own...unless you gotta see that mf regularly. then you will just have to convince yourself this person is the devil himself.

Cats need an 'Ignore' function IRL.​

 

[Bless't]

We call that blessed

I see you.

 

[MikelArteta]

If you can go 90 days without calling texting peering in , block and delete them on all social media, block their phone number. You'll win.

Retrain your mind, the only thing a woman can hold over you is her beauty, sex, kids and a emotional connection

If you've been with one beautiful woman you can get another

Sex is easy to attain in this sofom and Gomorrah society

If you have kids well

Emotional connection will wither away By starving it

 

[BaldingSoHard]

If you can go 90 days without calling texting peering in , block and delete them on all social media, block their phone number. You'll win.

Retrain your mind, the only thing a woman can hold over you is her beauty, sex, kids and a emotional connection

If you've been with one beautiful woman you can get another

Sex is easy to attain in this sofom and Gomorrah society

If you have kids well

Emotional connection will wither away By starving it

A book... write one. You're full of gems on this topic.

 

[Music Fiend]

If you can go 90 days without calling texting peering in , block and delete them on all social media, block their phone number. You'll win.

Retrain your mind, the only thing a woman can hold over you is her beauty, sex, kids and a emotional connection

If you've been with one beautiful woman you can get another

Sex is easy to attain in this sofom and Gomorrah society

If you have kids well

Emotional connection will wither away By starving it

I wish it was that easy bro. In theory its a1 but reality is contact has much less to do with taking away desire than we'd love to act.

The only thing I can say about the topic is to not fall into depression, but bust your ass to win at life and improve. Only when you have taken yourself to new levels in life will you look back in life and be able to truly hold no illwill. Hate, disdain, enyv, or jealousy will always keep you connected regardless of contact.

If you fall stagnant in yourself you will never get over them.

 

[TRUEST]

I wish it was that easy bro. In theory its a1 but reality is contact has much less to do with taking away desire than we'd love to act.

The only thing I can say about the topic is to not fall into depression, but bust your ass to win at life and improve. Only when you have taken yourself to new levels in life will you look back in life and be able to truly hold no illwill. Hate, disdain, enyv, or jealousy will always keep you connected regardless of contact.

If you fall stagnant in yourself you will never get over them.

Imagine a cup of dirty water. If u start pouring fresh water into that cup, things will begin to happen. First, the fresh water will be contaminated with the dirty water that's already in the cup. BUT if u continue pouring fresh water into the cup, eventually, the dirty water in that cup will overflow and will be emptied out.

In this scenario, your heart is the cup. The dirty water is the feelings u have for someone that did you wrong. The fresh water is someone new who actually values and respects your time.

The time it takes to get to a source of fresh water is what causes many to remain in a state of depression following a heartbreak. For those in this situation, i pray they find solace quickly.

 

[Music Fiend]

imagine a cup of dirty water. if u start pouring fresh water into that cup, things will begin to happen. first, the fresh water will be contaminated with the dirty water that's already in the cup. but if u continue pouring fresh water into the cup, eventually, that dirty water will overflow and will be emptied out.

in this scenario, your heart is the cup. the dirty water is the feelings u have for someone that did u wrong. the fresh water is someone new who actually values and respects ur time.

getting a source of fresh water is what causes many to remain in a state of depression following a heartbreak. for those in this situation, i pray they find solace quickly.

Real however, I think you have to make a large distinction between "moving on" and "getting over".

Im just saying that you can't truly get over until you have moved on. If getting over is the end result of adding enough water in the cup to dilute the dirty water enough to drink then "moving on" is the actual beginning of the pouring.

When you love anything, and it gets taken away you can't really just get over it. You see it all the time in sports, Jordan may retire from the game he loves, but he's not gonna get over being on that court competing just by not going to the courts or watching basketball at all. Dude is going to have to use his extra time to build something new for himself that stimulates him. Even then he will probably never be over the fact he had to leave the game, and wishes he could still be on that court.

Hell I got homies who graduated years ago and still never moved on from college or even high school, and that will always be the highlight or high point of their lives. Then I got homies who graduated but loved college or high school, and went on to move to another state that they found out they loved and walked into a career that changed their lives.

 

[TRUEST]

Real however, I think you have to make a large distinction between "moving on" and "getting over".

Im just saying that you can't truly get over until you have moved on. If getting over is the end result of adding enough water in the cup to dilute the dirty water enough to drink then "moving on" is the actual beginning of the pouring.

When you love anything, and it gets taken away you can't really just get over it. You see it all the time in sports, Jordan may retire from the game he loves, but he's not gonna get over being on that court competing just by not going to the courts or watching basketball at all. Dude is going to have to use his extra time to build something new for himself that stimulates him. Even then he will probably never be over the fact he had to leave the game, and wishes he could still be on that court.

Hell I got homies who graduated years ago and still never moved on from college or even high school, and that will always be the highlight or high point of their lives. Then I got homies who graduated but loved college or high school, and went on to move to another state that they found out they loved and walked into a career that changed their lives.

i understand what you're saying. but in the context of this topic, let us address how the thread starter is feeling. he is hurt. he is depressed. his stomach is in knot. he's all types of fuccked up. his mind is torturing him. he's seeing nightmarish images of his hearts desire absconding into the arms of another man.

now, how can we help this dude right now. how can we help him get back on track so he does not linger in the state he's in?

from my experience, new women is the answer. not just any woman, but one who u actually find attractive (not just physically). if u find that woman, trust me on this, u will forget the other person extremely quickly.

case in point, years ago i dated someone i was really into. things went sour. and i tried all i could to get her back. she wasn't having it. shortly after, i met a chick who spoiled the hell out of me. took me places. showed me a lot of things. before i met this chick, i would be constantly checking my exes facebook and other social outlets she uses. but when i met this chick, days would go by without me even thinking of checking those social outlets. within weeks (about 2 weeks to be exact), i was utterly emotionless towards her. i found a calm peace that i would have paid huge money for.

now, it is this same peace i want the thread starter to have and having a new woman in his life is the best way to attain that peace.

 

[MikelArteta]

BTW you never forget them, they just become someone else in your memory like a former coworker or your gr 8 teacher.

Every girl I had a substantial relationship with I still think about them sometimes just a quick thought. But that's it. Indifference!!

You'll know when you reach that point when you realize your not thinking of her, when you stumble across her face book or Instagram and there's no knot in your belly.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

This is where ur friends come in. And why you never go no contact or isolate friends and family when ur booed up with a newbie.

You should be handing out medipacks and murcin wimps with a crew on Battlefield. You should be getting ur toes and nails done with ur girls and slipping into that tight lil skirt to hit up the bars later on. You should be trying to get that 15 min mile down to a 10 minute mile on the track with ur friends. Having professional development parties with ur crew where ya'll pull credit reports, apply for new jobs and apply to university programs.You should be doing movie marathons and cooking with friends and planning a bunch of trips.

When ur heart's been killed the best thing to do is live as much as possible and enjoy every second of it. Being happy and successful is the best way to cure a broken heart.

 

[wet landscapes]

just getting over it has manifested itself into a depressing mix of apathy and low self esteem tho

 

[PaperEnterprise]

If we talking a crush...fukk that bytch. Lol. If we talking an ex one has been with for a while and it didnt work out, yea delete them from social media and what not. Stop feeling sorry and start dating...always a reason why it didnt work out. Dont date down, date ambitious women that arent so clingy n needy. If u dont wanna date, find women that are so involved in careers or school that yall fukk with no strings.

 

[MikelArteta]

I never said its easy, fighting addiction is hard.

I've been there checking social media everyday. Looking st my phone why don't they call. Visiting relationship forums, reading books, articles. Changing my status hoping they saw it, even forcing myself to go on dates and putting photos of me and some chick I didn't care about as my profile pic trying to make my ex jealous.

I've lied in bed, no appetite, watched romantic comedies I've done it all. Hell I once pinned for a girl for years and accepted friendship.

I've gotten over an engagement and also the girl I've loved more than any other girl so I'm just not speaking out of thin air.

You can text stare at your phone , pin cry, mope, try and reignite the fire.

Or you can go cold turkey institute the steps, fight through the low moments of the lemme just check her fb lemme just send a text, look to the future, have a positive mindset realize this I'd an opportunity to find someone if you desire that likes you for you.

You know what when I left my job earlier this year my manager wished me luck, she didn't beg me to stay they didn't CrY and mope over it nah next day my position was up. That's the way I view breakups now, thanks I wish you well now let me fill this spot that's now open .

I'm not going to sit around and mope over someone who discards me, I'm not going to be while there out enjoying their life nah IMA enjoy my life as well

Many times you don't even love the person nor even like them and you know there no good for you, its just the familiarity you always text, always call, spend time together. It's like when you travel to a different time zone it takes awhile to get used to the time difference because your so familiar with the time zone , so your body had to readjust.

I wish it was that easy bro. In theory its a1 but reality is contact has much less to do with taking away desire than we'd love to act.

The only thing I can say about the topic is to not fall into depression, but bust your ass to win at life and improve. Only when you have taken yourself to new levels in life will you look back in life and be able to truly hold no illwill. Hate, disdain, enyv, or jealousy will always keep you connected regardless of contact.

If you fall stagnant in yourself you will never get over them.

 

[toomanydoses]

Like a cancer cut her out of your life. Otherwise it'll metastasize into some fukked up issues in your head. Easier said than done but you gotta think for the future and not the present.