How to garner respect without having to buy it??

[johntheblackjew]

So this might seem a weird thread..but i was watching an interview of this guy on vladtv talking about suge..basically it comes down to the fact that suge wasnt really respected out of GP, he was respected because he paid ppl to fear him and deal with folks that disrespect him. Basically, the respect wasnt authentic because once you lose the money, folks will test and disrespect you and not give a fukk about you. That made me think of a lot of the folks that i thought i respected and often realize its usually borne out of the position they were in relative to my life...say, boss, someone physically stronger and having some type of advantage that i couldnt counteract. It wasnt necessarily THEM as a person that i held respect for but whatever they had that was advantageous over me...its posession, its money, its risk of physical violence. These are all things that you could lose at some point.

On the flip side, ive met some folks where i interact with them and without knowing much about them or their position relative to myself, i can automatically tell/feel they garner respect. Its almost like the aura around them and it was automatic. These are people that werent physically bigger than myself or richer or connected..its just SOMETHING about them. The funny thing about that is i cant articulate what it was about them, what tangible about them that i can put my finger on and say "this is the IT factor that makes me feel that aura of respect for them". It was just an automatic "dont mess/play games/disrespect (with) this person".

So basically thats what im curious about..... if anyone has an input on what it is about some folks that demand respect strictly of the strength of their personhood. If its a THING(s), then can you incorporate that in the way you move to get similar respect. Or is it just something you're born with? kinda like having a killer sense of humor/wit.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

Show some love and keep it real -playa fly

 

[Marzupial]

Those people that you can feel it are they thoughts. People don't believe in telepathy and think it's an super power but nah, telepathy is exactly that feeling you got when you were close to those type of people

People who got that type of vibe got inner voices who are always feeding them with thoughts of self esteem.Also this is how alot of women get attracted by man if only this nerds knew

 

[HearNoEvil]

Steps:

1. Stop caring about respect

2. Study body language

 

[Ezra]

Treat people how you want to be treated, and accept nothing less in return.

If your actions are specifically done to get respect, it’s never gonna work.

 

[kj614]

You may be looking for the wrong person to respect you.. You get respect by not only demanding it, but also giving it. If you are confident in yourself and you're respectful to others, anyone who doesn't respect you does not matter.

 

[GreenGhxst]

I think it comes from how authentic people are with their feelings and how comfortable they are in their own skin